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2006-11-28 12:45:58 · 11 answers · asked by aquaris01975 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I am concerned that you mention he "said if he is to marry me..." b/c it sounds like an ultimatum. Being baptized, if you are of the Christian faith, is a SYMBOL only of Christ's ultimate sacrifice for us (all humans). We are sinners, from birth, and the only way for us (all humans) to gain access to heaven b/c of our sin was for Christ to give His life up for us, as the ultimate payment for those sins. We will never be "good enough." So, in accepting that Christ did this for us (again, ALL humans), and realizing that we will always fall short of perfection b/c we're sinners, we thank Him for His sacrifice and live for Him daily. Always striving to learn more about how to serve Him, and then doing it. This is why we're here on earth.... to serve God. Baptism is then a way of showing publicly that we choose to serve the only living God, the Saviour of our souls, by dying to ourselves, being buried (sybollically) by being "dunked" or immersed in water, and rising again (sybollically) by coming up out of water. Christ did this as an example of what showing a public declaration of knowing and loving and following Him could look like. Being baptized is not a "ticket to heaven" - so be careful of feeling pressured to get baptized in order to be good enough for something else (i.e. marriage). I'll pray for you...
2006-11-28 13:02:48 · answer #1 · answered by ccwaha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Different religions baptize different ways. I am Christian and we would go into the (tub) with the preacher and he dunked me under the water. Not long, just down and back up, so as to "wash away your sins" It is true that if you are going to be baptized you should do so on your on decision. If you do it for the wrong reasons, you will regret it later. A lot of religions believe that you have to marry a person who has been baptized in the same religion as you. This is why he says this. My church actually had me take classes and study before I was baptized to make sure that I was doing it for the right reasons.
2006-11-28 12:57:30 · answer #2 · answered by jrbridget_bush 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Based on the way you worded this, I have a feeling that you were baptized at birth and not later on as a teenager or young adult. Chances are, your boyfriend was baptized as either a teenager or a young adult because that is the custom in his church. Basically, what he is meaning is, if you were baptized as a baby, you were not given a choice so it was not of your free will - it was your parent's tradition and decision. My suggestion to you is first talk with your parents to find out what, if anything, you went through as a child. If you are still practicing in whatever religion you were raised in, I would talk to a minister and find out what your options are. At the same time, I would be talking to your boyfriend about this because, as the first person who answered indicated, if he's putting this requirement on you for your relationship to continue then this is not of your "own free will".
2006-11-28 15:28:02 · answer #3 · answered by Patricia D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baptism is a Christian act that is supposed to represent the death of your "old" self. When you feel you are sinful and unable to "fix" yourself, and when you believe that Jesus Christ died for the things you have done wrong, then you may choose to be baptized. It represents coming up a "clean" person, i.e., the water having washed your sins. Its really a public statement, much like taking marriage vows saying that you are a Christian and you want to live like one.
What happens at baptism is that you get wet and make a statement to those around you by the action of baptism. If you don't believe this in your heart, it's really just for show.
Any clergy person worth his weight will have you study to understand what it means before he/she will baptize you. Get some studies at your church.
2006-11-28 13:00:19 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really, it depends on the church you are getting baptized into. There are three main methods that I know, though there a probably more. In the church I am a member of, The United Methodist Church, we are baptized either by dunking, sprinkling, or pouring. Dunking is just like it sounds, they submerge you in a baptismal (I've seen these performed in actual church baptismal, bathtubs, I myself was baptized in a swimming pool.) Sprinkling is when the pastor cups his hand and pours water on your head. Pouring is similar, but with more water.
2006-11-28 12:57:15 · answer #5 · answered by Benjamin B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you mean baptized in the Catholic Religion, Holy Water that is blessed by a priest is poured over your head, and prayers are recited. The Holy Spirit comes upon you. You renounce the devil and all his works and so forth. Yes, you can choose if you want to be baptized. No one can force you to it, dear. It's your choice, and your decision is solely yours.
2006-11-28 12:57:23 · answer #6 · answered by DREENA 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well. if he won't marry you unless you are baptized then it's not of your own free will then is it?
2006-11-28 12:50:01 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Stacy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When you get baptized the water burns! Oh how it burns! Like fire!
(Or maybe that's just me, after all I am the spawn of Satan).
2006-11-28 12:53:14 · answer #8 · answered by Ross L 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Water is poured over your head and a bunch of stupid little ditties are recited. Nothing more. it's just a pointless thing most churches require as part of their brainwashing process.
2006-11-28 12:54:21 · answer #9 · answered by Chickidee 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
i'm with Stacy on this one. if it's by his own stipulation then it's hardly on your free will, that's crazy.
2006-11-28 12:58:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋