ok so my boyfriend is jewish but not like extremely so. but he doesnt celebrate christmas. but im sonfused, since the christmas season is coming up he shouldnt get me anything right? or should i get him something for haunakuah (sp?) i dont know what to do..... help?
2006-11-28 13:21:30 · 18 answers · asked by »-(¯`v´¯)--»CHELSEA«- 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
well both haunakuah and christmas happen during december so you should both get a gift for eachother. just the fact that its a holiday season is enough. theres no reason why you both cant enjoy the season even if you arent part of the same religion.
2006-11-28 13:27:50 · answer #1 · answered by god_of_the_accursed 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey, I'm a Jewish guy, and my last girlfriend was baptist. As you might notice, those are quite different from each other. What I would recommend is get him something for hanukkah, and he will get something for you for Christmas. Trust me, if he's any guy thats worth while, he'll get you something regardless. But you can both celebrate your two holidays, and explore each holiday together. I'm sureyour curious as to what hanukkah is all about. And if I know my people, his family will be very loving towards you being in their hanukkah celebration. Don't worry, and good luck. And by the way, Jewish boys are great, generous people. I hope hes no different
2006-11-28 15:18:55 · answer #2 · answered by jtrigoboff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, Christmas is not really a big deal in that it's not a Biblical thing (ie. Jesus wasn't born on Dec 25th, and there's no compulsion to celebrate His birth). Don't make a big deal of it. It is perhaps more important for you to understand your boyfriend's faith because it's where yours comes from. He should also look at your faith and see who Jesus is, outside of some of the crazy ideas Jewish children are told to scare them off Christianity. Perhaps you could buy him a New Testament and He could get you an Old Testament. Together you might come to the truth. Happy whateveryoudecide-mas.
2006-11-28 13:29:15 · answer #3 · answered by Josiah7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, the giving of a gift is a choice, not a demand. So he doesn't have to give a gift.
Secondly, he is Jewish, and from what you've said he obviously doesn't recognise it as a religious festival, just as a public holiday.
In regards to buying him a present, that really depends, as above, on whether you want to or not. Presumably you do, so I would give him a present before Christmas and Hanukkah with "Happy Hanukkah" on it so as to not cause offence.
2006-11-28 13:42:25 · answer #4 · answered by Bad bus driving wolf 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sit down with each other and decide. Maybe you give each other small gifts for both Hanukkah and Christmas, or he gives you a Christmas gift and you give him a Hanukkah one. Or you could forget gifts all together and set aside a day to spend specially, volunteering at a soup kitchen or doing something you love but never get the time to do.
2006-11-28 13:26:35 · answer #5 · answered by N 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what if your christian and he is jewish! Just don't talk about it with him. Say you are sick when he acts you on a date, so you can celebrate christmas with your family. Don't lie to your boyfriend, if you don't want to though. If you don't wanna, be honest with him. Tell him, hey, I celebrate christmas. I am sorry I can't go out with you that day and if he is really your boyfriend, then he will understand.
2006-11-28 13:27:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you could remind them that all of your children will be automatically be Jewish, because they will have been born to a Jewish mother. Second, your decision on who you want to be with has nothing to do with your extended family. I am guessing you are speaking of people like grand parents when you say extended. Simply tell them that this is a person that you love and he makes you happy. The only two people that have to approve of your relationship are you and your boyfriend.
2016-05-22 23:53:15 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one very good reason for people of different faiths to NOT date each other. You can avoid all of the holiday hard feelings!
As a Christian, I like Hannukah. Jesus celebrated it also (called the Feast of Dedication in the Bible). If you would like to get him a small gift for Hannukah, that is probably fine. Have him tell you all about the holiday, and how it is celebrated. Doing that may help him be open to listening about Jesus Birth, Advent, and Christmas.
2006-11-28 13:27:27 · answer #8 · answered by MamaBear 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go to a local Jewish bookstore/gift shop & get him a gift certificate.
Another fun thing to do, if you live near a Jewish neighborhood, during Chanukkah is...go walking through their neighborhood & simply look at the different Chanukkiah (menorahs) in the windows. Very nice & relaxing way to wind down an evening. Go for hot cocoa afterwards.
2006-11-28 13:28:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask him. Some like to exchange gifts others don't. If you both are uncomfortable with gift giving from Religious aspects just celebrate the winding down of the year and the wintertime.
2006-11-28 13:24:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋