I am a 24 yr. old full-time college student, and my boyfriend and I reallly care about each other, so I decided to stay the night at his house. When I got home my mom was infuriated with me and threatened to take away my car and even kick me out of "her" house. She does not want me to be with my boyfriend anymore. I think she is treating me like a 15 yr. old, what should I do? Serious answers only, please!!!
2006-11-28 14:22:08 · 19 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
do you have a job? seems like your old enough to make your own choices and also understand the consequences of your choices. I say get your own place. Follow your God given conscience and do whats right for you. your mom has lived her life now its time for you to live yours. you seem to be a good responsible person therefore your mom has taught you well.live and learn. peace be with you.
2006-11-28 15:04:47 · answer #1 · answered by blahblahblah21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are still living at home at 24, she has a right to say who comes there and who doesn't. And you need to tell her when you won't be coming home so she doesn't worry. But she can't say who you can see elsewhere. Who is paying your college tuition? Who pays for the car and whose name is it in? Do you pay her rent or live there for free? If your mother is still supporting you, she could stop the payments and take your car. She can ask you to move to your own place, too. At your age, you really should have your own place, anyway. You are an adult. Get your own place, pay your own tuition, buy your own car, and then you can choose your own boyfriends. If she's treating you like a 15 year old, maybe it's because you aren't acting like a responsible adult. Frankly, if you can't afford to move or pay your own way, you should not do overnights elsewhere until you graduate. See the guy during the day at his place and come home at night. Respect your mother's wishes for now. Otherwise, you are biting the hand that feeds you.
2006-11-28 22:51:32 · answer #2 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, it's gonna be hard if you rely on your mom for financial support to fight this. The general rule of thumb is if you live under their roof you have to follow their rules. I'm assuming you already argued and she still said no. You are 24, she shouldn't have control over your life, so if she doesn't let you live like an adult you'll have to move on on your own. I think you should get a job and move in with a friend (get an apartment together or something), possibly your boyfriend if you think your ready.
2006-11-28 22:30:21 · answer #3 · answered by Nick T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I moved out when my parents tried to give me at 10:30pm curfew..at age 25!!I am 28 now. If the car is registered in her name, she can take it away. Talk to your Mom. Wait until you are both calm and you can reason with her. Just explain you are an adult now and there are certain things you will be doing that you did not do at age 15. If she dislikes your boyfriend, agree to meet him away from the house. If this dosent work, the only thing to do is move out, but NOT in with your boyfriend.
2006-11-28 22:45:11 · answer #4 · answered by eastcoastdebra 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At your age your mother shouldn't be telling you how to live your life. You are still living in her house though and she has the right to some rules. Did you call and tell her you wouldn't be home that night? No matter your age, if she expected you home and you didn't come, she was worried. You should try to find your own place soon or move in with your boyfriend.
2006-11-28 22:28:12 · answer #5 · answered by prarierosebud 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Latin: your parents has the rights to decide in were yourself
needs full responsibility & act manture enought were they agree
upon the boyfriend's behavorial pattern and since family dont
know about him ! go ahead also talk with them or just move out
plus find a place like appartment first but make sure that he'd
can afford rent ,reasonable job ect then you must finish college
but take it one step at a time ok?
2006-11-28 23:00:16 · answer #6 · answered by toddk57@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, you are a grown up, so I hope you do have a job and pay your mom rent (at least then you would have a say-so). She was probably just worried about you, did you tell her where you were? I`m sure she loves you very much, just talk to her! You will always be her baby, you know! Once you have kids, you`ll understand....
Good luck!
2006-11-28 22:51:11 · answer #7 · answered by Roxie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you that thought of moving out and have eliminated that as an option. But honey, you gotta find a way. Some way. I would tell you to sit and have a good chat with her, but that's not going to work here. This is all about a control issue for her, and this is not for you to fix.
Good luck to you.
2006-11-28 22:28:00 · answer #8 · answered by donewiththismess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have a talk w/ ur mom. U need to tell her how u exactly feel and listen to her. I hate it when parents threaten their "adult" children. But u know what, they have good experience in life. They might not know how to express their feelings, but they really care. Don't be stubborn, just talk w/ her and work things out.
2006-11-28 22:45:59 · answer #9 · answered by fldrod 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF you want to do what you want to do ... then MY suggestion is to MOVE OUT OF YOUR MOTHER's HOME and start living on your own -- buy your own car ... and PAY your own bills!
As long as your Mother is paying for your College costs, your food/clothing/housing, and even allowing you to drive the car (which I am assuming SHE purchased) -- then you NEED to show RESPECT for the HARD work and SACRIFICES SHE IS MAKING to put your sorry rear end through College!
2006-11-28 22:37:03 · answer #10 · answered by sglmom 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋