with out sounding sexist?

Question

why is it there is so many resources made available to single mums and not our single dads, being a single dad its hard to find the time to meet new people and where i live they have mums groups yet still nothing made available for single dads can anyone tell me why this is or places i can go

Answer 1

Don't worry, you don't sound sexist. I wholeheartedly believe there should be more resources out there for single dads. I also believe courts should be less biased in awarding custody in divorce cases, seperations of unmarried couples, etc--unless there is cause to deny one parent or the other their custody rights, joint custody should be the *norm*. Mothers and fathers should have equal rights to their children.

Answer 2

I am sorry that you are not finding such resources in your area. I live in California and we have a number of single parents groups. For both mothers and fathers and for both. My parents split when I was very young and my Dad had both us kids till we hit the age of rebellion. You might try checking with a local social service group. Or look into one of those Mom's groups. Odds are they will take you in as any single parent's group.

Of course if you are looking for other single Dad's to commiserate/celebrate with it, is perfectly understandable. You are part of a rare (though increasing) group and should be commended. I would do some more searches. Even the phone book under Playgroups.
Good luck!

Answer 3

If there is no single dads group where you are, why don't you start one? You can usually reserve a room at the library if you don't feel comfortable meeting at home. Talk to someone from the mom's group and ask them how they "advertise" and if they know any single dad's.

If you are not willing to put the time and effort into creating this group, then you will know why there are none.

Answer 4

I am a single dad and have had nothing but trouble- the court system, the social services depts and even social security are very biased against single dads. I have custody of my two teen boys and am still fighting in family court to recieve child support from my ex wife( who by the way was an abusive mom)! Every time I entera court room the judge automatically assumes that the kids are with their mother.

Answer 5

I think it's a matter of theres simply a larger number of single moms than single dads. I'm sure however if you went to a group for single moms they wouldn't turn you away. Single parenting is tough no matter what gender you are. Hope you find the support you're looking for!

Answer 6

I am a single mom and I can honestly say that I have NEVER met a single dad. I don't take any offense to your question it is not sexist at all BUT you need to understand that there just aren't as many single dads as there are single moms.

Answer 7

Why don't you make up your own group. Put up on notice boards, you might be surprised how many single dads are out there. Meet at a park or something.

Answer 8

Because there are a whole lot more single moms than their are single dads, the need for services for single mothers is far greater.

Answer 9

single mothers are more open and supportive of one another which is a benefit of the feminine gender. Men find it harder to be this way. If you can't find places to go where you live then you could place and advert in a local newspaper to start a group. You could be pleasantly surprised by the responses.

Answer 10

I dont know of any but my brother raised three boys on his own and I admire any man that will do this. So many dont want to have any part of raising the kids. WTG. You deserve a pat on the back and a fantastic fathers day gift. Maybe try the local McDonalds and watch for other dads there with their kids. Try talking to them and see if they have any resources to help you.