well i told my guy that i needed a time out from our relationship i needed time to think. cause i felt like he didnt care about me as he use to. he will always leave me by myself and go play with his friends. i've told him not to do that but he wont listen so when i told him i needed a time out. he said ok and went on and played with his friends. but later in the day when it was after class. and his friends werent around he tried talking to me but i ignored him, because it gets me mad that sometimes he want to talk and sometimes he doesnt so i dont know what to do please help
2006-11-28 11:41:44 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are one smart cookie my dear! You have learned the first lesson of love. A guy who won't commit to a relationship, just isn't that into it. If you don't mind being last on his list of things to do, then you could have stayed. You deserve much better and as you noted, he only had time to talk to you when none of his friends were there to distract him. Your rating is lower than his friends, and will be until he grows up. A guy who really likes you will move heaven and earth to be standing there to SEE you when you are available, not out playing with his friends while you sit and wait. A girl should always have something to do, so that you don't sit by the phone waiting for HIM to call. Don;t worry, if he likes you and REALLY likes you, he will call again! If he wants to see you on Saturday, he will call by Wednesday, if not, you should be busy for Saturday, even if its going to the mall with your little brother. Doesn't matter! GO to the mall! Anything else, he is just passing time with you till THE ONE comes along that will make his tongue hang out. And then you will be finito anyways. So smart girl that you are, you saw this and set the guy to the curb. Leave him there till he is either ready to make you a priority or you find someone else. This one is not for you! Good luck and I know you will find someone WAY better to treat you right! But get busy, cause moping won't make it better!
2006-11-28 11:49:30 · answer #1 · answered by Tippy's Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing is chick, when you date a guy, you gotta remember that sometimes they need their own space, with their own gender to do "guy things." Just like girls sometimes only wanna socialize with girls. We don't want our guys hanging around ALL the time right? He may have been smothered by your clinginess and neediness. Just give him some space and he'll long for you more when you are not around. If he's doing that ALL the time, then that's a different issue. That means he's lost interest in you and doesn't care whether you're around or not.
2006-11-28 11:46:50 · answer #2 · answered by aslgirl143 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you always want to compete with his friends move on. Its also a bit unrealistic to expect a guy (I'm guessing in high school) to only want to be with a girlfriend esp if its a likeable guy with FRIENDS. It shouldn't even be necessary for a kid in school to drop his (or her )friends for a relationship. This is not marriage and even married couples have friends for even marriagea is not exclude everyone else -that is not even healthy. Sounds like you are too Needy,too Clingy and feel he should spend ALL of his time with you and have no friends'activities outside of class. Stop strangling the guy for all you're doing is making staying with you unpleasant esp if you nag him about his friends. If you want a guy to have no activities besides you than he obviously is not it and why would you want to take life away like that-having friends esp in high school is HEALTHY-you need to find someone else that has no friends,is a social outcast and will be just as clingy as you.
2006-11-28 11:54:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should get your boyfriend alone and thoroughly talk to him about it. Tell him how it makes you feel when he does this. If he changes what he's doing and wants to make you happy no matter what, keep him. If he says he will and then doesn't, let him go. He doesn't really care for you if he isn't taking your needs into consideration and trying to please you. You Can find someone better that will give a damn about you. Someone that deserves you.
2006-11-28 11:46:16 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Quentin's Mommy♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you both need to grow up. When emotions are involved people say and do the wrong things. Relationships are not easy. Why can't he go play with his friends. go play with your friends. Don't respond negatively. That is probably why he would rather be with his friends. Have fun with him and his friends.
2006-11-28 11:48:41 · answer #5 · answered by Dhaircutta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like a convenience relationship..only when its convenient to him that is...let him go.. you deserve better
2006-11-28 11:43:49 · answer #6 · answered by ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he usually ignores u then i suggest u dump him
2006-11-28 11:45:38 · answer #7 · answered by lol 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop trying to please him. it Appears his friends and being with them are more important than doing something with or being with you
2006-11-28 11:44:11 · answer #8 · answered by apostle1938 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let it go if it comes back its yours
2006-11-28 11:44:57 · answer #9 · answered by clarence w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are being too needy, you'll drive him away
2006-11-28 11:44:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋