My grandma is old but her light bulb certainly isn't dim. Today she hurt my feelings really bad and I don't know how to react or what to do. We were just talking and out of the blue, she asks if I've been to the doctor. I tell her no. (My husband and I have been trying to conceive for 3 yrs. but b/c I have endomitriosis it's really hard and I've already had a miscarriage) She says in a real mean tone, "Well there must be something wrong with you. You can't even have a baby." What would you do or say?
2006-11-28 14:16:48 · 13 answers · asked by *Kacie* 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She knows about my problem. She's known since I was 15 when the doctor's told me.
2006-11-28 14:50:48 · update #1
Just tell her say grandma this is something i would like to keep between my husband and i. When we feel the time is right we will go to the docter. God will give us a baby when the time is right.
2006-11-28 14:19:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Hi , my grandmother was the same way for years about my weight the day she realy hurt me i was tierd of her crule and HORIBLE attitude the thing i did was stand up for my self i told her how she hurt me and some other things and you know what it worked she sent me a card appolgizing and now we get along so much better! so you need to tell her how she hurt your feelings and next time she does it tell her that you have a medical condition and it is very hard for you to have a baby but if she still continues to be very mean about it tell her it is none of her business and if she expects to see you again she better stop this now! and that your life is your concern! but that is only if she continues to be mean! hope every thing works out ! God Bless! and have a Merry Christmas! Good Luck!
2006-11-28 22:32:44 · answer #2 · answered by Heather F 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey move on... some old people... that still have their mind... still tend to be blunt and don't realize how things may come off... she's you grandmother... let it go... now if she continues to bring up the subject then I would set her down and plainly explain how you feel and for her to stop... that it's really nothing she should be concerned and you would appreciate her being more thoughtful about the problem.... that her being harse about it has hurt your feelings... hope this helps!!!!
2006-11-28 23:44:29 · answer #3 · answered by Sandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MY GRANDMOTHER WAS THE SAME WAY. SHE'S GONE NOW AND I MISS HER SOOOOOOOOOO MUCH. MY ADVICE TO YOU IS TO JUST TALK MORE WITH HER BECAUSE I DOUBT SHE MEANT YOU ANY HARM. I MEAN IF YOU THINK ABOUT WHAT SHE SAID, SHE WAS ONLY BEING HONEST.! AND EVEN YOU ADMIT THAT THERE IS SOMETHING WRONG. SO APPARENTLY YOU HAVEN'T TOLD GRANDMA WHAT THE PROBLEM IS. IF YOU TALK TO HER MORE, SHE MIGHT BE ABLE TO HELP YOU BETTER THAN ANY DOCTOR OUT THERE.
2006-11-28 22:36:33 · answer #4 · answered by misskashmere 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes your grandmother and im sure she didnt mean to hurt your feelings.but i would just say to her "you know what you said the other day ,there is something wrong with me gramdma and im mot sure when ill be able to conceive.chancse arew shell feelmore hurt than you did,not that ita about gettin back at her but truthfully she is your grandmother,she should have already known about your med.situation.mine would have.oh well,i guess families are all different
2006-11-28 22:26:23 · answer #5 · answered by starr67 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I am so sorry you have to go through that first of all, but then to have someone you care about say something like that is really crappy. I think you shouldn't speak to her and speak to ur mom? if u can and have her talk to her, so you don't have to go through that again and have your mom say something to her and let her know how she made you feel and make her aware of this situation.
2006-11-28 22:21:55 · answer #6 · answered by curious 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell grandma that her comment hurt your feelings. That you and your husband desire a child very much. Ask her to pray for you to be blessed with a child.
I am.
God bless you with the desire of your heart soon.
2006-11-28 22:20:10 · answer #7 · answered by Chris 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell her that her tone and comments were hurtful and unappreciated.
If she can't be supportive in your struggles, or offer any alternatives then she should just steer clear of the subject all together.
2006-11-28 22:20:33 · answer #8 · answered by gypse76 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
YOU NEED TO THINK ABOUT OLD PEOPLE AND THE WAY THEY THINK THEY HAVE ONE IN THE GRAVE AND ONE HANGING ON SHE WANTS THAT BABY AND DONT CARE WHO THEY HURT SHE DONT MEAN IT BUT THEY GET VERY DEMANDING AND OUTRAGOUS AT TIMES JUST SAY I LOVE YOU TOO AND WALK AWAY I KNOW IT HURTED YOU SO BAD BUT THINK ABOUT IT THEY HAVE NOTHING TO DO BUT WAIT ON THINGS TO HAPPEN THEY LIFE IS OVER ALMOST AND YOURS BEGINNING SO JUST SMILE SAY LUV YOU TO AND THEN GO CRY YOUR EYES OUT
2006-11-28 22:23:27 · answer #9 · answered by Judy D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be nice, she is just concerned. I would probably try to explain you would like one, but just don't know right now if you can, you might be surprised, she may offer you sympathy...
2006-11-28 22:20:22 · answer #10 · answered by lady bird 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋