My girlfriend is fairly unfit and has gained some weight recently. I'm trying to find a way to encourage her to take more exercise without being tactless.
2006-11-28 11:13:07 · 16 answers · asked by iMacThere4iAm 3 in Health ➔ Diet & Fitness
You could go hiking together, take up a new sport together (one that you're more-or-less on equal footing with), or just take walks. Whatever you do, do not let her think for one minute that you don't accept her as she is or that you're trying to change her. That will be the kiss of death to your relationship. Believe me, she knows she has gained weight. Don't do something "subtle" like buying her a bicycle or giving her a gym membership. That is NOT the way to motivate someone.
2006-11-28 11:23:31 · answer #1 · answered by clarity 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can take an example from my husband!! He is currently on a huge health kick which forces me to eat/shop healthy. He also works out at least once a day and encourages me to join him... we go jogging, take the dogs for a LONG walk, and lift wieghts together. I realize that I have gained weight recently, but his motivation to lose HIS weight gain really inspires me. Plus, it is an excellent way to spend a couple of hours a day together, doing something active, and really improving your relationship!!!
2006-11-28 11:21:49 · answer #2 · answered by Goose&Tonic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dancing is a great way to burn calories and shape up.
Do fun activities with her.
If you tear her down and make her feel inferior, it will backfire on you. This is no way to encourage her to treat herself well. Let her know she is worth the best and she will be more likely to act like it and take good care of herself. DO NOT say stuff like "You'd be sooo hot IF ONLY blah blah blah..." BAD idea. Very bad idea. Trust me.
Just play more... wrestle, run through the park, whatever is your style. Have fun... lots of it.
Make good food choices when you eat together. Do not make a big deal of it, just quietly do it in a way that does not scream, "We're eating healthy!!" Be subtle.
2006-11-28 11:44:16 · answer #3 · answered by j s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might want to plan activities w/ her that require being active such as going to the beach or hiking. You don't want to make it seem as if you care only about what she looks like. I know you only want what's best for her, but she has to decide for herself if she wants to change. Losing weight and being fit is not easy and nothing comes close to self motivation.
Women are complicated. Maybe there is a reason she is gaining weight (stress, low self esteem, etc).
2006-11-28 11:35:09 · answer #4 · answered by xoxmissjxox 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, if she feels comfortable with herself, you shouldn't be trying to make her exercise. But if you feel she is really unhealthy, try mentioning exercise to her in a subtle kind of way, like ask her if she wants to go for a walk around the block, or join a gym. Whatever you suggest, you should be involved with it so she doesn't feel bad about herself. With your support, I'm sure she will be more willing.
2006-11-28 11:17:09 · answer #5 · answered by Danielle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way is to suggest taking romantic walks together or activities together that will help her lose the weight without hurting her feelings coming from someone who has been there i lost the weight and the date so definately watch what you say she is probably pretty hard on herself without any further insults
2006-11-28 11:19:05 · answer #6 · answered by linda y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plan things to do together that incorporate activity, Hikes, bike rides. skiing cross county or downhill. She might decide its fun and try to get into better shape
2006-11-28 11:25:24 · answer #7 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do active things with her. Make it more fun than exercise.
2006-11-28 11:15:31 · answer #8 · answered by honey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join a health club together and work out and eat healthy TOGETHER. That is what my husband and I do and we are a hot hot hot couple!
2016-05-22 23:34:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way is to set an example yourself.
2006-11-28 11:15:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋