Is going out with a person who isn't the same race as me, ok?

Question

I'm African-American w/Native American. I'm moving to a new town and starting high school there where i'll become the minority. (The town has many Asians and Caucasians). I wanted to know if i should feel attract other races other than my own like Caucasian, Asian, and Hispanic. I've been watching shows where they discuss about mixed race couples and i sometimes get nervous, but i want to go out with guys of all race. My aunt on the other hand doesn't want her daughters dating no guy that isn't African-American and my mom is aganist that. My aunt can be sterotypical sometimes. I don't care for her influences when it comes to dating.

Answer 1

As long as this person cares about you and treats you with respect is does not matter what race he happens to belong to.

Answer 2

Hi. I totally can relate to what you're going through. You have to come to the understanding that this is your decision to make and not anyone else's. This is your life, not anyone else's. I'm a 23 year old Mexican-American woman who is engaged to marry a Green Eyed, Blonde Haired (obviously White ;-) man.

Since I first entered kindergarten the first boy I was attracted to out of many Hispanic boys and other minorities was a Blonde haired, Blue eyed boy named, John. The rest is history (in other words since then I've always been attracted to Caucasian guys). My older sister's the same way and is married to one. My younger brother's married to a woman who is 1/4th Mexican and the rest White, but she looks all White.

Just remember that it's your decision to make. I highly support you if you choose to date a Hispanic guy, a Asian guy, or/and a Caucasian guy. Don't listen to your aunt, after all I never listened to my past friends who are all about dating within my own race. True friends will support you and be there for you in good and bad times and not critique and definitely won't make fun of you for your mistakes and flaws.

When it comes down to it, looks don't matter nearly as much as spirit/personality matters. I was raised around people of all races and I know we're all equal.

DON'T MISS OUT ON DATING A GUY WHO'S WHITE (OR ANOTHER RACE OTHER THAN YOUR OWN) WHO HAS A SPIRIT/PERSONALITY YOU KNOW YOU CAN BE HAPPY WITH FOREVER JUST BECAUSE OTHER PEOPLE ARE TRYING TO INTERFERE. DON'T LET SOMEONE ELSE INTERFERE WITH YOUR CHANCE TO BE HAPPY. IF A GUY OF ANOTHER RACE MAKES YOU HAPPIEST, THEN BY ALL MEANS MARRY HIM.

Good luck. God bless. Have a very merry Christmas and a happy new year! :-D Go girl!

Sincerely,
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Answer 3

What's ok? What's Normal?
Normal can be over-rated.

Look around and try to asertain that mixed dating is not DANGEROUS .. which it can be in this "united" states.

Other than that .. good luck to you. Love can and will transend race boundaries .. and you know that you will have some trouble with your family and you will have trouble with some people.

To a certain extent you are already a child of mixed race... more of the same can't hurt.

My sister maried an African-American .we are white (not wasp) but still .. my dad hated it, they love each other, and live in a racially integrated community. dad got over it. some don't.

My old next door neighbor on the other hand loved a polynesian girl, at the time he lived in a racist part of the south .. he abandoned her, and now years later deeply regrets it.

so good luck to you.

ps.
and you are only still in high school .. much can still happen

Answer 4

You know what? You go with your heart. If you fall in love with some one outside of your race, give everyone the finger because its YOUR life, your happiness, your decisions and only YOU got to live with it!!! Love whoever you want.

We are all one race..the HUMAN race. Color should not matter. Race shouldn't be a priority. If you limit your race, you will limit your pickings and your potential success rate to find someone. You are african-american with native american. THAT IS A MIXED RACE!! You are the beautiful girl of a coming of different races joined together.

I am half cuban and chinese and proud to be a mixed race. Whenever I tell people what I am, they are dazzled by the combination.

Mixed race couples CAN be happy together! Dont let anyone tell you otherwise!!

Answer 5

I am biracial and I've dated the whole spectrum...blacks, hispanics, asians, whites. I wish people would stop thinking in terms of racial identity and recognize that there are good and bad guys in ALL groups so it's not about the skin color it's about who they are. If your aunt can't deal, she can't deal, but that's not what it's about. It's about what makes YOU happy so if you like a guy and he happens to be asian (and he likes you) DATE him. You might be pleasantly surprised

Answer 6

Oh well, look on the bright side, kids born with mixed races are usually more exotic and good looking ;P

Tell you mum that, maybe that'll cheer her up!

Answer 7

I bet your mum and aunt would be upset if some guy said to you i am not dating you because your balck....talk about double standards
if you like the guy why not, it would be far better to date a nice white guy rather than some horrible ***** who your only dating becuase he is black
if you like him you like him , tell your mum and aunt not to be black klu klux klan

Answer 8

It's ok i personally like dating hispanic guys and italian guys! shhh don't tell lol but no theres nothing wrong with it b/c ur both human whats the problem

Answer 9

I an white and have an Asian GF no problem as far as i can see. no bad comments or looks from anybody

Answer 10

These days it doesnt matter, especially when in the scheme of things worldwide your chloices of getting a good man are slim anyways... If he is caring, nice, intelligent, etc... go for it.. Might enlighten those in your family who are prejudiced...