I have read the books. I am very patient and offer other solutions to him. I don't spank. I use time out, even out in public. I talk, I listen, I hug, I carry him kicking and screaming. I bribe him with candy, I am sweet, I am stern. I have come to the end of the rope with solutions. I have used distractions, ultimatums, toys, talking sense, asking questions to him.
I am pregnant and due in May and am concerned that with a newborn and taking my toddler out it maybe a big problem. When we are at the park, the gym or anywhere else for that matter when its time to go, its a huge fight. I mean huge. He runs away and I end up having to restrain him and carry him off. Any suggestions?
2006-11-28
11:04:52
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Thetruthbetold
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Pregnancy & Parenting
➔ Toddler & Preschooler
To answer the spanking comment, you know people out in public don't mind their business and I am afraid of being reported for disciplining my kid. It happens, the mom who spanks her kid and gets arrested. All to often unfortunately.
2006-11-28
11:10:57 ·
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You are all right, i need to put the smack down. He is 3 feet tall and trying to run my life. That is not gonna last!
2006-11-28
11:15:04 ·
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A thump on the bottom is what is needed. You do that once and he'll cry but not from pain but from anger. The candy needs to be a reward once home not a bribe out in public. Just do not give him candy every time he behaves because that turns into a bribe too.
This age is called Terrible Two for a reason. He may not really understand that a baby is on the way even if he was told that Mommy is having a baby. For your own sanity you want to get this taken care of now before the baby arrives. Do not worry about the but-in-skis. As long as you get him on the bottom you will both be fine. Nature put cushion there just for this reason!
Good Luck!
Edit- I would really hesitate to follow one of the ideas to leave him alone until he behaved. I would not want to take a chance that he would become comfortable by himself.
2006-11-28 11:17:50
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answered by jpbofohio 6
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i have four girls ages 16 months to 6years and what i found is that you have to be consistent it might take a little while and a bit of humility on your part but give him advanced warning on when you are leaving like say you have 5 min and its time to go you are going to have to fight a few times but after a while when you tell him that he will know that you are going to take him but what ever you do just stay consistent and don't let it get you down good luck like the others said don't reward him for bad behavior and you don't have to "beat" him I gave 2 spankings in my live and all it did was make the crying a screaming worse
2006-11-28 11:30:23
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answered by soilder6 2
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Hi, I have a 3 year old and a 2 and a half year old one on the way and my patience for them is very limited.My suggestion to you is forget the books and go with your gut feeling.When I take my kids to the store I let them know who is boss and if they behave I'll buy them a surprise.If they don't they won't get anything and when we get home you will be in time out for at least 10 minutes in the corner.Let your child know who you are and don't let him get a way with anything, because he will take advantage of you all the time anytime.
2006-11-28 11:52:18
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answered by Anonymous
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Leave him standing there in the store by himself!!!! Ignore him tell him when he's ready to talk and calm down he can come find you. Don't worry he's gonna scream and run after you or you'll be able to here him. But do not acknowledge bad behavior!!!! Don't reward or bribe him either, stick to the same punishment and technique. He has to learn he will not get away with it. And if he acts up these are the consequences. Good luck 2-4 year olds are tough.
2006-11-28 11:17:02
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answered by lakesham 1
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Too bad you don't spank because a spanking is exactly what he needs.
Look, the way you're dealing with this is lame. He's kicking and screaming so you just sit him down for a time out? He's screaming and throwing a fit and you simply talk to him about it? The kid needs some ACTUAL discipline here.
Right now, he's thinking "I'm gonna kick and scream all I want..it's not like I'm going to actually get in trouble for it!"
If he started throwing a fit and you actually disciplined him, then the next time he thought about throwing a fit he'd think "I'm gonna kick and scream all I want..well..maybe not..last time I did that I got in trouble!"
If you're worried about someone seeing you spank him, then take him somewhere else and do it.
2006-11-28 11:07:16
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answered by CelebrateMeHome 6
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Everytime he misbehaves it's time for punishment. He can be grounded. It's a shame you don't spank. I'm a firm believer in smacking kids once in a while to show them who the boss is. It worked on me. I don't see why it should be any different now.
2006-11-28 11:13:43
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answered by normy in garden city 6
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He has to respect your authority BEFORE you go out in public. Waiting until then to try to control him is too late. Once he has learned that when you say "no" will have definite consequences, he will respond appropriately when you are out in public...but you will have to start in private where you don't have to worry about what someone else thinks or does.
2006-11-28 11:16:31
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answered by kathy_is_a_nurse 7
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hahahahahahaha......omg, this will pass......do eliminate the "time out" though.....when i was a kid the only "time out" that was called was by me when we had had enough of dads belt.....im not suggesting beating your child, although a good swat works wonders...do keep in touch as iam curious as to how this will work out....ccotter67208@yahoo.com
chris
2006-11-28 13:39:02
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answered by Anonymous
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pick him up and cart him out kicking and screaming. tell the lil bugger off good in the car. do NOT bribe. tell him with phrases like you made mommy very sad when you... blah blah.
2006-11-28 11:11:55
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answered by nanabooboo 4
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start spankin him and give him some tough luv he'll thank u 4 it when he's older GOOD LUCK !!!!!!! If that doesnt work get a psychologist. <333
2006-11-28 11:11:45
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answered by Anonymous
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