i have been going to my church for 8 years and its a small church. i dont want to stop going because i have been for so long. i dont feel any growth and the pastor is very opinionated and hypocratical. he puts it in his messaged and is hard. a few menbers have leftt the church because of him. "what to do?"
2006-11-28 11:11:54 · 25 answers · asked by melangelxoxo 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
find out where they went and go with them.
2006-11-28 11:14:20 · answer #1 · answered by Hannah's Grandpa 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Ask him how long he will be a pastor there before you make a decision. He might take the hint that you do not like him or he might not and then again he might not care either way but, you can ask and then decide if you want to try to stick it out until he leaves, What do the others that have stayed think of him? Maybe you can get together like minded people and approach him a little easier than just one person. I know it is very distracting when someone is just a real pill put in the position of authority. It gets in the way of everything that is involved with the Church. Very hard position. I will pray for you.
2006-11-28 12:05:18 · answer #2 · answered by Midge 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do want encourage you to leave somewhere where you want to stay, but you need to ask yourself why you want to stay. The fact that you have been going for so long...so it is a comfortable place for you to be. You are comfortable with the people there and have alot of friends there. But you did note that you are not feeling any spiritual growth....so what to do. Do you feel that if you did not go to church that you would take the time on your own to pray or meditate or do what you need to do to make your own spirituality. if you think that you can try it. Try it any way. You can always go back if you don't go for a few weeks. Are the things that you are going to loose by going more important that what you will gain within yourself by leaving? best wishes.
2006-11-28 11:20:41 · answer #3 · answered by singitoutloudandclear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out WHY you don't like your pastor. A lot of people just don't like God and take it out on the pastor.
At the same time, accept the fact that pastors are human too and the only thing they have going for them is the word of God. If he is not teaching the gospel as well as the Law of God....then you might want to do a little church shopping.
2006-11-28 11:50:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a new church that is true to the word and has a love for people just like we are told to do. Focus on what Christians do best, homeless shelters ,food banks, third world medical aid, addiction recovery, care of the elderly, convict / prisoner reform, and raiseing loving children
Remember harsh , angry, hateful, hypocritical and Christian are terms that should never go together.
2006-11-28 11:22:24 · answer #5 · answered by David 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray for him! It's amazing what God can do when we bring others before the Throne of Grace. Also, if you truly want to stay, pray for patience and love; though it's also important to pray for wisdom, since there may come a point where God will show you that it IS time to leave, because it may not be His will for you to remain in a church where the pastor may be in rebellion against Him.
2006-11-28 11:20:23 · answer #6 · answered by JD 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't like the pastor, maybe you can talk to him about the things that bothers you. If you don't want to well I think you might just have to find another church. because you or no one else can change a person for what he is.
2006-11-28 11:16:00 · answer #7 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray first. About the situation, for your pastor, yourself and the rest of the congregation.
Remeber why you're going to church though and the fact we don't go because of who is there.
2006-11-28 11:22:11 · answer #8 · answered by Shawn C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start visiting other Church's services to find a new Church home.
2006-11-28 11:13:30 · answer #9 · answered by <><><> 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is important, even vital to your Christian growth that you be in a nurturing place, spiritually. You should look into other churches in your area that believe as you do, where you would feel more comfortable. As long as they are preaching from the Bible, you shouldn't have anything to worry about.
2006-11-28 11:20:55 · answer #10 · answered by lookn2cjc 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgive my bluntness, but are you going to church to worship and learn about God, or are you going as a social club? If you are going to church as a social club, then just ignore your pastor's hypocrisy and hang out with your friends. If you are going to church to grow in your relationship with God, I would suggest either changing churches or going to a board member/elder and talking to them to see if someone can rein him in and bring him back in line. Pastorship does not equal being untouchable.
2006-11-28 11:20:40 · answer #11 · answered by Guvo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋