my parents are driving me crazy!?

Question

Ok, heres short of it.

My parents are divourced. I live 2 weeks dad, go to mom for 2 weeks. I have been doing for 7 years. But recently, my mom and step-dad have been invading my privacy. Over at my moms house, i have nothing to do. My neighbor hood isnt exactly mty kind of people. So I seek refuge to my computer.

I just came back to my moms sunday to find that my computer was hacked by them. They took out my password, took out some files, removed my old anti-virus, firewall program. And added Norton. It tracks everything. They even removed my Administrator status on the compter, so i cant install, remove any programs, change default programs, or any other Admin tasks.

moreover, this new Norton, blocks a lot of my programs, AIM, YIM and a few of my games that i play online.

I asked them tonite if they could fix it real quick to allow me to use them. they pretty much ignored Me.

I have been avoiding them since i got here, cuz i have been beyond pissed over this. They crossed the li

ne.

Im 16, and currently with out a job.

I wish i could buy a notebook. I want one, and it would be better, but as this time, pretty hard to do.

And i havnt done anything to them.

and about to be 17 very soon.

There wasnt anything on my computer.

My sister was always whispering to my mom about stuff. And pointing at me.

I had a password on my acct. they went to great lengths to remove it, cuz it was nearly impossible to crack.

So what ever she said to them, pushed them over the edge. And.....yea, pretty much it.

Answer 1

WoW !!

thats some upsetting stuff. My dad did the same thing, well almost. We share computers but i just have my own log in and stuff. I installed a YIM and micro. media player. Not only did he delete erase my log in to the computer but he erased EVERYTHING.

Parents have no sympathy when it comes to invading privacy.

avoiding them is a really good idea for now... yelling back at them and complaining about everything that they did wrong might just make things worse.

I decided that i would solve this problem by buying my own computer with my own money so that it would be mine. That way my dad will have no reason at all to check my stuff PLUS, he wouldn't know how anyways.

Hope everything gets better for you.

Answer 2

Your parents just love you and want what's best, as corny as it sounds. I know you are the very oldest you've ever been in your whole life right now, so to yourself, 20 seems pretty old, right? But it's really not, in the grand scheme of things. Your parents realize this, and they're just worried you are going to head down a hard path. They know that 20 is awfully young to get married, even if you and your BF have been together for 2 1/2 years. As for moving in with your BF< if your family's religious beliefs dictate that you don't move in until you're married, then don't. But that shouldn't stop you from moving out and living by yourself, or with a female roommate. I don't think they would object to that, and then you can have a little more privacy to give adulthood a try. Do you think maybe you could take just one or twocollege classes, just to see if it's for you? That would make your parents happy, and also it would give you a chance to see if there's anything in college that might interest you. That would make your parents see you as a mature young woman who at least weighed her options and gave college a try. As for "needing" college, I won't lie to you- it's not for everybody. I know a couple people who didn't graduate from college, and they're making more money than I am, whereas I sit here with my Bachelor's Degree in Communications, answering phones for a whopping 13 bucks an hour. However, I am very proud that I'm a college graduate- I think it shows a certain strength of character when a person has a college degree. It doesn't make me any better or worse than someone who didn't go to college, though. I think what's important is to start thinking about what you might like to do as an adult. If your passion lies somewhere that college won't really help, then go for it, but I do wish you'd at least go to college for a semester before you make up your mind. And if you and your BF truly love each other, marriage can wait. Maybe your parents wouldn't object to a long engagement...? Good luck, and I hope you find your bliss!

Answer 3

well i dont know how old you are so im not sure how to answer this question. But if you are not of driving age then i would pretty much say that there isn't much you can do. If you are of driving age get a job and get your own computer and internet service. Tell your mother that you feel like you can't trust her because she has invaded your privacy.If she expects you to do whats right then she can't be standing over you all the time. What she did was really messed up i know i wouldn't be having that if i were you. Im sure she just wants to make sure your not doing anything wrong. If you have nothing to hide then ask her why she is doing this . she wouldn't do this unless she was trying to figure out what your doing on the computer. maybe she feels like your hiding something like talking to people or looking at porn etc. you need to sit down with her and have a heart to heart. telling her that you feel let down by this invansion and ask her if there is a solution you two could come too. If you want your mom to treat you with respect and like an adult then you need to have open communication with her. if she doesn't want to communicate with you then just move out when your 18 i did it. start saving now buying toasters etc. good luck

Answer 4

First of all, how old are you? If you're young, they are probably doing this as a protection. You have no idea how many sickos and psychos are out there! You will completely understand when you have children of your own. I know that when my kids are old enough to be on the computer, you better believe I am going to block certain sites from them. Your parent's are looking out for your best interests, you need to believe that.

Second, have you been doing things on the computer you shouldn't have been doing? Maybe they found out and that's why they are doing this now. They probably dont want you to have your stuff protected by a password so they can see what you do at any given time. They are your parents, they have a right to do it.

Trust me, they really are probably just trying to protect you. They probably saw one of those shows on the news lately and got freaked out about all the psychos talking to children.

Answer 5

Sorry but, if they did ALL THAT, they found things they did not like!
Second, it is their house, so you are stuck with their rules!
Third, be thankful for having such a mom and step dad. THIS SHOWS that they TRUELY CARE ABOUT YOU. If they did not, they would not be so nosey.
One day you will ge a grownup and living on your own, your own computer. So forget the hurt now, be thankful for your parents. Many kids out there are on their own with no one to watch over and protect them.

I was one of those kids. It really sucks!!

Answer 6

You never said how old you are or if you had done something on the PC that they would go to such extremes to prevent you from doing the things you ise to do on the PC.... To give you a real answer I would need to consider the above... I think they were a little extreme to do that to your PC without talking to you first... if you were doing things online that was a no-no... as a Parent I would have first gave my kid a chance on there own to stay away from whatever... do you feel like they don't trust... treating you like your 2yo... I agree !!!!!!!!

Answer 7

Did they buy you the computer? Do they pay the internet bill or you? Maybe you need to sit down and calmly talk to your parents about the way you are feeling...yes you are a male and that may be hard for you to do but if you wanted to be treated like an adult then you need to act and communicate like one.

Answer 8

I'm sorry that's a big pain in the a**, I know. My parents did the exact same. All you can do is try to backdoor your way in to remove the programs they put on by yourself or save up for your own laptop. Talk to your parents about how it's affecting you. Actually parents probably won't take it seriously so try to SHOW them.

Answer 9

You didn't say how old you are. Maybe they think they are doing you a favor by monitoring what you do online. Is it truly your computer or its it something the whole family uses? Maybe they think it's theirs and they just allow you to use it and so they feel justified in doing what they have done.

Answer 10

Thats messed up..you should go put a lock on the fridge and cut up the curtains! J/K there has got to be away around what they did sorry parents are such a pain in the ***!