me and my b/f want to slow down in our relationship physically becuz weve done evrything except for sex and we both agreed that wed slow down but since we dont do anything for like 2 weeks we want to...weve been going out since oct 1 of last year...how do we just not do stuff? how do we control ourselves?...its so hard!! help!!
2006-11-28 11:42:18 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Good for you.........congratulations!!! Not many couples can say they do this!!.......Self control when you love someone is hard I'm sure.....I guess you guys are going to have to take up some Hobie's together, or play sports, or go out doors......get some fresh air...and cool things off until you are OK........
IF your really committed to save it for Marriage, or for the right person.....you'll do what ever it takes!!
I hope you make it!!.......Good Luck to you both!!
2006-11-28 11:50:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard. But, you are doing the right thing. Try spending more time in public, around other people and places where you can't do those things and know that it is ok to want to but not right to act on it right now. Do other things that will bring you closer in a friendship way, not sexually. That's really getting to know each other. There is nothing so bad about touching, just not going all the way,as we used to call it, that's what you don't need to do at such a young age. I have faith in you and you should have faith in yourselves and trust each other. Believe that you can do it and you will. Stay strong. It will be worth it. Good luck.
2006-11-28 11:49:35 · answer #2 · answered by MISS-MARY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone in this World is controlling the physical needs and you should be able to do it.
However if you are looking for 'excuse' and hopping someone in this way encourage you to do wrong. Then, no one can stop you, because you like many other would find some reasons to breach the ethics.
The best you can do now is to reduce any kind of touching, and wear a proper dress.
2006-11-28 11:49:56 · answer #3 · answered by Iranian Amigo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, it will be talked about at the starting up. although, if a guy with an really good personality has a minor flaw like this, it is going to likely be neglected. everyone has flaws, although the further concious you're about it, the further introverted you'll develop into. in case you agree for this as element of you, it gained't make you experience so uneasy. each and every from time to time the problematical section is purely accepting it your self. And in case you do, others will too.
2016-11-29 21:57:40 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of situations that will lead to that- Don't spend time alone in the dark!!!!!!! If you want to keep a good relationship do not cross that line until after marriage. It will be the best decision you ever made!!!!!!
2006-11-28 11:45:32 · answer #5 · answered by shannyutz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to public places where you would not have a choise but to control yourself. i you are old enough. Go to a really nice restuaraunt, or bowling or something. I dont know, You'll think of something.
2006-11-28 11:49:22 · answer #6 · answered by Via 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is up to u, think of the results, the sooner u get involved in sexy relation, the sooner this relation gets closer. so, each one should say to the other to slow down. do ur efforts. things do not come like that.
2006-11-28 11:48:14 · answer #7 · answered by gentle whisper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spend your time together practicing activites like swimming, dancing, skating, golfing, go to the movies, friends, etc. dont spend a lot of time alone. this will definitely lead to stuff.
2006-11-28 11:46:04 · answer #8 · answered by sara_s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go out to public places where you can have fun. You'll keep yourself and your boyfriend busy and you're in a public place so you can't do anything drastic.
2006-11-28 11:45:46 · answer #9 · answered by talk_to_the_hand!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are u? If you are ready, you are ready.
2006-11-28 11:44:28 · answer #10 · answered by sandy02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋