tommorow my wife and i could be finalizing our divorce pray for me as i don't want this and can't go on living with out her and our children together as a real whole family.i love her and i can't let her go.my life is miserable with out her and i'll never be able to love someone or fully trust someone again.i need your prayers because my faith is all but gone.i have asked him and begged him to help her find her way back.i'm depressed more than ever she doesn't know what true love is or she wouldn't have done this.
2006-11-28 14:19:41 · 9 answers · asked by Rob C 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I have been divorced, and I can tell you that I know personally that divorce feels like having your heart ripped out of your chest without anesthesia. It is the worst pain in the world.
I can also tell you that God allows us to make our own choices, good and bad, and even though your wife made a sad and unfortunate choice, God has not forgotten about you. You feel like this is the end of the world because it is the end of the world that you had with her and your children. Please, please trust me when I say that you will heal, your children will heal, and you will make a new world for yourself, with your children, and you'll even dream again, trust again, and be able to love again.
I am going to pray for you tonight before I go to sleep. I know how devastated you are, but I also know how God can take the worst of all pains and darkest of all nights and give us more than we could ever hope for.
Don't give up. You'll make it through this.
2006-11-28 14:29:27 · answer #1 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going through a terrible emotional ordeal, and I feel for you. Your children will suffer too.
You really need to let her go. May God fill the void.
I can understand how you feel about nevertrusting anyone again. Alone, there is no way you can bear this. Cry out to God, tell Him exactly how you feel, even tell Him if you feel you've been gypped. He understands.
Also, do you have a good christian friend you can trust not to preach at you, but just be with you and help carry your burden? Don't try to go it alone.
God bless!
2006-11-28 22:27:15 · answer #2 · answered by Mr Ed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because papers are signed does not mean everything is final. The only finality in life is death. God can still work in her heart even after everything is signed and recorded. If you lose faith in Him now you'll never know what might have been. If you need a Biblical point of reference in which to draw strength read the book of Job. God allowed him to be tested and he lost everything EXCEPT his faith and God rewarded him by restoring everything to him again. Run to God. Take shelter in His arms. Rest and recuperate through His healing powers. Don't try to figure this out yourself. Be still and know that He is God. Take this burden to His cross and (here's the hard part) LEAVE IT THERE.
You are in my thoughts in prayers. God bless & keep you!
2006-11-28 22:27:52 · answer #3 · answered by Pamela 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you cant convince her to change her mind theres not much else you can do
this has been going on for a while or you wouldn't be about to finalize the divorce
maybe you can plead with her to try counseling, but if you are a believer and she isn't, it may be out of your hands
i will pray for you, but don't let this, or any situation alienate you from the Lord
Romans 8:28
And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.
He doesnt say all things are good, only that they work together for your good
2006-11-28 22:27:17 · answer #4 · answered by SETFREEBYJESUS 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all go through things like this in our lives, the example that we must trust is that Jesus is always with us even when times get tough. I will and have prayed for you bro' KEEP THE FAITH, be an example of Jesus to your family.
2006-11-28 22:24:12 · answer #5 · answered by spanky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want God to make her come back? If she doesn't wish to be married to you anymore, there's no changing that. All you can do is go on without her. Think of this as a new beginning. You might as well be positive, as no God will change your wife's feelings.
2006-11-28 22:27:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatever you feel,stop...Just cause what you see does not mean it is happening in the spirit realm..God knows your heart and He knows your desires,,learn to trust Him..You may see papers saying it is over but our God deals with impossible situations remember, so you should rejoice in that and know He does love you..Your mind has to be healed so that when your wife comes home you will be ready to love her the way God loves you..I truly believe what God has put together no man can tear it apart..Rely on Jesus and know He has everything under control,,breathe,,you can do it..you will overcome this..go back to your father in heaven and ask Him for strenght..God Bless..
2006-11-28 22:34:34 · answer #7 · answered by I give you the Glory Father ! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't blame God, He gives us free will. I'm sorry to hear of the divorce, but begging God to stop it isn't realistic. Pray for her to come to her senses and for you to be the man God wants you to be. If you put God first and go to church regularly, it will be ok, Ive been there too.See if you can find a church that has a divorce recovery program.
2006-11-28 22:31:04 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will certainly pray for you. God knows the details -- in more truth and accuracy than either human party ever could -- so I don't need to. Please, please, please seek out a minister tomorrow. If yours is busy, find another one! Please talk to someone face to face for spiritual guidance and counsel. My praying for you is one thing -- and I will -- but having another man there with you upholding you in prayer is what you really need. Please find someone who can help. Call several different churches or parishes if needs be. Ministers are often extremely busy and overworked. This sometimes leads people to think they don't care. Nothing could be farther from the truth, in all honesty. Please phone until you find one who has time tomorrow to meet with you and pray with you.
2006-11-28 22:30:01 · answer #9 · answered by thejanith 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋