Do long distance relationships amount to anything??

Question

Alright, I started dating this guy about two months ago now. Everything has been good... really good up to this point. We are both in the military, and now he has just been relocated about a thousand miles away from me. We have both decided that this isn't something that we just want to give up on, but I am hesitant. I really care about him, and I know he does too.... I guess I'm just not wanting to get in deeper just to get hurt more. So, if any of you out there have been in long distance relationships, please let me know how it played out for you.

Answer 1

The saying goes: "Absence is to love what wind is to fire. It extinguishes the small but enkindles the great."

Answer 2

My relationship lasted 2 years and 11months to be exact and it worked. He was in the military however, since you both know where each other are coming from it should be cool... Communication is key due to the absence and you guys not being around each other. As for any long distance relationship technology has advanced, theres instant messanger, email, web cams it can work if both are willing but once one piece to the puzzle gets lost its hard to make it work depending on the reason for the downfall. I cant stress how much communication is key.... it can make or break that relatiohship..... Im me if you have ques.... Good luck

Answer 3

Simple put... 90% of the time... they don't work. Why? Because time together plays a very large role in how a relationship developes. Most of the time, they work out if put on the back shelf. Meaning, they agree to date while apart, get whatever they need to get to get by... (i like that saying...LOL) Agree to stay friends, but I'd advise not trying to hang on. Giving thought to how often you'd actually see each other is the determining factor. Is it something you can live with? And how does he feel. Like I said, not impossible... but still very unlikely to be successful in the long run. Only you and he will know. Nuff said... Caz

Answer 4

Long distance relationship seems so nice at first but there are a lot of things distance can not bridge. I had been in one, I was happy at first thinking it will work but when we got together what we thought we have in common wasn't there. So I got hurt because he wants more and the sad part of it, he did it via email, he didn't even call me to tell me so it was even more painful. But we are still friend and I learn my lesson and will not do that again.
Long term relationship is not good not unless one is willing to give.

Answer 5

Yes, it worked out for me because of some key elements.
You need a few things to make sure the relationship works out.
1. communication. You must agree on a way to communicate that works out for both people. Talk about your expectations- how often do you expect the person to call? Email?
2. Trust. You must trust him.
3. Eventually, you will be near him or her.

Also, you want to examine your relationship and make sure he doesn't have any flaws that would damage the relationship further down the road-
Check out this article i found called "How to Identify the Early Warning signs of a Disastrous Relationship"
http://wehow.ehow.com/how_2004116_identify-early-warning-signs-disastrous-relationship.html

Answer 6

It is hard to say because it all depends on eachother whether or not you are willing to continue this lond distant relationship and can handle the fact of being apart from eachother at long periods of time!! If you both care for eachother and this is meant to be then it will work out in the end!!

Answer 7

i imagine your taking a large style of economic strikes. i in my opinion wouldnt do all of that for romance a lengthy distance. i recognize your going to imagine it truly is cliche: stay in college :) easily, tis your best guess. dont get stuck up in females and make your grades wade through. end college and then come across a significant different on your element. that appears to be like the placement in any case. and attempt a community relationship..i'm hoping all is going properly :) p.s. I examine the total ingredient ;)

Answer 8

i was in a long distance relationship once.
i moved away the summer before my senior year of high school. my boyfriend and i broke up, but then decided to "go out" again, despite the distance of about 2 states. it worked out generally well. i mean, it sucked not being able to see each other but just talking to him a lot was good. but i didnt trust him too much. he would flirt with other girls and stuff, even make out with them, bcuz there was no way of me finding out... or so he thought. so it didn't work out.

i think that long distance relationships work out if there is trust, and if there is loyalty to one another. and its best if you'll see each other eventually, bcuz its something to look forward to!

& as for you not wanting to get more involved bcuz of the fear of getting hurt, think of it this way. what if this guy is a fairly right guy for you? but you dont get deeply involved, bcuz of that fear. well, you'll never know what couldve happened with it. just go for it girl! sure heart break stinks but thats what friends are for! to help ya get over it lol.

yahh. im done :]

Answer 9

My fiance and I actually shared a long distace relationship for 2 years, and we are more in love now than we were then. Its hard, but when your finally together every moment spent apart is well worth it. It makes the relationship stronger. and when you start to lose hope, just remind eachother of how much you love eachother. And if your meant to be together, you will find a way to be together. It worked for me and my fiance.

Answer 10

well, i was in a girls only chat one day. (i'm not one who goes into chat rooms) and this guy started talking to me. i gave him my msn and he introduced me to this friend of his. he and his friend live in the states and i am in canada...1000 miles away. to make a long story short, we have been together for 2 years and are getting married as soon as he gets back from kuwait. it takes a lot of work and communication. but if you find the right guy. it works!