is it okay to be with somone 20 years older than you?

Question

about 6 months ago i meet this really nice guy but im 20 and hes 40 what should i do?

Answer 1

Have fun... but be careful. This guy has a lot more experience and worldly knowledge than you do. Make sure you don't get used or talked into things that you don't want to do. And don't take it too seriously.... you don't want to go marrying someone who is so much older. And if you date this guy for a long time it will prevent you from meeting guys your own age. It's OK to be with him in the short term, but in the long term, well - you might be hearty and hale at 40 while he's an invalid at 60. Not much fun!

Answer 2

Some time it works sometimes it doesn't. You have a lot to consider. When you are 30 he'll be 50 and likely look like your grandfather. When you are 40 you'll be in your prime sexual wise most of his will be history. When you are 50 it's a good chance he'll be history or worse. But soem of them do work.
Another thing is of course the health issues, and soem times the younger side of the marriage become as old in looks and nature and personality as the older.of the two.
I don't think there would be as much difference if he was 60 now and you 40. But 22 is much too young. your're still living in your youth. I think your thoughts will be with young people after the rush is over.

Answer 3

Quite a stretch in the years department. I have several friends with this type of relationship and it seems to work out well. The 1 draw back is that when he's 60 you'll be 40 and etc. See where I'm going with this ?

Answer 4

I am in a similar relationship myself. I am 22 and my boyfriend is 38. It is not 20 years difference, but it is still a good difference. And I am having a wonderful relationship with him. I will not let go of him. It was hard for my family to take it in, but now it's a little bit better than it was. If you are happy, show it. Don't be afraid of what people may think or what not. It's your life, you are major and mature, have fun and explore... but before all that, make sure that he is serious with you. That he is not looking for that young body of yours and then disappear. Good luck !

Answer 5

You should do exactly what your "gut/heart" feels you should do. You know within yourself what you truly want. If there are serious problem with the age difference, you need to weigh the good and the bad-and decide. If it's no big deal, don't worry about it, cuz at the end of the night, the only two people in your bed, is you and him!!

Answer 6

In answering your question directly, yes it is ok
to be with someone 20yrs older than you, but
you have to ask the question to yourself , is it
okay to be with someone 20yrs older than u for
the rest of your life, as true marriage is for the
rest of the married couples life. He has a lot
more experience than you and some older men
tend to like younger women for just that , be-
cause they are younger. He has lived twice as
long as u and u will have to know if his heart
and urs are beating with the same rhythum, and
if so then the age factor has nothing to do with
it. So go ahead and get to know him just as he
will get to know u but remember the rest of ur
life committment with him and him with u.

Answer 7

I'm 22 and my man is older than yours. Go for it. You'll realize how nice older guys are with young women

Answer 8

What's age got to do with anything as long as you enjoy each others company, have common interests, and oh yea being love doesn't hurt either.

Answer 9

age is just a number. if you truly have feelings for one another, enjoy each others company, best of friends, it does not matter what other people think. think of your happiness. how do you feel inside? if you are ready and he is ready to make a commitment then go for it. actually you should ask yourself, is this what you want?

Answer 10

yes it is. my current (and longest lasting) relationship is with a middle-aged man (i'm 21). you're not missing out on any of those mind games boys like to play...