im 14 and want to live with my mom but i live with my dad by law when can i tell them where im goingto live
2006-11-28 14:25:11 · 16 answers · asked by allie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You can and should tell your parents those feelings at any age! Whether or not your wishes can be made reality are another issue.
Those decisions are complicated... and it's uncommon for the father to be granted custody so there may be good reasons behind the current arrangement.
Perhaps you could ask your parents to explain why you are living with your Dad and you can explain why you want to live with your Mom. If you all talk about things openly and with honesty, you can come to an agreement that works for all involved... and you will understand one another a little bit better.
2006-11-28 14:45:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will depend on the laws in your state. Have you talked to your dad about this? Does you mom know you want to live with her? If so she can go through the courts and request custody of you... but that costs $$$ and many parents are too strapped for cash to go through court battles. But you could at least talk to them about how you feel and why you want to live with your mom. If there are any safety issues involved- like abuse, or drugs in the home- that can make a move a lot easier. Have you spoken with a counselor at school? They may be able to help you with legal info on your rights.
Good luck!
2006-11-28 14:30:29 · answer #2 · answered by embi40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure how the family court works in America but if your Mum and Dad have a court order in place thenusually it stipulates that the current custody/access arrangement is to remain in place until a stipulated age (let's just say 16). If your Mum and Dad don't have a court order, then there is no authority stipulating the rules. You may find if you sit down and talk to your Mum and Dad about the situation, they may be willing to take your feelings on board... far better to discuss this with them openly to try and keep any animosity at bay
2006-11-28 14:32:45 · answer #3 · answered by Kble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I'm in the same position (but bit diff)
All i no is that u have 2 be 14 or 16 i no if its not 14 it is 16(my friend is 16 n she moved to her dads)....i live with my mum but my dad wonts me to move in 50/50 but i don't wont to and i don't know if i can still live with my mum if the law says that we are going 50/50
I hope i helped - thanks for the question by the way....ill be looking at the answers to
2006-11-28 14:31:17 · answer #4 · answered by Horse Lover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on which State you live in. If my memory serves me well, here in Texas, the last I heard was you had to be 12, and maybe at 11 they would give strong consideration, but my information is old, so it may be a lower age by now. God Bless you.
2006-11-28 14:29:43 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on a lot of things besides what you want. Does your Mom want you to live with her. Is she well and able to take care of you. Why did you Dad get custody. Talk to your Dad and Mom and see what is up. There are a lot of things you may not want to know, so be prepared to hear somethings you don't know about.
2006-11-28 14:29:38 · answer #6 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There may be a reason why you are living with your dad. Discuss the move with mom first in case she doesn`t know. She may not be able to financially care for you.
2006-11-28 14:28:07 · answer #7 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my parents are divorced to. im 16. i live with my mom, by like tradition and cause my dad is hella unresponsible. according to what i have heard you are old enough to make the decision yourself and you should tell both your mom and your dad. if it gets hella bad then youll go to family court, the judge will ask you and youll say whichever you want, and unless there are extenuating circumstances (like your moms a rapist murder, which i dont think she is) then you should be given to your mom.
just keep in mind this is hella serious and not to be joked around with, and to keep your story straight. this happened to me liek 5 years ago, and I told each parent what they wanted to hear. it turned out bad.
2006-11-28 14:29:28 · answer #8 · answered by Aryeh C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you actually feel bored and you miss your mom well you can visit or live with your mom for like a year or 2 months
2006-11-28 14:29:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In most states it 13, have you tried talking to them? I know its hard not only for you but them. It sounds like you know what you want, but I don't know all the cercumstances. Good Luck
2006-11-28 16:30:11 · answer #10 · answered by Sonja S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋