well i had this sort of boyfriend for awhile it was kinda long distnace but he started putting less and less effort in as it went along. ireally loved himt ho, ive never felt love like that. weve finally broke contact, he moved up north after a fight we had and said he didnt wanna worry about anyone down here...so i stopped calling and its been 2 weeks. i keep havin dreams about him tho one was really vivid he was kissing me and i was saying i missed hima nd he said me too..and then he was like i have a gf tho, her name is somethin, and i was like are u lieing and he said yes i said why and he said cuz i dont want to be together...we cant right now. what should i think about that? i dont think ive ever felt love this deep. i had it bad for him and its just not going away, i dont want anyone else but him.. he said hed call when he had a break from work. do u think if he doesnt by a couple weeks that i should??
2006-11-28 13:16:07 · 5 answers · asked by krista22here 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Goodness Lady you have it real bad. Not to worry, time heals all wounds. It sounds to me like he broke up with you in a round about way, he was not mature enough to tell you straight out that he wanted to end the relationship. That's why you are having all these feelings and dreams, your mind is trying to help make sense of it all. DON'T crawl back to him by calling....big mistake.....lick your wounds....spend some bucks on yourself ( outfit, nails, hair, whatever you want ) get into your happy place again, he's NOT the only Fish in this Ocean and I'll bet you'll notice someone else ,giving you attention ,and treating you like you should be treated.
2006-11-28 13:31:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To get the pain to go away you have to accept that it's over and move on. Stop thinking about whether to call him or not. Focus on other parts of your life. Set some goals and go after them. Meet some new people. Make new friends. Meet new guys. Just get out there and keep busy. If anything, you should avoid talking to him. If you don't see him or talk to him after time passes, the pain will fade. If you keep talking to him or thinking about him, it will drag on for a lot longer time.
2006-11-28 13:20:38 · answer #2 · answered by pamgissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i generally think that ex-partners need at least 3-4 months complete separation from each other before staying friends can work. feelings are stil hurt, emotional wounds are still fresh, and neither of you will be in your right mind if you talk right away..
best way to get over your loss is to focus on other things in life.. family, friends, music, sports, school/work, etc..
don't call him until you have totally moved on.. otherwise, the pain will continue and worsen..
2006-11-28 13:24:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he dont call get over it. You cant live you life waiting for him to come back. Youve heard the saying, go with it. "If you cant be with the one you love, love the one your with. Just gotta find one to be with that wants to be with you. Life is hard enough without adding to the pain. Find someone that can be there for you. Good Luck
2006-11-28 13:21:05 · answer #4 · answered by friendly advice from maine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait for him to call. If you think he wouldn't mind you calling, then call after sometime. If he still likes you he'll call and if he does call, tell him what's going on in your mind!
2006-11-28 13:18:40 · answer #5 · answered by tia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋