I been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years now. I met him when I was just 17 years old and he was 20. I moved in with him when I was 18 and being living together since. We were blessed with one child together thats 16 months old. I would like to know how long do you think is too long to wait for marriage?? I really want to get married .. he doesn't :P
He has hard very hard time with women while growing up .. His mother left him and his father when he was just 6 years old for drugs .. His dad then got a bitchy girlfriend that put her kids first and alway left him out .. and then he (my bf) got his first g/f in high school that left him one year after dating
Basically I sticked around this long b/c I love him and I want to change his mind about women .. but honestly I'm getting sick of waiting around for a proposal .. I know the women in his past really twisted his thoughts .. and his mother takes all the blame .. but he said it has nothing to do with them ... HELP :)
2006-11-28 10:32:49 · 7 answers · asked by 05&08 Mommy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Marriage is VERY important to me and I gotta say we do fight alot b/c of it. I just feel so unpretty, undeserving, unloved when he tells me he doesn't want to get married :( We plan on seeing someone to help us with that problem but were on a one month waiting list of that :(
2006-11-28 10:56:17 · update #1
Wait until he grows up and he is ready. I worked with a guy whose girlfriend pressured him so much to pop the question that he actually broke up with her. Just give him some time and try to help him change his views. Things will hopefully work out.
2006-11-28 10:39:23 · answer #1 · answered by Renee W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relying on a at the same time as, occupation/college targets, direction of existence, etc, will impression the right length of time for a idea. if you're waiting and he's not, attempt suggesting shifting in jointly first, if you're smooth with that. also refer to him and spot what his wondering is. perchance he has something he needs to finish in his existence (winding up his masters, beginning a agency, etc.) earlier he will be waiting. once you recognize what it really is you are able to opt for in case you want to attend and help him accomplish his objective or look elsewhere. besides the actuality that you do, not in any respect supply an ultimatum. it is going to in straight forward words backfire. If he doesn't chosen to go away you'll continuously ask your self if he proposed because he had to or because you compelled him to!!!!
2016-10-07 22:31:39 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl give him an ultamatium. You stuck around for five years and had his child. If he doesnt see your worth yet, I bet he will when you leave him. Sometime it takes you leaving a person, for them to see what they had. A real man would want to make a stable home with the mother of his child.
2006-11-28 10:38:56 · answer #3 · answered by They Love ME......... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you really need to be married?? i am and it's just a paper, but we love each other and all that good stuff. it's no different from not being married really. tell him how you feel and accept what he says, he may change, but don't pressure him to.
2006-11-28 10:39:06 · answer #4 · answered by happyday to you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW that is a long time. are you living together??? if you are he alreay has the product he feels he doesnt need the paper.
2006-11-28 10:36:25 · answer #5 · answered by lullaby 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How long? Don't hold your breath, he doesn't want marriage, and you can't make him want it.
2006-11-28 10:54:45 · answer #6 · answered by Samantha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-11-28 10:37:42 · answer #7 · answered by D'oh! 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋