I have known this girl for two years, she’s 34 and I’m 30. She lives about an hour away. We went out a couple of times awhile back. First time she had an old friend get in the way, and they pursued a relationship. The second time she indicated that if I lived closer she would pursue a relationship but didn't want a long distance relationship. I told her I wanted to pursue it but she resisted, citing the distance thing. We kept in touch and emailed almost daily, pretty much excessively as many as 20 times a day (considering we both have office jobs, that wass pushing it I think). About 3 months ago I told her (casually) that I was seeing somebody. She immediately suggested that she was coming to my town and wanted to hang out for awhile. We did. She asked how things were going with the g/f, and I told her they were ok and that we were reaching the make or break point of the relationship. I asked her if she was seeing somebody, and she hesitated (what does the hesitation mean) before saying that she had been seeing somebody for a year. I told her I was happy for her. We had a nice innocent time together. On that following Monday I emailed her and said that I was happy for her that things were going well for her. It’s been a month and she hasn’t really kept in touch AT ALL, not like she used to. Any ideas on what her intentions were and what the heck she is thinking now? Thanks gals, I appreiciate it.
2006-11-28 13:31:44 · 5 answers · asked by kjhenkel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's basically "she didn't know what she had until she lost it". I guess she's doing good though because if she were a girl that was in denial of the fact that you are seeing someone, she would keep in touch with you as much as possible so that your relationship can work once again. But sorry to say, she seemed to give up and move on. I believe it's better off for you and her. You can't expect all girls to ask a man back, especially if you know that the man has moved on themselves and started dating once again.
That's the way I see it.
Sorry :(
2006-11-28 13:39:24 · answer #1 · answered by Cristina N 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry,I'm a man,she's playing you.You're her comfort guy for when she's not involved with anyone else.That's why she keeps you hanging by a string like that.I've seen i a hundred times before.You watch how her interest waxes and wanes with your involvement or lack thereof with another woman.If you speak of another,that's when she'll turn on and lead you on.Show interest and she'll back off.
You'll go through the same thing over and over again til YOU break the cycle.
I'm in a long distance relationship with a girl I met when I lived in another state.We see each other all of the time,but never play those games,but we're both a few years older than you.
2006-11-28 21:40:00 · answer #2 · answered by joecseko 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yeah sounds like she was using you to pass the time with. That's what sucks about Internet relationship problems and on line talking u have no idea what goes on when the monitor goes off. I feel 4 u. That was very wrong of her. Not all women are like that on the Internet but you will have a hard time deciding who is not. Dating in person is hard enough, but at least you can kinda detect a liar at our age. Good Luck.
2006-11-28 22:12:51 · answer #3 · answered by 2sexy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you didn't know what happened to her? you don't have to be a girl to understand the situation. you told her you are already seeing someone else that's what! the reason she came to see you immediately was to see if there is still some way that you could finally be together. but you already placed a period on her plans. so the best thing for her to do was to tell you that she is also seeing someone else, so she will not be embarassed and seem desperate for you.
you know, the secret to being able to get the girl you want is to be a good listener and to know how to read signs and situations and use them to your advantage. well, it seems you have not read properly the signs and signals that have come your way. but don't be expecting her to email you like before anymore. remember, you told her that you already have a GF.
2006-11-28 22:08:23 · answer #4 · answered by Coolitz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like maybe she was/is a bit jealous. When she found out you were seeing someone else, whatever you had lost the "fairytale" magic. Since you weren't exclusively sticking by her even though she kept you at an arm's length--she might've changed her mind. The fact that she has been seeing someone for a year, and not mentioning that...just gives credibility to what I think. :)
Good luck!
2006-11-28 21:34:33 · answer #5 · answered by Froggy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋