What are the most important topics to discuss in a serious, hopefully leading to marriage, relationship?

Question

This is in regards to my girlfriend, possibly fiancee, who says that I don't ask her enough questions and claims that I don't really 'know the real me'. This is a long distance relationship that's been going on for 8 plus years. We've seen each other quite a few times over the years, with her sometimes coming here and me sometimes going there. Tentative plans are for her to come here to stay until I have my time in where I work, and then we'll go from there.

Answer 1

important questions? Stuff like, do you hold any secrets that involve us? Pet peeves, like most have said, religion, n stuff.
Big things would be the honesty factor, can she or IS she willing to tell me the truth and nothing but the truth...or lie and keep things hidden for the sake of 'some things shouldn't be said' ..especially if it involves the two of you..personal ones are fine, but if she stole, cheated, killed, or did somthing that could effect the marriage if not heard on the basis of that philosophy..then that is a major bomb waiting to explode.
Also another big thing is just the communication and loyalty, what happens if ya'll have a big argument, would you leave and get drunk, would she not say anything for weeks, would 'we should have space' come up? That's important.

THEN, another important thing is the SMALL questions....because sometimes it ain't the blatantly obvious things that can ruin a marriage, it's the little things like:
Does she clip her toenails next to your food...or does she tend to complain about your etiquette. What does she expect out of you as a man? Do you have to buy her shiny things and diamond rings to keep her happy? IS she materialistic? IS she really laid-back, or have mood swings from hell. Course you find this out now with the relatonship itself...so others could just be the little idiosyncrasys that may pester you.....talk about those and find a compromise.
LIKE ME for example....I talk too damn much, and it annoys the hell out of my fiance (yup on that road too.) So we made a compromise to have her just cut me off or to LET ME KNOW when i've gone overboard and i'll just shut-up or sum it up. It's a bad habit but I like to thoroughly explain things....regardless if people comprehend or not. ANYWAY, i hope that helps, but that's all i got.

Answer 2

Children, Religion (major thing if one of you or both have totally different views on this), Money (does she expect you to bring home the bacon?) I`m sure there is more, but i think these are pretty huge.

Answer 3

Religion, children, politics, beliefs (not the same as religion), morals, dependency or independent, how you picture your future life together, education, parents (yours and hers), type of house you like, what type of pets you like. Just talk about the possible day to day living experience and you'll do fine.

Answer 4

i love asking my guy questions but he never seems to ask me enough so i made a game. for every question i asked him he had to ask me one back. we both leared a lot about eachother that way.