How can I get along with my mom?

Question

My mother and I, all we do is FIGHT we can not get along I can't stand being around her for a long period of time..she frustrates me and always yells at me. I am 18 years old and she acts like i'm a kid and she never lets me go explore and learn new things. Everything I do is always wrong or not good enough for her..please help me find ways to get along with her

Answer 1

Move out and get your own place. Then, it's your rules.

Answer 2

you are 18 if you are not already in college you may soon be. You are at an age where all you can focus on is wanting your own independence. But look at it from your mothers point of view she has raised you for the last 18 years and now decision day is here. what you do when you leave the house will tell her if she's done her job as a parent. So in an blast of urgency to squeeze in every last bit of information she can give you before you dive into the world on your own, you will get. I would listen to her if i were you it's not such a bad thing to swallow your pride and learn from the mistakes she has made that she is trying to prevent you from making. Listen to her.

Answer 3

18 is tough because it is the transition age from child hood to adulthood. Listen closely, LEARN TO PICK AND CHOOSE YOUR BATTLES!!! Your mom can argue with you about anything she knows for sure but does she need know about everything you do? For instance, if she asks what you are doing for the day, you dont have to say, "Going bungee jumping", you could say, "Im gonna try some new exercises" or where are you going tonight?--I am going to grab a bite to eat and should be back before too long. I'll call if I am going to be too late. And you dont' have to have the final word. You can stop half of the fights you have with her if you learn to hold your tongue some of the time, okay, so try those things and If they work let me know.

Answer 4

Well...you probally frustrate her too!!!.....My daughter is now almost 22....when she was 18 we were in the same boat you are in.....You feel grown,,,,,she wants you to still be her baby girl....As moms we start to get nervous about the fact that you will be going your own way and what if you are'nt ready...and what if something happens....Moms want their kids to grow up and be independent but they have a little problem letting go of the fact that the kids are not kids anymore....That transition time is hard....sometimes the kids act like adults and sometimes they act like children ....sometimes mom see them as adults ..sometimes they see them as children.....
I use to tell my daughter...."I'm sorry....I will try to treat you like an adult...but I dont always know how to not be the "mom".
We get afraid that your going to "explore and learn new things" will get you hurt or in trouble....We just naturally want to protect....Just know that you love each other and its all a growing process......Be patient with each other....Its all about the love.....
It's all good!

Answer 5

You need to go to your mom and tell her that you guys need to have a talk about the problems that you are having. You two need to figure out where the problem began, that is the only way you are going to be able to resolve any problems you have. You two need to set a respect boundary and learn how to go to one another when there is a problem that one has. Be the bigger person, you are old enough to speak you mind (in a respectful manner) and let her know that what's going on is not going to work. That is your mom, she will always be there for you no matter what, so try to make it so that when she is there for you, its because not only are you her daughter, but because she wants too, and not because she feels obligated.

Answer 6

Tasha honey, you are her daughter. We want what is best for our children. You may not always understand how we feel. We are human, we make mistakes. We only get one chance at raising our kids. We want them to be the best they can be. No do-overs! Cut your mother some slack. Try to look at things from her point of view (just for a little while). I'm sure if you try that, you may understand where she is coming from. I know you are legally an adult now but you'll always be her "baby". Try to keep the communication between the two of you open. I hope the best for you. Take care.

Answer 7

Well, if you are 18, are you working? Can you afford to live on your own? She sounds controlling and or overprotective if she has never let you out to experience anything. You are living in her home, so you will be stuck with her rules.

Try thinking of her as someone elses mom, and tell her how her kid feels. If she refuses to hear you, move out on your own.

Answer 8

Me and my mother were in the same situation and the only way I found peace with her was to sit down and talk with her let her know how u feel. Let her know that u love her and u value her opinions but you are a adult and u think that its only right that she talks and treats u like one.

Answer 9

i was in that exact situation. what i did was compromise in a lot of situations and now that i am moved out i can say about anything i want to say. try expressing yourself in a different way. tell her " i want to talk. dont say anything until im done" if shes a good mom she will listen. chances are you 2 feel the same thing. during that time discuss anything thats on your mind. and when you move out someday, it will even be easier to talk to her bc she will realise how much she missed you.

Answer 10

Tasha your mom loves you its just a process that the two of you must go through. Its part of what helps her to let go and let you grow up and fly on your own.She doesn't want to see you make mistakes or get hurt. Its hard to let children grow up.She will always love you even if she hates your actions or decisions or the path that you choose.

Answer 11

Try living on your own that way you can see life isn't that easy and mom does know what she's talking about and she's only lookin out for u, probaly one of the most precious people in her life