My mom told me she hated me, and that was this morning. I am really sad now, I have been crying all day. Help, give me advice to help to get my mom to love me again. My sister got kicked out of the house and I am afraid that I will soon.
2006-11-28 13:19:51 · 12 answers · asked by April 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Listen hun, I don't think your mom hates you. I don't know her, so I wont say that she has any psychological problems or anything BUT sometimes we give off our anger on our loved ones because we know that they'll always love us no matter what. If you show your mom that you care, I think she'll realize it. Also I think you should tell her that you are afraid that you'll be kicked out too, The problem between parents and their children these days is communication, so try to talk to her and let her know how you feel. In the end of the day she is your mom, she'll understand.
2006-11-28 13:26:22 · answer #1 · answered by Princess P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hon, sometimes people do and say things in anger and whether or not this is what happened this morning between your mom and you I don't know...but if your mom said this with true meaning and given you have a sister who has already been made to leave the home...I would suggest that you try to have a talk with your mother to find out why she said this to you.
Try to keep the conversation non judgemental however, don't begin yelling or allowing her to yell...if she does this, simply tell her that you are trying to understand what you've done to make her feel the way she does. Let her know that you love her...that you want to do the best thing for both of you and that you've been upset all day because of what happened this morning.
Can't face her? Write it all in a note to her...everything that you are feeling, that you don't understand why she is upset with you enough to tell you she hates you...the entire thing.
Again, nothing judgemental, no "you're always so mean to me" etc.
If she still wants to act as tho you deserve to be hated...then leave her be for a day or two and try again when she's not so upset. Perhaps she had a bad morning, she has things on her mind that are bothering her etc. She may take these problems out on you unfairly so leaving her alone for a bit might allow her to cool down and then you'll be able to speak with her rationally hopefully.
Good luck hon, if you can't work this out on your own (but I think you are pretty smart and will get it worked out), then speak with someone that you trust...perhaps an aunt/uncle/grandparent etc. Your sister had different issues with your mom and you aren't your sister so try to not worry that the same thing will happen to you...
Take care!
2006-11-28 13:33:16 · answer #2 · answered by dustiiart 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor sweetheart. She doesnt hate you, dont' say that. What is going on? Can you calmly talk to her? When I went through stuff with my mom, I wish someone had have suggested trying to talk with her calmly when everything was settled down. If she sees that you are trying, she'll meet you half way. If you are doing stuff that you arent supposed to, you should try telling your friends no sometimes-exercise your individuality and self control. Try to make smarter deciscions by saying "If I do this, could it lead to a lot of trouble with my mom or at school?" I am not saying you will do it everytime you want to go out or whatever, but If you try to think that way some of the time then it may help to avoid some of the situations that set you and your mom in motion. Okay? And if you want to email me you can. Get a cold washcloth for your eyes and try to settle down a bit, okay love?
2006-11-28 13:21:47 · answer #3 · answered by Not In Kansas? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably said it cause you were being trouble or not. You gotta understand that shes your mom, when she gives you advice and you dont take it she probably feels upset. Just remember she was you not that long ago. Young, not knowing what life will bring. Its the same when your older except your not as young and you have more responsibility for others. Try to get along cause once shes gone your gonna miss her. Unless shes just a royal b. Try to put yourself in her shoes and maybe that will help. Good luck
2006-11-28 13:25:54 · answer #4 · answered by friendly advice from maine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is awful! How could any mother say that to her child? Did you have an altercation or a fight that could have provoked this? How old are you? A few more details please. There surely must have been something that happened between you two. I would talk to your mother, and be up front and honest with her about it. Tell her she hurt you deeply and you have been hurting all day. If she does not respond in a positive way then find a teacher or someone you could talk to or confide in because the situation could only get worse my dear.
2006-11-28 13:25:32 · answer #5 · answered by amber 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what to say to you except that I hope you're playing. If you're not though, I'm sure your mom doesn't hate you. It's most likely out of anger. You probably did something that she dislikes and she said the first thing that came to mind. Don't be sad though 'cause remember that Jesus loves you and that's more than anyone can ever love you. When she says she hates you, let her know that Jesus loves you. That'll probably piss her off but, it'll get her thinking.
2006-11-28 13:26:12 · answer #6 · answered by Tasha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well normally its a temporary thing, but because of ur sister's situation.... if i were you, i would think deep inside for the reasons as to why she might feel this way, and if you cannot, then try putting yourself in her shoes and seeing you like that. if you still can't figure out anything give me an email, but the best thing to do is identify the "problem" (even if its her) and then try to fix it...
good luck with that, really sorry.. :/
2006-11-28 13:23:38 · answer #7 · answered by The Russian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-04 12:05:51 · answer #8 · answered by schugmann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did not say it but something else is going on No real mother hates her child. I fear drugs are involved. Try to find out what is going on if you do not already know.Have a heart to heart talk with her. I am sorry for the pain that you are going through.
2006-11-28 13:25:15 · answer #9 · answered by Sugar 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm truly sorry to hear that =(
Well, you can try doing some house work without her asking you to, don't do things she doesn't like you doing, or just simply say I'm sorry, I love you. Hope that helps =)
2006-11-28 13:28:08 · answer #10 · answered by manny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋