I got completely obliterated one night and my boyfriend trusted my best friend to take me home(he was sober) I apparently slept with him although I have no memory of it what so ever! I dont even remember flirting with him... My friend knows I would never have cheated on my boyfriend if I were sober or even slightly drunk... what do I do? Do I tell my man, even though I know he will stay with me, it will just cause 1000 problems or do I act like it never happend because to me it didnt since I dont remember it.. now that I know my limits and cant trust my closest friend, i know it will never happen again, but do i continue to feel guilty over this? I would tell him if I did it willingly but this was definetely a different circumstance- I am not even attracted to my friend- is this situation still "cheating"?
2006-11-28 13:29:47 · 10 answers · asked by smoksta_ko 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You'll live with a guilty conscience the rest of your relationship, honestly, it's already over now that you've done this. The best thing you can do at this point is to tell him, but I'd have a hard time forgiving you (I don't consider drugs/alcohol as excuses and take responsibility for stupid **** I've done on them). And yes this will cause a lot of problems.
Then again, if you completely don't remember, your friend might have slipped something in your drink, or some people just get that way (I never have gotten so drunk I completely can't remember the night). So you could call this a rape, then you would tell your b/f you were raped by your friend, and work through this horrible event together.
2006-11-28 13:44:00 · answer #1 · answered by Nick T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably did have sex with your friend but I am willing to bet it was not consentual meaning he raped after you passed out. Most rapes victims assailants are close friends. If he said it happend and you were sore the next day then you probably did, I suggest that one you make sure that your not pregnant and two that you tell your bf and third never ever see or talk to that guy again.
2006-11-28 13:49:44 · answer #2 · answered by montana_infantry_man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being drunk is no excuse.... BUt have you ever wondered if he is telling you the truth. Maybe your boyfriend had him make up the lie to test you and see if you would tell. Anyhow If you say he will forgive you and keep you then tell him and get it into the open and get it over with...
2006-11-28 13:34:20 · answer #3 · answered by Todd F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, that is not cheating. but it is rape.. your friend took advantage of you without your permission..
best thing you can do is file a report to the police and get this guy arrested.. otherwise, he will do the same thing to other girls.. and we don't want that to happen..
and yes, i would tell your boyfriend.. this is obviously an emotional situation and you need all the love and support you can get..
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2016-10-04 12:07:27 · answer #5 · answered by schugmann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is apparently slept with him, if he raped you, put his butt in jail.
yup, you tell him, std testing too
no need for guilt, just give your boyfriend a chance to kick the other guys butt if he deserves it and it sounds like he does.
cheating if you said yes, rape if you didn't
2006-11-28 13:35:06 · answer #6 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try to tell your friend that you werent flurting with him or her
2006-11-28 13:33:05 · answer #7 · answered by Vincen† 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alcohol gets blamed for ALOT of stuff it dont do.................think about it darlin.............
2006-11-28 13:34:21 · answer #8 · answered by Dale D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cant help u here
2006-11-28 13:34:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nice friend. xxx
2006-11-28 13:34:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋