How do i tell this guy that i dont like him, Him and I r just friends, but he doesn't want us to be friends, how do i tell him that i just dont like him at all only as a friend. i alraedy tryed it once telling him that i just don't like him but he thoght that i was just palying around with him! What do i do!?
2006-11-28 14:20:39 · 16 answers · asked by CrIsTiNa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him again and dont let him think there is a chance for something more. I can't promise you that your friendship is strong enough to be there when this is all done, but you HAVE to be straight with him.
2006-11-28 14:24:47 · answer #1 · answered by Pirate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you are in a pretty tough condition. If u directly tell him ...it will hurt him heaps load and u dont wanna do that to the guy thats in Love with you, plus u will loose him as a friend. Now it depends, how long have u been friends...is it worth loosing him as a friend? Do u care about him as a friend and dont wanna looose him? There are few things u can try ...the best would be ...to tell him that one of ur X bf came back to u ..u used to be in love with him and u r getting back with him and become his gf. And then lie and answer any of his related questions about ur X. The other thing u can do is, Just b strong and tell him that u r not looking for a relationship at this point of ur life...u wana stay with no strings attached, and if he pushes you too much he's gonna loose u forever as a friend. Then in time sorta stop seeing him as a friend as well. Then he's gonna move away from you in time and find somebody as his gf. But the question is... whether in time your feelings gonna change for him? And some point in ur life u r gonna think that u made a mistake by not becoming his gf, becasue, at least he was in Love with u....and he did care about u, once in his lifetime. Good Luck!
2006-11-28 14:40:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL, I went through the same thing I was that guy and I told her I liked her twice, and wanted to be more than friends twice, and twice I was shot down, You have to have a very sincere, serious talk with him, and tell him honestly why you want to be friends, try not to hurt his feelings too much, I like the answer "I'm just not ready for a relationship right now" its a good answer cus it doesn't really put blame on anyone. I was pretty heart-broken but I got over it and were still good friends, you just got to move on and if he doesn't then either give him a chance or get rid of him, if hes bugging you that much because your friendship is never going to be the same if neither of you is mature enough to deal with your feelings and just be friends. Not to mention it might get awkward.
Thats my 2 cents hope it helps ,
Good Luck.
2006-11-28 14:27:17 · answer #3 · answered by homer838 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cumbersome situation. Unfortunately you just have to be upfront, and though it may appear cruel, you just have to insist that you only like him as a friend and that such friendship will be in jeopardy if he insists to change the nature of the relationship. I find saying these things via a fairly sympathetic email to be easier than face to face. And perhaps, in order for his ego not to be hurt that much, you could also mention that it is just that you are not ready to be in a relationship and that there is nothing really wrong with him. He will keep hovering around you for a while longer and he will eventually give up. Regards!
2006-11-28 14:29:21 · answer #4 · answered by Ash 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are trying let him down in a way that your friendship isn't bruised (or his ego), then you should simply explain that it makes you a bit uncomfortable knowing that he can't get past the fact that the only relationship you want from/with him is friendship. You enjoy hanging out with him and spending time with him, but that it is strictly platonic. Let him know that the discomfort you feel around him may ruin your friendship and you are really trying to avoid that.
If he persists, then maybe you should keep him at arms length for a while.
2006-11-28 14:29:41 · answer #5 · answered by kit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him straight out. if he thinks your playing say "I'm NOT joking..." even if it does sound harsh. Better you do it now than later so he won't be as hurt. If fact, you can SAY that! Here's what you can say:
"Hey (insert guy's name) listen..I only like you as a friend ok? Nothing more. Do you understand that?" and let's say he says "Haha very funny" then you say what i said earlier "I'm NOT joking..."
and you fill in the end. the guy is going to be hurt or sad or both, so make sure to not make it sound TOO harsh, just make sure he gets the point.
2006-11-28 14:25:00 · answer #6 · answered by Miss Q&A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the old saying in my day was you can lead a horse to water but you cannot make him drink.go forward and do not look back and besides a friend would honer your request.in this situation big daddy needs to step in and tell him to leave you alone.my son did this plenty for his five sisters.
2006-11-28 14:26:46 · answer #7 · answered by m.w.meredith@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him again and start ignoring him. If he bothers you, then smack him in public and bring some of your guy friends to beat him up.
2006-11-28 14:22:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him straight out.. "Look... I like you as a friend and nothing more." If he doesn't get it through his thick bead... then avoid him and ignore him. One day he'll get the hint!
2006-11-28 14:25:06 · answer #9 · answered by ~dat~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make him understand that you just want to be friends. let him know you are not joking and you only see him as a friend nothing more.
2006-11-28 14:22:58 · answer #10 · answered by S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋