i feel like a baby is the only love i can have?

Question

ill be turning 16 soon. im very young.Right now im not sure if im pregnant or not i feel like if im not im going to be sad. but latly me and my bf hes been busy alot with basketball and we dont see eachother that much and selfishly i want to be pregnant so that i can have a part of him and me, and i think maybe hell give me more attention. But the main thing is i really want someone who love me no matter what. i am very mature for my age but i know this wouldnt be the life for a baby so young someone plese knock since into me.

Answer 1

I was feeling the same way not so long ago.

Maybe it's just a female urge, but I really wanted to get pregnant. I wanted to have a baby who was half of me, and half of him, I wanted a baby I could love and watch grow up.

But, I realized the life of that child would be deprived. As much as I know I would love him or her, they'd have very few chances at a good and equal future. If you guys aren't seeing each other enough, maybe you should talk to him about it. If basketball comes before you, then maybe that relationship just isn't the right one to commit yourself with a child to. Who knows when he'd leave you?

But, if you are pregnant, I suggest you seriously discuss it with him, and if you aren't completely sure he can provide for you and the baby, then maybe you need to think about adoption. It's a hard decision, but if it's in the best interest of the baby, it's quite possibly the best decision, too.

Good luck,
~Morgan~

Answer 2

Sweetie, if you want a baby because it would be a little version of you + some boy, or you want unconditional love, or you want something like a pet, only more attention-getting, then you are far from mature.

16 is not a very good time to have children, and I'll tell you why: because you won't be raising them. Either your parents will, or *I* will (through my taxes).

I doubt that your parents want more kids, and *I* sure as hell don't. Wait until you have a husband who has a job, and a house.

You are by no means ready to give up everything you enjoy (and, you will) to raise kids. It's even hard for people in their 20s and 30s.

Your sperm-donor bf isn't ready, either, or he wouldn't be playing basketball. He'd be helping you pick out a crib.

If you want to love & be loved, get a dog.

Answer 3

HELLO,
WELL I HAD A DAUGHTER WHEN I WAS 16 AND NOW SHE IS 10....THE ONLY GOOD THING IS THAT YOUR STILL YOUNG WHEN SHE GOES TO PROM AND THINGS LIKE THAT AND YOUR HIP TO ALL THE SAME THINGS THAT SHE IS....BUT YOU HAVE TO LOVE YOUR SELF INORDER TO LOVE SOME ONE ELSE BE IT A BABY OR A MAN....AND I WAS ABONDONED WHEN I TOLD HER FATHER THAT I WAS PREGO AND YES SHE WAS NOT PLANNED.....SO DO YOU WANT TO RAISE THE BABY ALL BY YOUR SELF AND WHAT IS YOUR PARENTS THOUGHTS ON THE MATTER....STAY IN SCHOOL AND GET AN EDUCATION BECAUSE ONCE YOU HAVE A CHILD IT IS VERY HARD TO HOLD A JOB TO SUPPORT IT AND GET THE EDUCATION THAT YOU NEED FOR THE CHILD AND NOT ONLY THAT YOUR DENYING YOUR SELF OF ALL THE FUN IN YOUR HIGH SCHOOL YEARS WHERE HE CAN DO WHAT EVER HE WANTS BECAUSE HE ISN'T STUCK WITH THE BABY GROWING INSIDE OF HIM FOR 9 1/2 MONTHS AND WHAT IF SOMETHING WAS WRONG WITH IT YOUR WAY TOO YOUNG TO GO THROUGH THAT AND THEN THE CHILD SHOULDN'T BE ABORTED BECAUSE YOU CAN'T HANDLE IT.....YOU NEED TO BE AT LEAST OUTTA SCHOOL AND COLLEGE SO YOU CAN SUPPORT THE BABY BECAUSE IT DIDN'T ASK TO BE HERE AND YOUR NOT FINANCIALY STABLE TO HAVE A BABY...I KNOW I WAS THERE BUT I WAS LUCKY WITH MY PARENTS AND THEY HELPED ME ALOT WITH HER AND I DIDN'T HAVE MY 2ND TILL I WAS 25 AND I ENJOY HER MORE THAT WHAT I DID MY FIRST DAUGHTER I AM MORE MATURE NOW AND I LOVE BOTH MY DAUGHTERS DEARLY AND YOU NEED TO THINK WHAT CAN YOU GIVE THE BABY OUT OF A LIFE WITH NO EDUCATION?????PLEASE DO NOT HAVE A BABY FOR YOU THINKING THAT IT WILL LOVE YOU SURE IT WILL BUT YOU NEED MORE OUTTA YOUR LIFE THAN A NO END JOB BECAUSE THE DROP OUT RATE IS REDICIULUS AND MOST ARE UNWANTED PREGNACYS THAT ARE ACCCOUNTED FOR.......AND IF I WAS THERE I WOULD SLAP YOU AND TELL YOU THAT YOUR CRAZY FOR EVEN THINKING IT.....GET AN EDUCATION FIRST.....IF I COULD DO IT ALL OVER AGAIN I WOULD AND NOT HAVE SEX TILL I WAS OUTTA COLLEGE....NOW I AM A COMPUTER TECH FOR IBM

Answer 4

Me and my three friends (All in our late 20's) have formed a team to help out our neighborhood. I wear a Jar Jar Binks costume and am the leader. Then there is the guy who wears the Grimace costume, he is the strong man. Then there is the guy who is a convicted sex offender, he wears a trenchcoat like the matrix. And lastly, their is "The Professional", he wears a cardboard Burgerking crown and a fake muscle suit. We walk around town and knock on random doors. When the person answers, I dance and do a Jar Jar quote, then make a loud screech with an air horn. While the person is reeling from the sound, the sex offender confesses that he is a sex offender (as required by his parole). Then the grimace throws some leaves and dirt into the persons house. And lastly, Muscle King plays 'me so horny' on his boombox and we dance. We have done this to hundreds of houses. Are we some kind of kings? I don't know how?

Answer 5

You need to talk to someone about how you're feeling and such. Honestly, having a baby is ALOT more work than you think. Even if you babysit alot....it's VERY different. If you do end up having a baby with your boyfriend, things you need to think of are this....how are you going to provide for the baby and what makes you think that your bf is going to be there? You may think I'm being pessimistic but most teen couples in this situation do not end up in the situation that they would have ideally pictured themselves in. Also, how are you going to be paying for the cost of having a baby? Also, if you have a baby because you want to feel loved, is that really being fair to your baby? When you have your baby, you want to give them all that you can and more. What can you give your baby with a less than HS graduate education, no money, and a boyfriend that is most likely not going to be around after the baby is here.

my parents will help me raise the baby - is that fair to them? They raised you and they're STILL raising you now....

thought that people say...love is all that we're going to need ...

diapers (approx 8-10 per day), $20+ for a pkg of diapers....lasts for about 4 days

health insurance - do you know who's going to pay for that? Babies have to go to the dr's at 1 week, 1 month, 3 months, 4 months, 5 months, 6 months, 9 months, 12 months, 15 months, 18 months, 24 months, etc....how are you going to pay for that? Also, quite often, you end up going to the dr's more often than that if your baby gets sick or something - also, you're not even 16 yet...who's going to drive u to the dr's all the time??

breastfeeding vs formula - a newborn baby needs to eat the following...during the day - once every 2 hrs, at night when asleep - once every 3 hrs - if you breastfeed, are u going to be able to handle that little sleep. If u use formula - that stuff isn't cheap!

clothes - babies usually grow to the next size in sometimes as little as a week....my daughter grew out of her 0-3 month clothing in 1.5 weeks after she was born.

Please rethink your decision....that will not be fair to you and especially not to your baby....

I am 29 and I'm married and it's tiring and exhausting even for us....won't be any easier on you sweetie....you're going to put alot more stress on yourself and it's not fair to your baby. Please go talk to someone about this whether it's a HS counselor of Planned Parenthood....your thought is not a good one and you aren't ready or mature enough yet. You may say "i'm very mature for my age" - you are not as worldly as you think....

Answer 6

How you will support your baby? He will not give you more attention with the baby, maybe less. You think he will like hearing baby's crying all the time? He will be playing basketball with his friends instead. Dont ruing your life, wait till you are old enough. You proably will be with another guy after HS anyways. Sinlge mom's life isnt that great.

Answer 7

I used to feel the same way but I my boyfriend told me that he wasn't ready to be a father. And I know you feel like a baby will make you feel loved and love you no matter what, but the truth is babies don't give love they take in love.

Answer 8

Seek love from your family and your friends. Don't even think about getting pregnant just for your boyfriend's attention. If anything, it'll only drive him even further away.

Answer 9

A baby at 16....

let me put this so you can understand

R U F N CRAZY

Answer 10

If you get pregnant at your age your life WILL BE RUINED!!!!!!!!!LISTEN to what i am saying..................a child is a HUGE expense,one that a 16 year old could not do by themselves .You are young,enjoy your life while you can.Do not make a mistake you will have to live with the rest of your life!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!