i used to be daddy's little gurl. now we dont talk anymore like that. i dont like it, but he's hardly at home and im tired of it. i wanna be that gurl who used to hide in the cupboards so he can find me and even in the most impossible places. i miss doing that. i miss him. he needs to start spending more time with his family. even my brothers dont do anything with him. he's like married to his job. i hate it. need advice on how to deal with it or im never gonna forgive him.
2006-11-28 12:54:57 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell him that you need him. He sounds like a good dad, so just talk to him.
2006-11-28 12:58:58 · answer #1 · answered by dietcokes4me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To picky back on the answer of "k1e9rgr3y", keep in mind that all the personal and family material things you enjoy didn't come free. He probably went deep into debt in order to try and keep you "Daddies Little Girl" and has to work to pay for them.
Try taking some of the salary he gives you for allowance and do the Daddy daughter date thing. Or if you are still at home cook a nice special meal for him.
I have four grown daughters whom I was a single parent to. Every now and again, they call to say they are coming down (only hour drive) and take me out to dinner. We eat, and then just sit and chat for hour or more.
The one daughter even has a tattoo on her bicep saying "Daddies Girl". Believe me, it sure means a lot to me and they seem to enjoy the quality time also.
2006-11-28 21:13:47 · answer #2 · answered by GERALD S. MCSEE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometime a parent or parents get so caught up in the day to day struggle of trying to provide a decent life for there family that they sometimes lose sight of what's really important they need a gentle reminder not an ultimatum so be careful how you approach the topic. and finally take it from the parent of a grown daughter who lives half a country away. you will always be daddy's little girl. nothing in the world will ever cause you to loose that place in your fathers heart it will just take on new dynamics as you get older but deep down your dad will always see you as that little girl that looked at him with hero worship in her eyes.
2006-11-28 21:27:02 · answer #3 · answered by mark_grvr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can't tell if it's your dad's fault? it depends how old you are - dad may be trying to wean you to grow up. we can all be daddy's little girl forever - but you have to know when we overstep boundaries. we have to grow up. if dad is just not home, it's not you he staying away from, it's bigger problems with family. talk to him. tell him you love him and miss him. see his reaction. let him know that the family misses him - not only you. let him know that life is short and he should enjoy his family while you are still a family at home - let him know that some day we will all be gone doing our own thing in life - and maybe he'll be left behind - so before that happens lets just be a family - where we all love each other and are there for each other. i hope he understands.
2006-11-28 21:10:41 · answer #4 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, how old are you?? It sounds like you want to be daddy's little girl forever. Sorry darl, but we all have to grow up. It sounds like he has to keep up with his work. It is not cheap to live anymore and he has a family to clothe, feed and house. Just try to find time to talk to him, and as the other person said, try to make a daddy /daughter date.
2006-11-28 21:00:10 · answer #5 · answered by k1e9r6r3y 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is tell him how you feel. I know i find doing that hard in person so a letter or email might be easier. The main thing is if you do not tell him then how will things ever change? The best thing is to be honest with your feelings and maybe you and your brothers should confront him together so your dad realizes that he is not spending time with you guys.
2006-11-28 21:23:35 · answer #6 · answered by saliberry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was like this with my dad for years. It got really bad and I was considering moving out of my parents house. I think I assumed that he knew how I felt and I really hated him for it. What I finally made myself realize is that he isn't a mind reader. It came down to me exploding one night...but you know what? Getting all those emotions out and explaining to him that I felt like he didn't love me and that I didn't like how he treated me or how bad our relationship had gotten really helped. Our relationship still isn't what it was back when I was little but its definitely gotten a lot better. He didn't realize how I felt and he was feeling hurt that I was his little girl anymore either. I didn't know that until I talked to him. So my advice to you is talk to him. Don't be afraid to come right out and say what you're feeling.
2006-11-28 21:04:43 · answer #7 · answered by bomberhatmoll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write him a letter telling him EXACTLY how you feel. Give it to him the next time you see him and tell him you two MUST TALK about what you wrote and he has to give time when he will not be in a rush.
2006-11-28 20:58:28 · answer #8 · answered by Papsidero76 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let him know you love him maybe ask him out on a daddy daughter date, you buy and treat him.
2006-11-28 20:56:50 · answer #9 · answered by Grandma of six 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should try talking to him and tell him how you feel
2006-11-28 20:57:26 · answer #10 · answered by psugirlie10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋