There are a couple of guys that I talk to weekly, but I only call or text them once or twice a week. Should I call them or text them more or do you think that will turn them away?
2006-11-28 15:54:48 · 16 answers · asked by Kemma 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It depends on the message you say on text or call. Just play things coll, gal. Calling or texting too much leads them to think that your too needy, and make them back off. You didn't specify in your question if you like them, but I assume you do. When you call a man, don't say anything that will make him think that you are attracted to them... the rule is, send mixed signals to make them curious... and curiosity leads to attraction. For example, say you want him to see you for this week, because you sense that he has something to say. Here, your inviting him to be with you because, the fact, most guys have no balls to initiate things about relationship if they don't see any interest on YOU.
2006-11-28 16:10:39 · answer #1 · answered by Paw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it really bugs most guys when they feel a girl is calling them too much. The problem is knowing what an individual guy considers "too much," since this varies considerably from guy to guy (and also depends on how interested he is in you).
Here is a rule of thumb you can't go wrong with: Never initiate contact with a guy twice in a row. You call him, then wait for him to call you. However long it took him to call you, you wait that long before calling him again.
For example:
You call the guy on Monday. He calls you on Thursday. Don't call him again before Sunday at the earliest.
Or say you call him one day, and he doesn't call you for a month. Don't call him again for another month.
If he never calls again, HE'S NOT INTERESTED IN YOU. Let him go.
But on the other hand, if a guy IS interested in you, you will likely find that he responds to this system by calling you more frequently. But don't ever let him know that you were deliberately spacing out your calls to match his.
2006-11-29 00:09:35 · answer #2 · answered by spam_n_eggs_n_spam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the guy. I've dated guys that talk way too much to guys that barely talk at all. It depends on how much he likes to talk, and how interested in you he seems.
Just be careful. If you don't want to show preference for any one guy, don't give him the idea that you're thinking about getting serious with him and forgetting those other guys.
If these guys are friends, though, and friends only...You can talk to them more often, just not as much as your female friends, because boys generally get either annoyed, or the wrong idea, when their female friends text and call them a lot.
2006-11-28 23:58:44 · answer #3 · answered by Eri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys in general don't like to talk on the phone as much as girls do. There are exceptions, of course.
Once or twice a week is probably fine.
2006-11-28 23:57:40 · answer #4 · answered by worldview 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't be annoying. If they're good friends, you can talk a couple times a week but don't overdo it...it's better to wait a few days and have something to say instead of calling just to chat but with nothing to say. In my experience, my guy friends don't like to be bugged but they understand if you're going thru a tough time or something and need advice. If they're guys you're dating, just don't contact them too much...let them know you're interested but don't be desperate or clingy.
2006-11-28 23:59:25 · answer #5 · answered by Jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Text them. Personally speaking It seems like if you call them all the time then you are "checking up". Thats clingy. Just stick with texting for now.
2006-11-29 00:00:19 · answer #6 · answered by Stupid White Bastard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a double-edge sword. If you call to nag, no. if you call to flirt YES!!! also talk about like sports there into. (i like football soyou you would talk about like the Bengals-Browns game) BE sure you actually know what ur talking about. it gets kinda confusing trying to explain what the difference between a field goal and a punt
2006-11-28 23:59:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Guys do not like to talk that much.
Give them some breathing room.
2006-11-28 23:57:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you call/text too much the guy will get pissed off or prob watse his minutes make sure hes not the the ticked off easily type of guy if not go head.
2006-11-28 23:57:32 · answer #9 · answered by Thrills 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a rule of thumb, you may call once for each time you have sex. More often than that and it is clingy and annoying.
2006-11-28 23:57:12 · answer #10 · answered by S h ä r k G û m b ò 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋