2006-11-28 12:34:20 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Here's the thing. When you fall in love with someone, there is no getting rid of them or forgetting them. They will always be there in your head. Now yes you do get over the fact that it hurts eventually, but you never forget them. Love is that special thing that when you share it with someone it essentially is always there.
Now i know that everyone will tell you things like: relax, just get over it, take a bath, read a book, or go to God. More or less you just have to figure it out on your own regardless of what people will say here. Because dealing with heartache, its a natural part of life, its the bad side effect of love. But if i was to offer my best advice, i would say that you should chalk it up to experience. Count it as a learning experience, so every time you start to think about her just think about what you learned from the situation, how it will make you a stronger person, and how it will help you in the future. Love is a big part of everyone's life, and it shouldn't be forgotten, even when its bad. Best of luck in your hard times...
2006-11-29 21:27:58 · answer #1 · answered by micktobi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't forget - ever. The hurt is the price you pay for the beautiful moments but it does not devalue them. It's a cliche, I know, but time heals, and if it does not the pain dulls over time.
A few words of advice from one who has been there and back: don't harbour resentment, don't think about what might have been, and above all don't drown your sorrows in a bottle. Life goes on and it can be good.
2006-11-28 22:05:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't forget those moments, they are a part of who you are. the relationship may have gone sour but the experience should have made you stronger... I lived w/ a guy for 4 years until he cheated on me. I moved on and now my life is better. good, wonderful, happy memories kept me going and kept me from judging that not every guy out there are the same and will do the same. Use the good memories to have a better relationship with the next person.
2006-11-28 20:44:27 · answer #3 · answered by lala15 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Compartmentalise the relationship until you are ready to face it.
Put it into perspective and then when the time is right, move on!!
Look to your self and identify your role within your relationship and how things went wrong - then choose a partner to comliment your good traits.
Easy to say - hard to do! But possible!! Just think of it as a challenge.
I have tried to do the same for myself! Not found any one yet.
I'm very soft hearted and caring. Dirty words in modern relationships so far!!
Any way - you've got lots of good advise in your answers so I hope it helps.
2006-11-28 21:11:12 · answer #4 · answered by kiku 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually i don't think you should forget those beautiful moments.
rather...forget the bad moments?
because one day you'd be old...and when you think back of the past...
you'd smile because you know you have lived through some happy times. even if that person hurt you in the end?
2006-11-28 20:36:49 · answer #5 · answered by kimee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the same boat as you buddy. Simple answer is move on. Expect a certain ammount of pain as part of the healing process but don't wallow in it. Don't try and stay friends. Don't hang around where you're likely to bump into her. Don't constantly obsess over who she's sleeping with or seeing now.
Get rid of most of the stuff she gave you except a couple of small things and hide them till you're over her. Then go out and spend time with your mates, play sport, go surfing, whatever floats your boat.
2006-11-28 20:39:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't forget those. Remember the good times...forget the bad...unless you want to learn and be ready for the next time it happens.
2006-11-28 20:37:45 · answer #7 · answered by lkjgfyfukh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The vulcan mind melt worked on Kirk, but as for the rest of us, with no close Vulcan ties, We hope for the rare human that is also capable of helping us forget by grasping our hearts once more, And treating it with far more care. If we are lucky.
2006-11-29 11:24:04 · answer #8 · answered by Justin 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You won't forget those moments, but life will get easier when you find someone new , and move on
2006-11-28 20:43:29 · answer #9 · answered by Sierra One 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something like i love you so much it hurts what a load of fxxxxxg cxxxp that was off my 2nd wife and i am on my 5th
2006-11-28 20:39:29 · answer #10 · answered by colin050659 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋