For hundreds of generations, spanking has been acceptable. Children were more well minded and respectful. About 15 years ago, people decided that it was the wrong thing to do, we are now getting the first products of this no spanking generation. I would like for someone to give me a good reason why this is so please tell me. I am a parent and I refuse to allow my child to disrespect me and throw punches and some of the other crazy things that I have seen.
2006-11-28 12:24:18 · 33 answers · asked by 2fine4u 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
When your child is only two, you have not had enough experience under your belt yet. I got my butt whipped and I have more self esteem than a little bit. I have NEVER spanked my child angrily. I do use alternative forms of punishment too. I have a 15 yo. My child does not disrespect me and wouldn't dare raise a hand to me. I got my butt whipped and my mom is 62 yo and I have never disrespected her and niether would my siblings. I see those alternative forms of punishment in the store all the times. Tantrums, screaming at parents, and punching parents. My mother has a saying, if you do not spank them when they are young, they are going to spank you when you get old.
2006-11-28 14:04:09 · update #1
My child knows what a butt whipping is.
2006-11-28 14:05:08 · update #2
They think it "teaches hitting" or "makes them think it's okay for a bigger person to hit them"--whatta bunch of you know what...
You know, when I was little and got spanked the thing that came to my mind afterwards was not "well if my parents can hit me then I can hit too", it was "Ouch that hurt! Next time I'm listening when I'm told to do something!"
These parents who stick their kids in time out or just "talk it out" sicken me. Apparently it's not spanking that people are against--it's discipline altogether.
2006-11-28 12:30:23 · answer #1 · answered by CelebrateMeHome 6 · 8⤊ 5⤋
I also spank and also use a paddle designed for the purpose.
The reason so many parents are against it is because of some research and changing societal attitudes that started around the mid-1950's. I don't have any statistics but I have a sense that to a certain extent the newest generation is rejecting a lot of no-spanking nonsense and returning to a child raising practice that has worked for eons.
Although I was spanked as a kid I was convinced in college that it was inappropriate. So I did not at first spank when I had my own kids. To make a long story short--in the course of being a Mom I changed my tune and decided my parents were not so dumb and old fashioned after all.
I know that anectodal stories are not very useful--but that is the major reason I spank--it works for me. I also think it is fairer and less mean than punishments like time outs and groundings. A spanking gets the punishment over and the air is cleared. The other things drag the thing out. I don't want to be a parental jailer. With younger kids I think the whole point of why they are being punsihed is lost. With older kids it is no more of an effective punishment and inspiration to strive for better behavior than jailing adults is.
I think if more parents would spank--and do it correctly--they would be very surprprised by the results they get. And I don't mean for every little thing but not just as a last resort either. The real key to making it work is consistency.
I should also mention all the research that has been done on this subject showing it is bad. These are all statistically flawed. Infact to the surprise of one researchers who surveyed all the research--he found it to be the most effective method of getting children to comply with the wishes of their parents. For more information on this see my discussion at: http://blog.360.yahoo.com/blog-ggifacyzf...
There is a reason parents have been spanking since time immemorial. The anti-spanking movement is very new. And like a lot of new untested ideas I am convinced it is wrong.
2006-11-29 19:42:13 · answer #2 · answered by beckychr007 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, IF your looking for a "good reason" you wont find one. This is the reason we still use spanking with our daughters. IT WORKS. Though I think spanking is misused these days. For example some call a spanking a swat or two, others may leave their children black and blue from head to toe. The first example is ineffective, the second is abuse. We use "spanking" not a swat, and no marks, but a good old fashion spanking on the bare hiney. So to conclude, there is nothing wrong with spanking, still works quite good in our home. If it ain't broke, don't fix it.
Good Luck
2006-11-29 01:29:08 · answer #3 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
These people have a black-and-white view of life, and they have bandwagon personalities. These are people who see everything as 100% right or 100% wrong, and if they have nothing better to do, they will get onto the bandwagon against the thing they see as 100% wrong. It happens in religion, politics, parenting, and many other areas. With spanking, these people see the very tiny percent of spanking abusers as a general threat to the future of our society, so they want to outlaw all corporal (physical) punishment of children. I was spanked only a few times as a child, because I quickly got the message that my parents were serious about what they wanted me to do and not to do. That's the way it works best, because you can't reason with very young children, and you have to teach all children right from wrong.
2006-11-28 12:36:55 · answer #4 · answered by TitoBob 7 · 6⤊ 2⤋
It is visible by surveys that Spanking interest is generated in people who received spanking in childhood or not to received. Hard Spanking is common in third world countries like Pakistan. But it has been diappeared from world now. I also received spanking till the age of 17 and now(age 23) use self spanking for my own satisfaction.
Now it is difficult to judge that spank is necessary or not necessary for child. I think not necessary but some conditions.
Rizi
2006-12-01 17:06:49 · answer #5 · answered by rizwanpk_83 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It's actually because early childhood educators and developmental psychologists believe that it disempowers the child, leaving them humiliated, and taking away their sense of freedom and security. It is believed that if you spank a child they will start to think that they are worthless, and have self esteem problems and bad problem-solving skills. It is said that you should tell your child why their behavior is unacceptable, and know that they will understand. Personally, even with my education, I spank. If my son trys to hit me or run into the street, he is getting his little behind whooped. I was spanked as a child, and have no problem with self esteem, and have incredible problem solving skills. And I never felt humiliated by my parents. I felt embarassed that I had acted in such a way to deserve it.
2006-11-28 12:56:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
Some of the reasons I'm against it- 1) I hope I'm smart and patient enough to not have to HIT my child. Spanking should be a last resort, or it's not effective anyway 2) it can cause sexual problems- spanking fetishes, or an unhealthy gravitation towards abusive relationships in adulthood and 3) I want to teach my children non-violent ways of problem-solving. I want them to feel totally safe with me...that is not to say there will be no discipline, but I don't want them to be scared of mommy, I'd rather them understand why they were wrong in their behaviour without instilling fear in them. (also, as a child I was spanked and all it did was teach me to hide things better so I wouldn't get caught. lol)
My opinions have changed a little in the last year since I became a Christian, BUT I still think spanking is only effective in some children and in others it will only traumatize them and lead to dangerous consequences. Every kid is different.
2006-12-02 17:36:04 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer W 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋
I think some parents believe they can negotiate with their children rather than discipline them. I don't understand it myself. Some people do go overboard and beat their children...that is wrong, but an old fashioned but whippin' never hurt anybody. I think kids would be a lot more respectful and their would be fewer issues with kids misbehaving in school if parents spanked their children more often!
2006-11-28 13:07:42 · answer #8 · answered by tangyterp83 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Some people think that some people get out of hand with in and hurt their children. I think that spanking is OK as long as the spanker doesn't get out of hand with what they are doing. Then the child might get hurt.
2006-11-28 12:30:36 · answer #9 · answered by h_barnes0602 1 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you 100%. Kids are getting totally out of control. A good old fashioned A.S.S. whipping like we (parents) used to get when we were kids is exactly what most of this generation of kids needs. There used to be no gangs, no drive by shootings, we were not addicted to crystal meth or crack cocaine, the crime rate was waaayy down compared to now, and kids treated their parents and all other adults with RESPECT.
Respect is not even taught anymore like it should be. In fact it's not even in modern kids vocabulary. It's such a shame. People who dont believe in spanking are raising a generation of smart mouth brats. They all think if we spank them they can just run and tell the police or human services dept. and get us parents in trouble. You know what though? I will take my chances on that. My kids are teenagers now but they are very polite, well mannered, and I am proud of them. I spanked them when they needed it too!!! I have no regrets about it either.
2006-11-28 12:35:39 · answer #10 · answered by I know, I know!!!! 6 · 7⤊ 3⤋
I don't know but if we chould spank our children without the fear of cps trying to take our children we may not have so many killings at school and what is this ADD stuff??? When I was little a good old fashion butt whipping took care of this....
2006-11-28 12:28:59 · answer #11 · answered by Marti G 2 · 10⤊ 1⤋