i tell her it is to early but she disagrees
2006-11-28 11:47:08 · 32 answers · asked by bigprimo3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
lol.. dont worry about it dear.. she is just too excited. the wedding day is the most momentous day of any girl's dreams. Its the day she had always dreamt of and probably can't wait for it to come. I think you should find it cute that your gf is overwhelmed with your marriage. lol.. we girls develop a passion for wedding days. so dont give it much thought. ;)
2006-11-28 11:50:08 · answer #1 · answered by sara_s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO WAY!!!!!
My man, I am not sure how much you are paying, but I know my faincee and I are spending WAY to much for a party.
I tell my future wife that she should buy the little things now and catch deals whenever they are there. For example, we caught a sale and saved a few hundred on centerpieces (candles). We also used any gift cards we received and tried to spend a little here and a little there. It saved us a lot of money thus far. Best of all, she is having a lot of fun.
So let her do her thing. As a man, I found my biggest responsibility was to give advice but not get in the way. I picked my battles and was a deciding factor in somethings not the end-all-say-all of ANYTHING! I told her no on some stuff because I wanted to check online and so-on, but she is doing her thing.
I am getting married on May 27, 2007 and so far we have...
Vendors:
Limo
Flowers
DJ / MC
Photo/Video
Hall
Church
Invites
on top of that, we bought...
Unity candles
Her gown / tiara
Centerpieces
Envelope Cube (going to make it but I have the materials)
Table Location Card Holders
The charity portion of the favors (breast cancer bracelts)
there is more but I cannot think right now.
The time FLIES!!! We have been engaged almost 13 months and it seems like yesterday. With less then 6 months, I am growing happier and happier that we started so early. We would have a lot to do and we would be getting fustrated and not be able to enjoy begin engaged.
Seriously, let her have a fun. It is her day and you are the guest of honor. If you get in the way to much you will get univited like I have about 7 times to the reception - LOL!!! Trust me, as time passes and you will appreciate it more. My friends gave me this advice, I am passing it to you.
2006-11-28 12:23:12 · answer #2 · answered by AntDU 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What kind of stuff? Seven months is a reasonable time to start buying some stuff. It can be good to space out the purchasing. Things like the wedding dress are things that she'll probably be looking for something specific and it could take her a while to find one she loves. It could take a while to put together favors and programs so starting now means that you wouldn't have to spend 16hrs straight doing them. I say that taking care of some things now is fine. If it gets to the point that the wedding's still months away and you have all the supplies to throw one in your living room- it's too much. Seven months sounds longer than it is. Congrats on your upcomming marriage!
2006-11-28 14:01:12 · answer #3 · answered by K S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it's nto to early. Think about it this way - you can wait and spend a ton of money just months before the wedding: or you can let her start now and spread out that expense over the next 7 months.
By the way - 7 months is only HALF the time the average bride uses to spend planner her wedding - so techincally, your fiance is already 6-8 months behind, lol.
2006-11-28 14:39:00 · answer #4 · answered by Chrys 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What kind of stuff does she want to buy?
Since your wedding is July 4th, you have approximately 7 months left and at the very least, her dress had better be ordered. Your tuxes, assuming you're renting here, need to be ordered within the next 3 months and anyone else in the bridal party need to have their dresses picked out within the same time frame.
As for the accessories (gift book, guest favours, etc.), by buying them now, you have time to get them ready and delivered. It is definitely not too early to be buying things but it does depend on what she is wanting to buy. Here's a link to a timetable that might help you out in understanding it a bit:
http://www.theknot.com/ch_article.html?Object=A40322172536&keywordID=156&keywordType=2&parentID=527
2006-11-28 15:38:10 · answer #5 · answered by Patricia D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congrats on the planning for the wedding. My fiance and I are getting married July 1st of 2007. I already bought his ring, got the photographer, reception hall, chapel, invitations and dress. Its better to plan ahead then stress about it last minute. Plus us girls just get excited about it. Also a plus about starting early is less chances of things getting messed up and more chances you (well more she) will have it all the ways she wants! Congrats again and good luck!!
2006-11-29 15:27:52 · answer #6 · answered by Noella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not to early. If you're going to have any type of wedding other than a civil ceremony she needs to start planning now for a summer wedding, otherwise you may find your self all dressed up and no wedding to go to because recptions have to be booked well in advance, flowers have to be ordered in advance. Photographers have to be booked in advance, Caterers have to be booked, the place where you have your ceremony has to be booked months in advance, even the person who will officiate (preform the ceremony) has to be booked well in advance. The reason she needs to start now is that you're not the only couple getting married at that time and if you want to be sure you have everything ready to go on your wedding it has to be taken care of now because last minute won't even get you a reception at McDonald's
2006-11-28 11:52:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not too early. Many excited soon-to-be brides start planning their weddings a year in advance. If you find a good buy on something for the wedding, I don't think 8 months is too early. Congrats!
2006-11-28 16:08:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am getting married 09/29/07 and I am shopping around. The only thing I bought was the photographer, but I have all the ideas I want and need, so I am printing them out and will be ordering after the first of the year! That way I am not running around with my head cut off trying to get it all under control. The sooner I have it, the sooner I am stress free! Just let her to what she needs to do, but be there to offer advice and have hands on with her and she will appreciate you that much more! Good luck, sounds like we both need it!!!
2006-11-28 12:42:51 · answer #9 · answered by Peek A Boo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The wedding actually isn't that far away. Its ok that she is buying stuff now, as the date approaches, often people are happy that they got things together earlier because it takes a lot of the stress out of the things that have to be done immediately before the wedding.
2006-11-28 13:52:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, the more you can buy now, the less you will have to worry about closer to the wedding. Months before the wedding will be stressful enough... no need worring about the small stuff if you dont have to. I started buying 10- 11 months before my wedding and it worked out great.
2006-11-29 03:02:58 · answer #11 · answered by Kristi K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋