boyfriend or husband?

Question

what do i do- my boyfriend and i have been together for almost a year and its getting serious. he is the only guy i have been with and not sure if i want him to be my only before i settle down - i do love him and want to be with him but again i dont know if i want him to be the only one--HELP

Answer 1

You are definitely not ready to settle down yet. If you were in love with him, you would know you didn't want anyone else. There is nothing wrong with wondering though, better now then after a divorce. Take your time, sounds like you need to get out there and date a bit first. You don't have to rush into anything, tell him you are not ready and want to see others for awhile to be sure. If he loves you, he will wait for you to be sure.

Answer 2

Well if you not ready then don't rush. And plus you only have been together for a year not really long enough to determine if your ready to settle down completely. People real colors can come out at anytime soo just be sure before you make any lifetime commitments.

Answer 3

I never caught your age dear.
Age can play big part in all this.Esp when you said its getting serious.
If I were you,let him know you want to go back into dating,or either that,just be friends.
You diffently need to play in the field for awhile.
You need to see what else is out there,.for you.
Than again I have been single for 4 yrs now,never did get married,only because I wanted to be sure I was settling down with the right partner only after I had time to experiment with others.
Hope this helps...take care :)

Answer 4

Chose one or the other, you cant have both. Besides that a year is NOTHING!! You shouldnt be considering marraige until at least 2-3 years together. If you are really that unsure, than take a break from the relationship, but expect problems when you come back or even a break up. Dont expect him to understand.

Answer 5

Let me rephrase the question for you, in a manner that will put your plight in a different prospective.

Your are in the process of deciding if you want to enter into a committed relationship. You have met a man you say that you care about so deeply (i.e. love) that you could consider spending your whole life with him.

The problem you have is you feel you might miss out on having men who do not care for you use your body as a substitute for their masturbation habits. Either that or you feel that a loving relationship is not enough to overcome the giggles when you tell your future friends that you've "only" been with one man.

I wouldn't want you to endure any future humiliation, so my advice is to throw away your current loving relationship in favor of future uncertainty and meaningless sex.

Answer 6

If you get it right the first time then why bother digging through the rubble. If you love him then stay by his side, just as it is hard to find a good woman these days the same is to be said for men. If it feels right follow your heart and let it guide you.
-NmD!

Answer 7

All I can tell you is that Ive been out there and been with a couple different men because I didnt know who was the one. But let me tell you if you have a good man, keep him because you will have a wretchedly hard time trying to find someone better....there arent many good men out there anymore.

Answer 8

You need to decide what you feel in your heart before you continue in this relationship. If he wants to be with you and you dont want to be with him he's goning to be the only one to get hurt. Or vise versa. I think you really gotta go with whats in your heart and if you still can't decide what you want then you need to be alone until you do decide.

Answer 9

The guy should dump you immediately.

You just aren't marriage material.

Answer 10

Follow your heart. Don't make any rash decisions you will regret later.