I am a Catholic woman. I divorced a year ago and am remarried. Does this make me an adulteress? Will I go to Hell if I don't repent the remarriage?
Please don't say I can't judge. Just say what you believe.
2006-11-28 16:18:23 · 19 answers · asked by bullgirls12 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Divorce
31"It has been said, 'Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.'[f] 32But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery. Matthew 5:31-32
2006-11-28 16:20:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
Seriously, I am trying to decide if you are a troll, (since I have heard that Troll Hour has arrived) or if you are someone who has really not talked to a priest about this before you remarried. If you are not a troll, then it follows that you have not been going to church and that you were married outside of the RC Church. Otherwise you would not be asking the question. You can see a priest and possibly get the first marriage annulled. And then you can marry in the RC church. Or if the Church will not give you an annulment and you are really bothered by this, you can swim the Tiber down steam and become an Anglican. Either way, all will be well.
2006-11-28 16:30:17 · answer #2 · answered by tonks_op 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think the Catholic church believes you are an adulteress if you divorce and marry again, but I don't agree with them. If you are miserable or abused or having to bear a spouses' infidelity in a marriage, do you really think God would be angry if you got a divorce and found a better mate? If God wants us to be happy, He probably isn't going to damn us for taking steps to find happiness.
2006-11-28 16:29:41 · answer #3 · answered by Rainfog 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hell is not a place of burning, firey torment as you have been taught. If your first husband did not commit adultery than you were not free to remarry but God will forgive you if you sincerely ask him and you realize that it was wrong to do so. It is important that you begin to learn what the scriptures really say and not just what the church teaches. It is a sin not to draw close to God yourself and get to know the kind of person he really is and it would be very sad if you lost your everlasting life because of it.
2006-11-28 16:29:28 · answer #4 · answered by Sparkle1 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No, it doesn't make you an adulteress. God sees the heart. Why would a loving God send someone to Hell for seeking happiness and love? Surely a kind and loving God desires these things for us. Jesus showed love and forgiveness to those considered unclean and sinners in his day, he showed that the Kingdom of God is not about the rules and rituals, but loving God, and neighbor.
2006-11-28 16:30:31 · answer #5 · answered by keri gee 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
What does your priest say?
Well, for the Orthodox Christians, a second marriage is admitted, although by no means encouraged. The bishop has to give his blessing for the second wedding. If there is no second wedding, then, of course, it's adultery. I'm not familiar with Catholic canons, sorry.
2006-11-28 16:34:25 · answer #6 · answered by todaywiserthanyesterday 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are already remarried, so it would be a poor choice to "repent" this marrige. You are now bound to this man. Be faithfull to him, and work on your marrige, don't let it slide (I'm for sure not suggesting, in any way, that I know what happened to your first marrige, that is between you, him, and God) I don't know the situation of why you split with your now ex, but if it was sin, then repent, and God will forgive you. Don't leave your new husband though. And no, you do not have to worry about going to hell for that. Jesus took all our sins with him when he died for us, so we don't have to earn our way to heaven! :)
The only way to be seperated from God forever, is to reject that his son, Jesus, died for our sins.
Please, please,please pray about this!!! Don't worry about special words, God wants to hear your heart! So tell him you're struggling, and that you need his peace. I'll pray with you, if you'd like. Contact me. Better yet, contact Him.
2006-11-28 16:36:24 · answer #7 · answered by Firm_Cross 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yep. according to the Bible you're an adulteress ... according to Jesus' own words even.
who can know if you'll go to hell or not. i suppose if you believe you'll go to hell that's where you'll be. if your spend the rest of your sinful adulterous life feeling guilty and shameful you'll be in hell already.
so question is ... which do you Love more ... your husband or your religion?
2006-11-28 16:30:19 · answer #8 · answered by nebtet 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You do need to repent, but if you truly put your faith in Jesus, you know he already paid for this sin. Ask HIM for forgiveness, not some priest in a booth.
That's part of being a Christian, you stumble. But learn from it and move on walking in Faith this time. Where does your husband stand?
2006-11-28 16:25:41 · answer #9 · answered by healsr4f 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
According to the "rules", it depends on WHY you are divorced. If your husband broke faith with you, and refused to repent/reconcile, then you are free of him. Good luck with your marriage.
If you left your husband for the other man, then the new relationship is adulterous, even if you waited to have sex with him until you were actually married. You would have broken faith with your first husband.
Only you and God really know what happened with your first marriage.
2006-11-28 16:23:49 · answer #10 · answered by MamaBear 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋