Why are men not assertive anymore?

Question

It used to be that the man asked the woman out, but now the woman has to ask the man out. Men just sit back and relax while women do the work. I guess that is why I am single. I am just waiting for an assertive man. According to my friends and family, they say I have to go fishing and catch one and reel him in. I feel like Carrie from "Sex and the City" because I think of the question, "Is it the new fad for women to claim their man by grabbing one?" I am so frustrated by this. Assertive men, where are you?

Answer 1

Im right heree in the 559 and I am quite assertive , if i llike u then ur mine simple.,

Answer 2

I find both sexes being tacky and obnoxious in the way they try to court the opposite sex. Men are sick of the rude rejections that women today use. I once had a woman pretend to throw up when I asked her out. Practice the art of flirting. Do you give the men you are interested in any sign that you would say yes if they asked you out? Relationships are made-not found. Find some one you like and make a relationship with them. Don't wait for Mr. Right to ask you out. You have to kiss a few frogs before you meet your prince. Avoid a few frogs by helping yourself a little.

Answer 3

I don't think you will find too many 'assertive' men around. you see umpteen years or so ago, women decided they want equal treatments and rights to do things just like the men, well all those damn fools went and screwed it up for the next generation. Men don't need to be assertive anymore. there are too many hota$$'s out there throwing themselves around enough that the men don't have to reach out and grab you. Oh and remember the sexual harassment thing that came out? well that has its place in society for sure but men don't know when its ok to advance on women anymore for fear of a lawsuit. good luck finding the assertiveness you are looking for.

Answer 4

What part of the US are you in where assertive men are scarce? San Francisco? LA? I think you need to join the gym or seek a place where a strong-willed man would be... = ] ...It seems women's rights have overshadowed the comfort a man used to take in being dominant. Now a man doesn't want to be labeled sexist or accused of harassment.
Good luck!

Answer 5

I'm the same way girl.. As assertive as my personality is, i like an assertive man... The guy has to be the one to ask me out, he's the one who's gotta show interest.. Not that I'm not going to flirt a bit and toss some hints his way, but you catch my drift. Either way don't lose heart girl. I have a guy who's got it for me, and I love how obvious he is about it. Some guy will come around, see how great you are and make it known to you that he wants you bad.

Answer 6

we are around you are just not looking in the right places

i think i am assertive but i ask them to dinner first before anything else so i can get to know whether they are interested in a long term thing instead of a short one, but you still need to put yourself out there a little because if you meet knowing you have put as much into meeting as each other couldn't you just imagine a relationship where you both give as much and do just as much for each other

Answer 7

it particularly is a stereotype and a a million/2. in spite of everything, i'd choose to work out the stable dictionary that certainly defines men as being "dominant ( no no longer controling thats dommineering and insecure ) , solid personalitys , mature , have objectives in existence , assertive , trustworthy , have integrity , dont attempt to electrify human beings." you decide directly to understand who got here up with that? Patriarchal societies that needed to dominate and administration women human beings. and that i challenge the concept that honesty and integrity have something to do with masculinity, previous or cutting-edge. For one factor, being "dominant" and having "integrity" do no longer combination alright. in my opinion, I even have studied historical past for over 10 years, and that i stumble on that men have not particularly replaced a lick in over 2000 years. some men are female. some are male chauvinists. maximum are something in between. very nearly all men are approval-searching for of their very own way, which busts that theory you cutting-edge. the only factor that has particularly replaced is our concept of them. in spite of everything, i'm residing evidence that your generalization that girls human beings can not have an interest in mushy and worrying human beings is fake. i'm far from needy, yet i'm certainly agreeable and overly large. the effect? 7 years of a superbly chuffed and relaxing marriage. i think of you're grossly oversimplifying this.

Answer 8

Don't you no by not saying or doing anything you are sending the wrong message.They see you as being unapproachable or not interested in them.Don't set around to long and wait for MR.right to try to figure where your coming from because by then you will be to old to attracted any man worth having.

Answer 9

The woman doesn't have to ask the man out. She does so only if she wants to. Obviously you don't, so keep waiting. I wouldn't ask a guy out myself, and 99% of the time, I wouldn't want a guy to ask me out, either. Aren't there more important questions that can be asked of me?

Answer 10

approaching stangers and asking them out on a date, literally out of the blue, never works for me. that only works if you are good looking.

i've learned that the best way to get a girl interested in me is to be friends-first. she's gotta get to know me and learn to like me and love me.. then if a relationship is going to develop naturally, then so be it.