breastfeeding and my in-laws!?

Question

my husbands grandpa is dying so im trying to be nice to my in-laws till this all passes.we dont get along to well but im trying to be civil. anyways, we were at the hospital (me,my husband,his mom, his sister,her hubby and their 3 kids.). i was sitting in the waiting room breastfeeding my 3 month old daughter. i was fully covered. my shirt was covering everything but my babys eyes and nose. well my sister and mother in law come barging in and my sister in law starts bitching at me! she said that i need to put a blanket over what i was doing! i said my shirt was covering everything up! she said that it didnt matter i needed to cover more she had children so i needed to do a better job of hideing it! i said whatever and ignored her. this really pissed me off. SO WHAT ARE YOUR THOUGHTS ON THIS AND BREASTFEEDING?? i told my hubby and he said ok to her no longer being aloud around me and my child or allowing her in our home. :)

my baby wont eat when a blanket is covering her. she fusses and throws a fit. so i cover everything but her nose and eyes with my shirt.

Answer 1

My baby wouldn't eat with a blanket covering him either.. not that I could blame him. Next time you come up on these un-natural, selfish B*s while they're eating have a fit, tell them it gorsses you out to see theme ating and toss a blanket over their head! Tell them : If they're cool with it, you'll consider nearly suffocating the baby when she eats too. Ridiculous.

Answer 2

I think that you have a right to breastfeed where you want. If you feel you are covered then that is all that matters.

In general, people are offended by different things. Especially when dealing with illness and death people tend to be oversensitive.

Two wrongs don't always make a right. I try to live by the quote that says something like, "Be Kind. Everyone is fighting a battle." You may not know the battle others are dealing with and can only control yourself and your own words and your own lifestyle.

Do you really think that not allowing them near you or your child or in your home is the solution? You never know when you will need the person you aren't forgiving.

Take Care.

Answer 3

This is difficult as they are going through a stressful time and are probably looking for someway to vent their feelings. In all honesty probably any little thing would set me off at a time like that, and I did breastfeed and plan to on my next one so I understand you there. But also having lost a grandfather I understand that grief as well. FOR THE TIME BEING... I would just say "sure, but you don't have to belittle or yell at me." And throw a blanket on you, it doesn't hurt you and she can't complain. Better yet I had one of those warm cozy poncho's that I used to wear alot when I was preggers I just kept wearing it while breastfeeding cause I had a wiggler. It's winter and they look cute. Just appease them, it's rough loosing someone. However if she still acts like this to you after she is done grieving, confront her on it. No need for family to get away with being rude!

Answer 4

If you feel comfortable breastfeeding the way you do the Kudos to you. Its a natural thing and her saying that there should be a blanket or whatever and making a big issue of it is her problem. Breastfeed for as long as you can ... its benifical to both you and the baby. As for the sister in law ..... she needs an attitude check and some curtosy lessons.

Answer 5

breasts have become a sexual object some people do not like to see them any other way. breasts are every where in newspapers, tv and film so by now you would think people were used to it

your right you have to feed your child and you know whats best my advice to people is if you dont like something just look away.

im determined to brestfeed when my baby is born (due 07 07 07) and im not going to let people stop me if my child is hungry.

the only way to sort this issue for all women is to make a point of breastfeeding in public. the more its done the more normal it becomes ( even though its the most natural thing)

Answer 6

What is her problem? Breastfeeding in public is up to each individual mother. If the baby's hungry, and you don't feed with a bottle, you ain't gonna let the lil girl starve, are you? Then why would anyone have anything against a natural instinct in a hospital?

Your sister in law should get off of her high horse named Expectation and stop thinking that you're gonna listen to her just because her sh** don't stink. Yeah?

Answer 7

most states have laws protecting your right to do this. u might inform your SIL That shes breaking the law by interfering. It sounds to me like your skilled at breastfeeding and know that nothing can be seen. Your SIL has a major problem with public breastfeeding but she can get over it because you are doing what is best for your child.
I didn't have my in laws with a problem with me breastfeeding around them but my MIL kept offering me advice and attempted to move the baby around while she was suckling. LOL
good luck Hun and tell Ur SIL to stuff it and go on about your business

Answer 8

She is way wrong here and i can understand why you want to avoid her and his family!. if u were covered then she should not have said anything!!!! Mabye she is jelous because she does not have a baby or hers are causing troble, she might wish she was still breastfeeding there is nothing wrong with feeding your child, my public libary even lets you do it inside, and wonder land has booths i mean it is not a crime she eats in public why can't your baby??? I guess i could kinda understand because she has kids she might not want them to see if they do they could ask why your baby was doing that and mabye she is not ready to tell her kids that yet. You have got to be a little forgiving i mean her grandpa is dieing but that is no excuse for being rude. she needs to be way more kind and understaning and stop being a "*****=)

Answer 9

I know all about this situation. My MOL cannot stand me and when we werer over for thanksgiving I went in myhusband old bedroom to feed my daughter and I could hear her from the living room ranting about how it was disgraceful that I was feeding my baby out in the open like that and how I should be ashamed of my self and I should be more respectful of her home. All you can do is smile and ignore it because it isnt about the breastfeeding really its just about how awful of a person they are .

Answer 10

breast feeding is a natural thing for women................... obviously she is embarrassed of God's way of feeding our children. She must see the breast as a sexual part of the body and doesnt want to answer the questions that her own children may have when they ask her about it. She wouldnt deprive her child of a bottle if they were hungry, would she? So whyshould you deprive yours of the REAL THING???? I would in no way HIDE what you are doing. As long as your nipple was covered thats all that matters. I would just ignore her and let her know that you are in a public place and if she doesnt like what you are doing then she needs to leave and take her children with her.