Did you ever want to change but you cant? You know exactly what you want but you just cant do it naturally?

Question

I dont know if its just me. I mean, I want to be that "cool" gf and I want to like certain things but I just cant. Sometimes I feel jelous but I wish I wasnt. Its not that big of a deal though. Its just little things that get to me and I want to know if anybody has similar situations. I picture being an ideal person, not for anybody but someone I would like to be, but I just cant do it. Dont think I hate myself, I dont, just wondering if some people feel the same way sometimes.

Answer 1

There's a Million and one things I want to change about myself. If others mention something not necessarily negative about me. I secretly make a mental note to add it to my list and then when I try to form a different habit to get me out of the one that i don't like. I can't even get my foot up. It's hard but it's not impossible and one of these days i'm going to get it right.

Answer 2

You have to decide why you want to change, if the change is actually going to make your life better, how much effort you are going to put into changing and is that change worth the effort. If you expect the change to happen instantly, you are in for a rude awakening. You are not going to receive immediate gratification. It isn't like going out and buying a candy bar. You have been alive for whatever number of years and the first five or six of those years were spent developing your personallity, so don't expect to change all that, overnight.
You have to be realistic, not delusional. When you said that you want to be that 'cool gf', it is obvious that you want to change for someone else, not yourself. You also stated that you want to like certain things. What the hell is the point of that? You are allowed to have your own likes and dislikes, so why should you want to like something that you actually don't? My guess is that you are doing it to please somebody instead of yourself. You can change your behaviour through practice, but it takes a concerted effort. There is nothing easy about it. Before you try to make all those changes, consider this; Your likes and dislikes, your behaviour, the way you look, walk and talk all describe who you really are. Those things give you your own identity and personallity. If you can't be yourself, you will never be anybody. By the way, you will never please anybody, either.

Answer 3

Perhaps you should consider this little fact; several things have been implanted into your memory storage area. These can become triggers which often may cause you to fore go some of the things you feel should be a part of your life. Or, being what you would like to be..When you eliminate those triggers, you will find renewed confidence and accomplish some things you have talked yourself out of doing in the past. Depending on your age, it will determine the amount of triggers you have implanted. They are emotionally driven.

Answer 4

Dont change because you feel you are not cool or not good enough. You have to live life the way you want and be who you are and not what you think you can be. And if it is because you want to be a cool girlfriend, if he dont like you for you then you dont need him.

Answer 5

change is very difficult- it's best to try to figure out why you get so ticked about stuff. Your feeling and emotions are just as important as other - It's very important to remember that you can not make someone happy, sad, angry or mad- and someone can not do the same to you-
YOU chose how you are going to react to stuff- life is very short-
I have struggled with this are a long time- I want to be the fun easy going girl but to me life is very serious- let me know it you figure it out.

Answer 6

yes everyday i wish i can change my attitude I'm really mean to people and i don't know why.