Her dad technically has custodial custody, hes doing a great job hes got her in school, paying for daycare and works 2 jobs...while I do nothing.. WHere I live there are no job, my parents cant afford to help me and I cant get a job really inless I get a car and I cant get a car inless I get a job! I feel like I am neglecting my daughters needs when she comes to see me every other weekend! I dont know what to do anymore.. I am walkin down a hard road.. Severe my rights with visitation or DO whatever have to to move and get a job so I can fight for her in court when our divorce rolls around! *Note- I am not a mean or violent person.. I like to settle things as easy as possible but with less pain a possible*
2006-11-28 13:40:01 · 8 answers · asked by thebrighterside2008 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
the last thing you should be thinking about is fighting for her. what you should focus on is of course getting a job, a place of your own.so do what ever you have to do to obtain a job. even if it is something that you are not really into, until you can afford a car, making your options better as to finding something you enjoy.i would never sign off on my child, just because you are not able to afford things right now. what matters is that you love her.
2006-11-28 13:50:05 · answer #1 · answered by here to help 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all, you have it quite easy compared to some mothers. However, I understand that does not make your postion any easier. It's still hard. This sort of thing happened to my brother. You have to think of your daughter. Do what ever it takes to find a job, even if it does not pay well at first. If you don't already do this, you could learn to cook good homecooked meals from a cook book, because there are a lot of easy ones out there. That way when she comes over, you would have atleast some sort of a job, and your house would be nice, tidy, and have the smell of home cooked food from her one and only mother. That way you might feel better about your self, and put a good impression on your ex-husband.Not that matter a whole too much, but you do want him to know you really care about your daughter. However I do not know the whole situation, so I'm sure you'll do a great job in what ever path you take! I hope this helps!
2006-11-28 21:45:43 · answer #2 · answered by BoBa QuEeN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT SEVER YOUR RIGHTS with her, you might regret it and then your life will be even more trouble. Do the best you can to find a good job where you can carpool, bike, bus, etc. Ask for state assisstance in any way you can. Share custody in the divorce cuz he will always be needed by the both of you in one way or another.
2006-11-28 21:46:00 · answer #3 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do u live in America?........huh?...I'm confuse. Unless you live in Haiti or Africa you should be able to get a job.. As a mom, unless you're on drugs and addicted, you have no excuse on not seeing your daughter. All I see right now are excuses after excuses. You sound like a deadbeat dad. It must not have hurt during childbirth 'cause the pain alone should have u catching the bus to get to a job. You're not a woman, at least not a strong woman like me.
2006-11-28 21:54:58 · answer #4 · answered by Tasha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do whatever it takes. If you have to move, you need to move. You need to better yourself so that you can be a better mother to your daughter and ultimately be better for yourself. It really sounds like you have a good father for your daughter so you need to count your blessings. Try talking to him and letting him know you want to make a better life for yourself so that you can be a better mom. You need to find a way to do as the other young lady suggested, carpool, take a bus, walk, whatever is necessary to make an honest income, and trying to get ahead. Do not under any way shape or form give up your rights as a mother. Your daughter needs you. She needs all of you, so you need to do some serious searching to make things better! Good luck to you.
2006-11-28 21:54:09 · answer #5 · answered by favrd1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a bicycle, get job and take responsibility for your child. Quit crying about it and be the adult.
2006-11-28 21:59:25 · answer #6 · answered by Leslie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you intend to be her mother do what ever it takes to take care of your daughter why does he need daycare if your not doing anything?
2006-11-28 22:03:10 · answer #7 · answered by morganslilone 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can't you get Allomony from him? Maybe child support, ya even if she lives with dad you could get child support.
2006-11-28 22:08:33 · answer #8 · answered by Jbcanfi74 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋