He is getting older and rarely comes over. I would like to just use a photo of our kids which was taken at Thanksgiving and he is not with us that day but my husbands family is upset if his son is not in our Christmas photo. My husband would like that he is in the photo but is okay if he is not. Would it be unapproprate to not include him?
2006-11-28 12:00:55 · 28 answers · asked by tweed 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I would include him. It wouldn't be worth it creating any problems. You could just ask him if he would like to be in the photo. If not, then use the picture you want. If he does, be sure to include him.
2006-11-28 12:03:21 · answer #1 · answered by dietcokes4me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you already know that your husband's family wants to see his son in the photo, then yes it's not appropriate not to include him. Even if you don't consider him "Yours", he is still part of their family, and Christmas is a holiday where family is the focus. You can always schedule time with him to take the photo if he is hard to catch up with.
2006-11-28 12:07:10 · answer #2 · answered by Second 2 None 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's very rude not to include him in this photo. After all, it's a family photo, and he is a part of the family. I know I would be upset if I wasn't included in a family photo.
2006-11-28 12:03:41 · answer #3 · answered by snails 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To not inculde might not seem like that big of a deal now.Things have a way of becoming more important down the line.Ever heard someone say "I wish you would have been there".Having him in the photo could also mean something more to him than you know.I believe it is always a good idea to include everyone.I don't know how many times I have seen feelings hurt over somthing so easy to avoid.Hope this helps.
2006-11-28 12:09:52 · answer #4 · answered by RICK T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you already know what the right answer is...
i think that it would be rude not to include him and most importantly it would hurt his feelings even if he doesnt say anything about it.
he'll probably feel like his dad prefers his "new" family over him. put yourself in his shoes.
maybe your husband's family knows the boy better than you do and knows it will hurt him and maybe that's why they would be upset if he wasnt included. plus, you'll look like the wicked step mom.
also, if your husband wants him in the picture but is letting you make the final decision about it maybe he feels caught in the middle.
i think obviously if your husband would like to have his son in the pic you should oblige him. after all, when you married him the kid became part of your family too.
2006-11-28 12:10:25 · answer #5 · answered by kismet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it would be a great idea to include the son in the photo, if anything it shows what a great person that you are. It shows that you have no issues with jealousy, or power control. It shows that you support your husband and that you respect what "family" stands for. Good luck!
2006-11-28 12:05:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course it would be inappropriate not to have him in the picture! "His" son - is also your son. He became your son too, the day you married your husband. Don't try to segregate your husband's children, it shows your complete disrespect for him. The holidays are a time for family, and love. Not a time for obvious jealousy of the firstborn. I think you set a bad example, especially to the children that you have. Do you treat him as bad as that too? I'm guessing that's why he doesn't come over that often. Why should he - if you so outrightly show that you don't consider him part of the family.
2006-11-28 12:05:19 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can take the picture of you and your family and put it in a frame even give out to everyone.Then you all can take a picture with your family and your husbands son and do the same there is nothing wrong with that.Your husbands family shouldn't have any reason to be upset.He is rarely around anyway so do something that makes you happy and your husband can wait till his son comes around again.
2006-11-28 12:09:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because he is getting older and doesn't come over as often it does not mean he is no longer your husbands son!..You have to include him. How would you feel if it was you and you were not on the family picture with your dad??? It would be totally inoperative not to have him in the picture.
2006-11-28 12:08:34 · answer #9 · answered by sticky J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might feel like a part of your family if you do. Would it harm you or your other children to do so?? I consider that half-brothers are truly BROTHERS. In truth we are all brothers on Earth. After all, we are all related to Adam & Eve. Once we become Christians, we are a part of Christ's Family as well. You must decide but what are we/you teaching our/your children about how to treat others? I hope that you take this in the right spirit. Have a great week!!
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2006-11-28 12:40:37 · answer #10 · answered by Eds 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋