Summary- My b/f and I went out when I was an eighth grader and he broke my heart twice, just b/c he didn't think it was working. Then we went back out in the summer of my Junior year. I then broke up w/ him for another guy. A couple weeks later, broke up w/ the other guy for him. Then, indecisive me, broke up w/ him again after I cheated on him with a different guy that the first one, but I didn't tell him about it until recently (now that we are going out once again). After all of this he still loves me and he is like the best guy in the world and I don't know what I'd do w/o him and I plan on marrying him. But, he brings up a girl he made out w/ (and that's all he did), and I simply wanted him to agree that she wasn't pretty, and he didn't. I got upset and hung up. I know that was a little immature, but I don't talk about any past guys anymore and I love him so much. But it really bothered me that he couldn't tell me she wasn't pretty. I don't know how to get over my jealousy
2006-11-28 14:26:18 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe agree to NOT bring up past relationships, you will learn like i did NOT to ask a question you know the answer to. Count yourself lucky that he is honest with you. Better than a lie, especially when you know it is a lie. I always say..." I can work thru the truth even if it hurts, a lie however I cannot work thru." There will always be someone prettier, smarter, thinner, richer and so on and so on. Be happy with you!
2006-11-28 14:31:54 · answer #1 · answered by openminded 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're planning on marrying, this is going to be your first lesson. There are lots of pretty women out there and you are not going to be the woman he is ever attracted to. It's what he does with that attraction that matters. Do you want him to lie to you? Sounds like a decent enough guy. Did you find the men you were with unattractive? Does it take anything away from the way you feel about him? Alright then, enough said. Honestly--about everything--is the key to a kick a*s relationship. Trust me.
2006-11-28 22:31:41 · answer #2 · answered by donewiththismess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too much drama! She's pretty...she isn't pretty...doesn't matter. Drop the topic and move on. (With the history you have with this guy...on again, off again...it doesn't matter whose pretty.) You have control over your emotions and thought processes. Simply move on and don't let these emotions get the best of you.
2006-11-28 22:34:06 · answer #3 · answered by Serena M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is simple if i saw your b/f i would pat him on the back.. simply put you've asked him a difficult question and despite what he knew would happen he still answered you truthfully if you don't see the significance in that you are blind and he needs to find someone that will appreciate his honesty
2006-11-28 22:31:45 · answer #4 · answered by ox_777 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are too young for this Put more of your time and energy into your education. Once you get that you will have it long after you don't even remember this guy's name. There's pleanty of time for this stuff, take your time and enjoy your present age it goes fast and you don't get it back
2006-11-28 22:29:20 · answer #5 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
teach yourself how to controll your thoughts...the same way you supress guilt, and things you know are wrong but do anyway...eventually you get knub....you can do the same thing with all thoughts...supress them and they go away
Takes a very strong mind though....i do it all the time....you have to give yourself a few seconds to maintain composure too...never act on impulse
2006-11-28 22:30:14 · answer #6 · answered by Lek 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whether youre with him or not,face it there are pretty girlsout there.and if he chose an ugly girl to hang out with and people saw him with her then they saw him with you that might think dang he must like ugly girls.you wouldnt like that would you?so maybe you shouldnt think of every girl he hangs with ugly.
2006-11-28 22:33:32 · answer #7 · answered by starr67 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember that he loves you
2006-11-28 22:32:42 · answer #8 · answered by Truth be told. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop thinking that u own him
2006-11-28 22:27:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋