Moving in with boyfriend?

Question

What are the rules of engagement regarding living with a BF? Am I suppose allow my BF to take care of all expenses or are we sharing the expenses? I have never lived with anyone before. I would ask him, but I want outside opinion before I discuss it with him. Thanks

Answer 1

This will need to be discussed because every situation is different. My husband and I recently got married and before that we had been living together for a year. He does/did not make enough money to support the both of us so I pay/paid my share. In fact, I actually make more than he does, so I did/do pay more, which is fine. One day he will make more than I do b/c of the industry he is in. In our household I pay all of the bills and he gives me his paychecks because he is terrible at those sorts of things. If he paid the bills our electricity would probably be shut off right now, whereas I actually enjoy handling the financial matters. You will have to figure out what type of financial arrangement works the best for you. Has your boyfriend offered or implyed that he will pay all the bills? I think that you should at least buy groceries or something even if he insists on paying the rent and utility bills. You should ask him what he wants to do because if you don't do it now this could become an awkward situation down the road. (What if you blow all you would-be rent money on something else and then he expects half the rent for example?)

Answer 2

Clean up after your self and help with expenses. But you may want to keep receipts just until you see if all works out. Don't take over ALL bills, just do your part to help out. It doesn't hurt to cook every now and then. Take this opportunity to see if you two are going to be more in the future. It is a whole new ball game when u are exposed to each others more personal living habits.lol
Good luck!

Answer 3

You make up your own rules. Unfortunately there is not any generally accepted handbook. But I would discuss all concerns and get them ironed out (including who does the ironing) prior to making any moves. I would propose looking at paying your percentage of the total household income (for instance if he brings in 60% and your share is 40% then you pay 40% of the total expenses) Good luck.

Answer 4

You absolutely need to discuss it with him...It can work both ways, but the communication must come first. Thats communication in all things, because without it you are both making assumptions. Just say, "how is this gonna work with the bills and groceries. How does he want to do it". Just be casual about it.....If it wants to pay for everything let him, and start a savings with what you are not paying out in rent.....

Answer 5

DON'T MOVE IN WITH HIM UNTIL YOU'RE MARRIED!!! Living with a man is something very special and sacred that should be saved for marriage only! My cousin moved in with his girfriend about a year before they got married, and guess what? They're no longer married. By moving in with him, it's almost like a test marriage. This is not okay, and it will only lead to unhappiness. It's like this: First you move in with him to see how that goes. While your at it, you might as well have kids to see how that goes too, and soon your raising a family, to see how that goes, and pretty soon your whole relationship will be a test without the commitment of a real marriage! If you need to save expenses, move in with a few of your girlfriends or something, but don't move in with your guy until you get hitched.

Answer 6

It's between you guys.
Communication is key in a relationship, so you should feel open to talking about anything with him. Get used to being comfortable because you'll be living with the dude.

Just talk about it.
I live with my bf. We split rent down the middle, he pays the bills (water, trash, cable, etc) and I do all the chores (laundry, dishes, clean house).
It just depends how you guys want to work it.

Answer 7

well when you move in with someone you should wanna help them with the bills, well cause he is your bf maybe he will take care more of the bills and just give you the ones that are so not that expensive

Answer 8

I share all expenses with my man and i Have since we moved in. We share love and lives and bills

Answer 9

for live-in partners, both should share in the expenses.everything that you would have on your own can be kept by you same with your boyfriend but when it comes to expenses by both of you, you two should give equal amounts.

Answer 10

Don't move in with your boyfriend if you don't trust and value him enough to freely discuss this without outside opinions. Get your own place and wait for marriage.