My son asked me today in the car if santa was real i told him yes he was. I didnt mean to lie to him he just caught me off gaurd. He is 7. Next time he asks should I tell him the truth??
2006-11-28 13:32:50 · 24 answers · asked by Mrs. Brown 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
I just answered a similar question. I have a 10 year old, a 7 year old , and a baby due next week. My 10 year old has asked me for about 2years now. He wants to know if I'm the one leaving presents under the tree. I have always said no. I know he now knows that it IS me doing this, but he understands that this is something very special that I am doing just for them. I know you might think, "well, i dont want him to think im a lier". But, as he gets older he will come to realize that you did this not because you are a lier but because you loved him dearly and want him to have magical memories of his childhood.
Kids are only kids once. Dont take his innocence so soon. This will come on its own. Your job is to leave the best memories in him that you can.
Believe me, he will not be traumatized or hate you when he finds out on his own. He will just think how wonderful you were for doing all this, and going out of your way just for him.
Good luck. One more thing. My mom still jokes about Santa with me and I dont see her as a lier. I respect her and love her even more for giving me something fun and joyful to look back to now that I'm grown up.
2006-11-29 05:27:03 · answer #1 · answered by prettyrockangel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friends all think I'm a mean mom because my kids are 10,7, and 6 and they have never believed in santa i always told them he was not real and they don't have a problem with it they know that christmas is a time for giving and we are lucky to be here to celebrate jesus's birthday. They never expect more than i can afford to give them and i think kids expect to much from santa and then you find these parents going out of their way to buy kids things just so they'll think it was santa. But i don't think its about lying to your son many people just have different beliefs and want to put a little kick in the holiday and that's fine but if your child is understanding why not tell him the truth either way kids love christmas. People keep talking about the magic of christmas being all about santa. But thats only because not enough parents teach their kids that the real bright lite of christmas is jesus and he makes all of it possible then people wouldn't have to lie to their kids. They would know the truth all along and be okay with it.
2006-11-28 16:33:21 · answer #2 · answered by Roni M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think it is lieing to a child if you don't tell him the so - call truth about Santa....
This is how i handle it...
I told my son if a child comes out and tell you he don't believe in Santa then it might be true for that child.... Cause Santa only comes to those who do believe in him...
The day he say I don't believe then Santa don't come again... You stop believeing in him he stops believeing in you!...
and the Santas we see in malls are his helpers cause Santa only comes at christmas...
He is 7 and christmas is the time of year he looks so much forward too..... He loves Santa and the spirit of Santa..
So who am I to take that from him.... We all need something to believe in!
2006-11-28 15:03:34 · answer #3 · answered by Lori M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People have such a small amount of time to be children and use their imaginations freely; make it last as long as you can.
Especially with the way the world is now, children are being forced to grow up and be stressed out much sooner than they used to be. Santa Clause is such a special figure in the life of a young child, and for a child to have something special to believe in to feel like their dreams are going to come true, it's a precious thing that shouldn't be taken away.
All children grow up and realize that their childhood fantasies are not true, but they do it on their own time when they are ready. Let him have his time to dream just a little longer, because once it's gone he will never get it back.
Trust me, childhood lasts for such a short time, let him have this for just a little longer.
2006-11-28 14:55:38 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he asks again, ask your son what he thinks and why and take it from there. It may just be a kid he knows saying that Santa isn't real and him asking you to confirm his belief that Santa is real. If not and he says he thinks he isn't real then do what you are comfortable with. Use the "Yes Virginia there is a Santa Claus" story if need be.
2006-11-28 13:45:03 · answer #5 · answered by matroshka73 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let him find out on his own. I know you don't want to lie, but Christmas isn't the same once you know Santa isn't real. You can always tell him "Santa is real as long as his is alive in your heart", or something like that. My sis did that w/ her kids. that way, Santa still came every year to fill stockings and it was fun, even though the kids were pretty sure he wasn't real.
2006-11-28 13:44:39 · answer #6 · answered by PT C 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It was not a lie. Santa is real and in anyone that gives. Never tell a child Santa is not real.
2006-11-28 23:24:14 · answer #7 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should tell him the truth...it's really not a big deal because I been known there was no Santa Clause when I was 5 years old. He's going to find out sooner or later and proably get amd at you for lying to him...so its better to tell him now :)
2006-11-28 13:35:34 · answer #8 · answered by queen_banana 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There's no right age but there is a right or a wrong way.
When he asked you, why didn't you reply with a question?
"Why did you ask that?", "What do you think?" etc
You should never lie to your kids but you should not have to be responsible for taking away the magic either.
He'll realise by himself soon enough. If it's done naturally you can continue the "myth" even when he knows it is one. When he gets older, he may reciprocate, as I and my siblings did until our parents died in their seventies. It's all about teaching the ethos of giving anyway.
2006-11-28 13:45:58 · answer #9 · answered by fidget 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is so little magic in this world dont you want him to have it a little while longer? Tell him if he doesnt believe then he wont get presents. My niece is 14 and knows santa isnt realy but still plays along. Its a fun tradition and this world has little to no magic left hes only 7 let him have it a but longer.
2006-11-28 13:42:08 · answer #10 · answered by mommysforever.org 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋