im a good looking person who lets my insecurties control me. i hid under a blanket do go or get invited to parties, have only like 1 real friend who i dont tell him this stuff. im shallow, but for no reason, and i dont understand llife at all. i dont know how i get up in the morning or why i think im fine. serious help .thanks
2006-11-28 14:08:34 · 11 answers · asked by Jake W 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you mean can't control you life in your question. Honestly, getting a girl should be one of the least of your worries right now, you should be focused on fixing yourself. It seems like your scared to go out, you don't trust you friend, and you have no religion or beliefs to follow.
How old are you? I'm guessing a teenager, so you might want to ask you parents/family about what they believe, about life in general, I'm sure they went though a lot of the same things you're going through right now. You need to start trusting your friend more (it's worth the risk, especially if your already somewhat close), and does your one friend have other friends? Start meeting up with them, get used to meeting new people. Once you feel comfortable with yourself I think you'll attract a girl or feel an attraction towards one, and then you will be able to talk to her and tell her your feelings.
2006-11-28 14:20:03 · answer #1 · answered by Nick T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you are a very insecure person. have you ever had counseling for this? did you ever talk to your parents about this?are you an only child?sometimes when a child has to spend alot of time alone growing up then this creates problems later on.i would seek some good advice from a good counselor and i would find a solution to my fears.start by getting to know other good kids and get involved with helping others. go to church and get involved with youth groups. start enjoying your life. talk to god and ask him to help you.
2006-11-28 22:17:32 · answer #2 · answered by jbearbooboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume the 'can' in your subject line should be "can't", correct?
What you need to do right now is not worry about getting a girl, and work on getting your life in order. When you are kewl with who you are and like yourself and your life, THEN you'll be ready to think about being a partner in it with someone else.
Good luck!
2006-11-28 22:11:36 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, well life is like that , a emotional roller coaster and you have to learne how to deal with it. U should tell yourself be nice to ppl, ur hot, things like that to get ur insecurities down! Remeber ppl out there love you. Smile it's contagious :-D
2006-11-28 22:12:06 · answer #4 · answered by yourbiggestfan:) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers.
2006-11-28 22:11:09 · answer #5 · answered by Laughing Libra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you "know" you look good, then why the insecurities. You actually sound confident to me
2006-11-28 22:10:59 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Sweet Girl♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur a man, get a grip...i'm sure there are women who don't think your fine...find one of them and let her bring your big head back down to earth ;)
2006-11-28 22:10:54 · answer #7 · answered by Lek 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well try to complement urself sometimes.....just dont get conceded
2006-11-28 22:10:59 · answer #8 · answered by ~*Pretty Eyes*~<3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maby if u try to be open to your friend
2006-11-28 22:12:23 · answer #9 · answered by twixcj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
exactly don't **** up someone Else's life
2006-11-28 22:12:02 · answer #10 · answered by auetim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋