What do I do?

Question

Ok, just a month ago, I started going out with my best friend (fake name) Landon. We were best friends for a year before he asked me out and I really love him. But I'm not allowed to date and we aren't in the same religion. I know that sounds weird coming from a girl like me, but I put God first and I want to follow His standards. That doesn't mean I dont love my best friend. But I need to break up. I'm going to pray about it a lot. But I want other thoughts too. I'm scared of breaking up because I know he loves me, and I dont know if we will ever be friends again. Our friendship was strong. It would be too sad to break that. I also realized that I have my whole life to look for a boyfriend. Even though I always wished it wold be him. Should I break up? It's only been a month. I don't want him to feel like I just used him because I didn't know what I wanted.
How do I explain to him my reason for breaking up?

And sometimes I feel like if I stay with him it will risk my spirituality

Answer 1

If God loves you, he wont let you stop the relationship. God isnt against love, he promotes it! Dont hear a man words, hear God words of love, friendship and sincerity. If your Rev, mother or someone else told you that people of the same religion cant mix, that person dont follow that they say and "belive". God is love and kindness, think in that.

Answer 2

It sounds like you want to know the last chapter before you read the book. Just take one day at a time and be honest with God, yourself and others. If you are feeling that the relationship is not headed in the right direction then that is probably God prompting you. You really don't have to break a friendship unless it is influencing you to sin. If that is the case then run don't walk away. If it is suppose to be later on,and you are in surrender to God,then
He will create the circumstances to make it happen,if you stay in surrender to His will. We are to renew our minds daily in the Word and the Word is God Himself in the person of Jesus Christ.
Try not to figure things out that are in the future. You are just setting yourself up for self full filling prophecy. Let God reveal the future in His foreknowledge and He will only reveal what is necessary to know about even a moment from now. Remember sometimes the friendships are circumstances of God also,to use you as a vehicle to lead others to Himself.
God bless you and hold you in His arms.
the Rev.

Answer 3

If you break up with him you may regret it for the rest of your life. If you stay with him, he could lead you away from your beliefs. The bible does say you shouldn't marry an unbeliever, but it is only to protect you. I remember it also saying that the unbeliever will become holy if a believer marries him. Different translators say different things. From what I have read, it could be that it's looked down upon but not completely wrong. That's a toughy. Keep praying. You'll find an answer.

Answer 4

Tell him exactly what you told us.

Tell him that you love him and that he is your best friend. However, your commitment to God and to your faith is strong, and that you really don't want to become romantically involved with someone who doesn't share your faith.

Of course he will be hurt, maybe even angry. However, it's better, if this is what you feel, to stop now than to lead him on.

Tell him that you want to continue your friendship with him. He may withdraw from you for a time, but give him room to come back into your life as a friend when he is ready.

I recommend that you talk to a woman in your church about this before you go forward.

Oh, and pray to God over this and also for your friend.

Answer 5

well, just because you two are from different religions doesn't mean that you can't be together. you have to ask yourself if you really love this guy. if you do decide to break up, make sure he know that you really do love him and would never use him (there's really no easy way to say that) like that. tell him you just need to find out what you want right now. then, just find out if you two can truly still be friends after this. if not, then it might just be meant to be that way. i know it sucks and i went through the same thing w/ my ex (we broke up because of different reasons though). evrything will all be played out soon. hope this helps. good luck:)

Answer 6

I think you need to think of what's more important to you, the guy or the religion, I mean I know you follow the relgion and that's good but you have to think are you going to regret this in a few years

Just try not to get too involved either way. You;re young and should be open minded.

Answer 7

Be truthful, Be up front about your priorities of following God.
And maybe when you show him that God is such a priority in your life, and that going to heaven, obeying God is such a priority,
could be he will follow you --to be that committed also.
your choice is to follow your spiritual priorities or follow what your flesh wants.
i also had to cut off a man from my life that I loved more than my own life. we were married for 8 years. he divorced me to marry an unbeliever and It about killed me to let him go. but I did. and I will continue to pray for him, as I encourage you to continue to pray for this boy you are talking about.
Jesus states that if we love father, mother, sister, brother, anyone more than we love him, we are not worthy of him.
i encourage you to put Jesus first priority.
and be completely open and honest with all your conversation to this boy. keep praying for him.
and who knows what God will do, when he sees you are serious about following him, putting him first, and praying for this man.
God bless

Answer 8

I'm catholic and believe in the same thing. But if you really love him go back for him. Just make sure he accepts you, your religion, and your relatives. If he doesn't well thats just too bad.
I lost a girlfriend who thought I would reject her for her religion and now she doesn't want to see me because she thinks I'm going to tease her. If you really love him, just go after him.

Answer 9

ok you love him, he loves you, you always wanted it to be him, but your gonna ruin that because of a religion. sorry but to me i think that is pitiful, this guy is real, now is what matters, god only wants people to love and be happy, you seriously think god isn't gonna love you because you love someone else of a different religion, thats sad.

Answer 10

Trade nothing for your spirituality! Men come and go I am asuming that you are young because you say that you are not allowed to date. You have time for God to bring you the man that he has made for you. I will gurantee you that he will be a believer of your faith!