Really really down all because of social life?

Question

I feel really sad right now. I barely have anyone at school to talk to. I feel like I suffer all day because no one will talk to me, like my social meter is -10. Then when I get home I have to do homework and my mom yells and threatens to send me to my dads apartment because i didn't do this or that. she always finds something to fuss about... I have social anxiety disorder....on top of that. i just don't know what to do anymore, but i dont wanna get depressed or anything. What can I do. the anxiety is stopping me from doing any sports, or getting out. I only feel comfortable at home because of it, and im waiting to see someone about this. I might need meds.......but really I tell myself all the time that maybe I should just try to get self esteem/confidence and then all i will really need is me in time of need, but just seein everyone talkin is a killer. people ask me if im ok sometimes cuz i just space out. i hope i don't get depressed. what should i do? Im suffering...

I know I don't have the best social skills since I never get out, but this is torcher. I feel like no one understand me.

Answer 1

its totally ok to space out

avoid drugs, even coffee

get good sleep

go to school and make friends

don't worry about anything unless it is really bugging you and you can't shake it

if you can't , just get in bed, relax as much as you can, with a heating pad too maybe, then feel whatever you do, unwind it, see what is really bothering you, deal with the real issues, not the imaginary ones.

Answer 2

For starters, were you actually diagnosed with social anxiety or you feel you share the same common characteristics of it? Your mother should not be threatening anything and using your father as her disciplinary action figure. She needs to be an adult in this and you need to help her understand your problem so she can help. You obviously don't have a huge problem communicating as your thoughts were conveyed quite well in your question. Try reading some postive literature or self help books. It may not be the best cure but it does help and begin to change the way you think about things. There was a saying I had read once, it went : I know people who are in a rut. And they're gonna stay in Rut. You wanna know why? Because THEY DONT USE THEIR ABILITY TO GET THINGS DONE

Answer 3

Would you agree that your depression has alot to do with no hope in your life? Well. if you want some hope I can share some with you.
First you are young and it's getting to the point where you are feeling the stresses of this life. Make wise decisions and ride out your young life. It WILL get better with experience.
But most of all, the Bible's hope for the future can help you COPE with the stresses now if you keep that hope in your mind. That hope is:Psalms 37:10,11,29
Proverbs 2:20-22
Matthew 5:5
Revelation 21:3-5

Answer 4

The answer to your question is thousands of years old and has proved true a billion times over and that answer is this. First your focus must be on others. Start by volunteering at a food bank or homeless shelter or any kind of outreach that your energy is poured into others when you have done this for even a short period of time you will find that your current dilemma will have disappeared

dave

Answer 5

Go to a school official who you trust. Go to them and talk to them about things you can do to feel better. Try going for a quick walk around you're neighborhood, to get some air and to get away from you're mom. Maybe, if you talk to her about the way you feel, she might lay off. Don't kill yourself though, this is more common than you know. You will be okay. Contact me and we can talk through yahoo. Good luck.

Answer 6

Babe you sound like you already are depressed.I went thru that from 15-18. Not that all the ramifications were gone then.I have struggled all my life with the way I view myself and the men I became involved with because of this.Sometimes I am better.Find out if it is possible if it is chemical.Become involve in sports.Competition is tough BUT it wont kill you.Rejection hurts,BUT it wont kill you.DONT GIVE ANYONE YOUR POWER!

Answer 7

thats really sad!!! just try talkin to people and you know, ask regular old things. self esteem and confidence will go up. when you first go and talk to people, dont think about what they think about you. (who really cares?) act like they are good friends. go out more and just jibber jabber to people. it'll take time for you to feel better, but the sooner you take care of it, the sooner you will start to feel more and more confident about yourself. and being confident in your social life will make you feel more confident in other things too, like your school work. dont let your mom get to you so much. try talking to her. being able to talk to your parents makes things so much better. really. i had a problem with talking to my 'rents about stuff and after i did, it made other problems alot easier because i knew who to talk to. i hope this helps and i hope you feel better. be happy!!!! ill think of you

Answer 8

This is a very good blog, a beginner’s guide to abnormal psychology.
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http://sensitive-psychoworld.blogspot.com/

Answer 9

don't wait for others to approach you....make the first move if you wanna have a friend..you are not psychotic but i think you are a candidate for suicide....you need to change your attitude. if you can't find a friend there in your school, just be here on Yahoo always....you can always find someone to talk to.

Answer 10

I had the same problem when I was younger...it can be overcome. You say you're going to get help...try behavioural therapy, works much better than meds.