But, i can't seems to forget him. 24 seven i think about him. please tell me what happen to me. We've he been kissing a month ago, but no sex involved. Please tell me what to do? i don't want to lose my hubby, but my mind and my heart is towards somebody else. Am i in love with my friend?
2006-11-28 13:08:13 · 9 answers · asked by OOPS I DID IT AGAIN! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Please don't be foolish and throw away 13 years of marriage with a man whom you say nothing negative about.
Every relationship at first is great, the kissing, the fondling, the attention etc. but sooner or later that wears down.
Most relationships are not based on the kissing and the attention, it is based on the mutual understanding, caring, and devotion that is very special between two people.
Of course it is important to have attention and some intimacy with each other but if you are not talking about it with your partner how will he know you need more, or he is not giving you enough.
Think hard and than make your own decision. It is you that will have to live with whatever you chose. Look deep inside your friends heart...not his eyes...and ask yourself :"What will he be like in thirteen years...or will he even be around in thirteen years"
I think you already know the answer to this question, because if you didn't you wouldn't be asking it, you would be doing more than kissing.
Good luck
2006-11-28 16:06:22 · answer #1 · answered by keeptrying4sure 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been married long enough to realize that a good marriage takes work. Somplace along the way you & your husband have forgotten that attention is due each other as well as the marriage.
You are entertaining fantasy right now. The thrill of a new love. It's the day-to-day of life that tells the true tale. And just as every marriage settles into the living of life, the wonderful relationship you are imagining will do the very same thing.
Something is amiss in your relationship with your husband. You need to find out what it is and do something about it NOW!
You are on treacherous ground. You can either decide to work on your marriage or let the marriage end in catastophe.
Sit down with your husband & tell him you aren't happy. Do NOT tell him about this. You two need to decide whether you want to be married or not. And stay away from this other man. You need to clear your emotions so that you can make a rational decision with your husband.
2006-11-28 13:29:27 · answer #2 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are wanting something new in your life because at home you dont have the spicy thing that married couples need...is very hard not to fall in a monotony relationship...Now you should put in a scale what do you really want.If you think that is not worth it to break your marriage, you should stop seeing that guy, is a dangerous temptation.I suggest you take a good conversation with your husband and tell him that at this point you need something else(this is in the case that you really love your husband and dont want to break the marriage).I really consider that a good communication is the best.
To desire something new not always need to be love, but is a sign that something is wrong in the relationship.Only you can help yourself.
2006-11-28 13:22:56 · answer #3 · answered by lovetoyou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW... loopy drama! even as someone says they love you, it really is going to be purely an emotion, purely 3 words, purely an excuse to have sex with you, purely to work out you again. i believe those 3 words advise lots in words of showing you what that appears like. he took the straightforward way out, suggested i respect you and by no ability became a reliable husband to you by protecting those words. he might want to of stood by you, secure you, no longer blamed you, loved you in the course of the miscarriage, visited you, by no ability sleep with yet another human being, and so on. i comprehend your heart is hurting and also you pick him decrease back, yet he has shown no responsiblity to you. i'm truly chuffed that you do not have a baby with him because it would of been a lot tougher. he's completely not a reliable father he's completely not a reliable husband. he's truly perplexed.
2016-11-29 22:02:55 · answer #4 · answered by matis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know you can't have both.
If you love your husband and don't want to lose him, you will have to dump the "Friend."
You are really getting yourself into dangerous territory if you can't separate the love you have for your spouse from the love you have for your friend. I don't really think you should avoid handling the situation. You need to make your decision, and stand firmly by it. Otherwise you will just ending up hurting both of the people you are professing to care for so deeply.
2006-11-28 17:18:55 · answer #5 · answered by Benji's Mommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it from someone who has been there - you are not in live with this man. You are allowing lust to take over and it will destroy your marriage. You need to make a decision to love your husband - not by feeling, but by choice and trust me, the feelings will also return:) DO it now, or you will end up losing them both.
2006-11-28 14:35:01 · answer #6 · answered by Chrys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are getting into dangerous territory, but you already know that. You need to break it off with your friend and get some counseling. Either that, or you need to separate from your husband. What you're doing now, even just kissing, is cheating. Your husband deserves better than that. Don't be an idiot.
2006-11-28 13:12:22 · answer #7 · answered by clarity 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
This is the wrong forum for this question...
2006-11-28 15:29:38 · answer #8 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
didn't you say you are a married woman? why are you acting single. GOD, doesn't anyone know what marriage means anymore!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-28 13:14:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋