I am 25 years old but I've never had a boyfriend. Never dated. I don't think this is normal. I'm not ugly but I'm not fine either. I'm skinny and flat chested (Is that why?). Since I was a teen, a majority of the guys who have shown interest in me have been bad, too old, bums, perverts, men who were mentally ill etc. The normal guys my age who showed some interest in me never asked me out. The few times I gave a guy my number, he never called. One guy I was talking to online never wrote to me again.
How do I feel happy about my situation when so many girls all around me who are my age and younger are dating and getting married? How do they meet their guys?
Please don't tell me "You just haven't found the right guy yet" or "A man doesn't complete you". I just want to be like everyone else. Besides, I'm lonely as hell and I feel like time is running out!
2006-11-28 15:32:55 · 20 answers · asked by jj 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Believe me you are normal. I'm your age and I never dated and never had a boyfriend until a few months ago!!! I met him online in a chatroom and we started chatting from there. He was living in Ukraine and I was in the U.S. but now we just cant live without each other!! I am now living in Ukraine with him. We love each other so much!! trust me hun just be patient. Dont try to be like everybody else cuz it wont make you happy. take your time, they have a saying here "if you rush things you ruin them". Good luck hun.
2006-11-28 15:42:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, the initial answer to your question is NO. You do not need a man to complete you. What you need to do, is find things in your life that you enjoy doing, & make you happy & feel good. And then, perhaps find groups to go to which other people go to or have started, & join those groups. You need to be careful in life these days when joining certain groups though because there are a lot of weirdos out there who prey on desperation. Maybe gather up some of your single friends, male & female, & take a singles cruise together! Whatever you might be interested in, there are groups in your general area that other people have the same interests which you can meet! You're young! Don't be in too big of a hurry. Quality is quite worth the wait! And don't think Prince Charming will be found in a bar! That would be the worst place to search! I'm 47, & have learned by experience so trust me sweetie!
2006-11-28 23:47:58 · answer #2 · answered by charlotte659@sbcglobal.net 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No you don't need a man, but it would be nice to have one. There are many famous people who aren't with someone. Though I completely know how you feel about everything except I'm only 22. You just feel happy about yourself by doing what you love. I know it's sounds cliche, but you find love when you least expect it. Don't go looking for it and let it happen naturally. Don't rush into love either because it would only end up badly. Just be happy with yourself and be happy with what you have. Not all guys like girls with big chest and besides those guys who only like girls with big chest only want one thing, so yeah. If you want to talk to me just email me or IM me. Good luck and I hope you all the best finding the man of your dreams. He's out there and one day you will be together you just got to be patience that's all.
2006-11-28 23:52:41 · answer #3 · answered by just another girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That sounds so sad. I would tell u the same I remind myself of. Let someone come to u. Keep an open mind and an open eye to recieve this person. As far as bein lonely, enjoy the time alone. For someone that is constantly in a relationship, having someone around all the time can be annoying. Have u tried a hobby that u enjoy? U may have to much time on your hands and that may be allowin u to worry about being alone. 25 is not a bad age and bein flat chested has nothin to do wit it. I kno some guys that dont care about the chest.
2006-11-28 23:40:02 · answer #4 · answered by Just Ask 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No you dont need a man, but you may want to try something to help get yourself notice a little more. Dont act to desperate nor sleazy you will only attract the wrong guys. Try at work or school rather then night clubs dont set for high standard nor low just someone with common interest and go from there
2006-11-28 23:47:47 · answer #5 · answered by PhillyDude 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time running out because you have no man or time is running out for your to meet a man you had me till that statment . i think it is awsome that a man has not been the central focus of your being i have made some real bad choices and gone out with the kind of men you have been avoiding God bless you time running out sounds like you are making great use of your time learning to be happy on your own. after my last of many failed relationships that left me feeling destroyed i took up with my gal pals ,worked out started writing and i am so happy . being in a great relationship i hear is very gratifying and i will give you some suggestions on how to hook up but i would like to tell you that you came this far and if you can go the rest of the distance and learn how not to be lonley with out a man and get out in society and have a butt load of friends hobbies i can gaurentee the right one the one you are waiting for is at the Gym or the library the dance class or the voleneer org that you are not yet in. bless your heart and hope when you do go on a date you take your time before you give your body and heart because you already are on a great path and knowing what you want and waiting for just that will keep you from selling your self short and to meet the right one go on alot of dates take your time to get to know them .now for my pattented secret look directly at one male you think might be worthy streight in the eye and smile your most brilliant abundant and generous smile and vallah you will get a hi and a number soon ps the flat chest bit it wont matter to anyone IMPORTANT if it doesnt matter to you im as flat as they come and dear i get hit on just getting gasoline at a station! learn to do something that makes you feel great about yourself i bellydance and that impowers me and really makes me feel great about my self bless your quest
2006-11-28 23:49:54 · answer #6 · answered by dancfan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time is not running out, all those people who have married too young will be divorced by the time they are in their early thirties, so have confidence flat or not. Get a makeover, buy some new clothes, smile alot and make eye contact. Believe in yourself and your man will arrive, probably when you least expect it!
2006-11-28 23:38:31 · answer #7 · answered by Serious 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are 25....time is NOT running out honey....I wont repeat all the cliches....but i will tell you that my best freind did not date or have many bf's....she was convinced she would never have anyone.....then when she was 37 she met and married a wonderful man....She would tell you....Dont give up and dont be discouraged....it will happen if you want it to....JUst KEep the Hope alive and keep believing......When you least expect it....he will show up............
2006-11-28 23:38:17 · answer #8 · answered by Lrn'dTheHardWay 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that your doing just fine.At least the problems you have is yours,you had no man to help give you problems.So just be your self and the right Mr.Right will come along some day and sweep you off your feet.Then all the waiting will all be worth it'
2006-11-28 23:40:11 · answer #9 · answered by George K 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try finding new places to hang out so you'll meet a different set of people.
2006-11-28 23:35:55 · answer #10 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋