I'm 14 and have a bf, my mom thinks everytime i say i'm going to a friends house or going shopping i'm sneaking off with him uhh the bad part is i never have i've told her everything we only gotten to the peck on the lips and i dont want to go farther. now something has come up with my family because my mom at my age was having sex they all believe i am even people i thought would no better then that now i had made plans to stay the night at my best friends house and go bowling and get ice cream kinda like a girls night out her mom will be there to but my mom dont trust them or me I'VE NEVER EVEN DONE ANYTHING BEHIND HER BACK!!!!!! but she dont believe me what do i do and how do i get her to trust that i'm not lying 2 her?
2006-11-28 15:12:52 · 15 answers · asked by C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I try and talk and she dont believe the other mom
2006-11-28 15:26:56 · update #1
I think you need to have a rational conversation with her, and not the average 14 year old's screaming tantrums but a real talk. Let her know where you stand and if it is really an issue and you want to gain her trust maybe you can involve your friend's parents. I know that this may seem unnecessary but it is obvious that your mom is having a rough time with this.
2006-11-28 15:17:02 · answer #1 · answered by who said that? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her for a Mother Daughter time to sit down and talk. Ask her then what you have done to cause her to distrust you as much as she does. Remind her you have not disobeyed her and would not risk the punishment that may be put upon you. Tell her you are a clean cut girl, that you were raised right, that you will not do anything to embarrass you or your family. { Be sure to live by that too.} Remind your Mom you are growing up and someday you two will be good friends.
2006-11-28 23:18:56 · answer #2 · answered by Lore 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply ask her what you can do to reassure her... suggest that either you can call from the place that you intended to go or have the mother of your friend call. Or ask her if there is some other way that you can calm her nerves.
She's only concerned about you by the way. She obviously loves you and wants you to do well.
P.S. It would help if you used punctuation and capital letters. It's very hard to get what your question is when they are not used.
2006-11-28 23:19:12 · answer #3 · answered by mosaic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is trust that should have been established long ago,but its not too late.i believe you and i do not even know you.i love your standards.maybe you would make it easier on yourself by not having a boy friend,instead,just friends.legally,your mother is responsible for you.communication is the key.sit down with your mother and say mom maybe your right,tell me how not to mess up like you did.never change,always be the good moral person that you are.it was so bad when i was growing up that my mother would go with another man and my dad would go off with another woman leaving us kids alone.i would go to my friends house and i adopted them as my parents.they actually sat down to a meal like real people.
2006-11-28 23:27:55 · answer #4 · answered by m.w.meredith@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too young to have a boyfriend, period. Your mother knows this and she is probably afraid of what the boy will get you to do. Stop this nonsense and get with the books and drop the boy. You are too young and you have pleanty of time. Now is time to try and get educated so that you can have a decent life for yourself.
2006-11-28 23:16:19 · answer #5 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
parents love to jump to conclusions. lots of times they feel that they don't want to be outsmarted so they end up saying you were with your boyfriend. lots of teenagers do this so they want to let you know that they know what your up to (even if your not doing anything). if you sit down and tell her how you feel. there's lots of kids who sneak around but your being honest and open with her. she needs to give you credit for that. if she still continues then you'll just have to accept the fact that its going to be like that. if it bothers you so much, then stay single and start dating again at age where she thinks your responsible enough. there's no need to rush, you have plenty of time.
2006-11-28 23:57:18 · answer #6 · answered by truth hurts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well set her down and tell her how it upsets you that she dosnet trust you give her examples on how you have acted responcible and if she still doesnt beilev you let her drive you to your friends house and have your mom talk to your friends mom to clarify everything over time she might want to do it a couple more times but over time she will see how responcible you are and trust you more and beileve you
good luck and hope this helps!!!
2006-11-28 23:21:16 · answer #7 · answered by JOJO94 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sexy scorpio i have the same problem my mom wont let me have a bf since my older sis got pregnant but i still do have a bf , i think that you should tell your mom to talk to friends mom so that she can make sure that your aren't with him & maybe she'll trust you ;)
2006-11-28 23:20:16 · answer #8 · answered by Claudia L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is really tough. i think ur just have to keep doing the right things and never ever let her doubt u. i think she has trust issue and u really need to work at it.give it a few weeks and always stick to ur promises in no time i think she will be able to trust you.
2006-11-28 23:16:15 · answer #9 · answered by jessie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it seems the ideal solution would be to talk the matter again with her..
anything u do or say will not change her way of thinking..coz its already in her mind that u doing things sneakily behind her back..
try talking to her in a calm state of mind..
Gd luck.
2006-11-28 23:17:27 · answer #10 · answered by ½ L0VE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋