My boyfriend says he is moving out in 30 days but wont give me an exact date he says he is still making a decision. We have been living in silence for a few days now and I dont know if I should keep being quiet and let him make his decision or confront him (which could make things worse) Whats should I do?
2006-11-28 10:28:05 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have to talk to him to find out what made him decide he's going to move out! Don't let him leave without talking about his problem. If he leaves and you never talk about it, then you'll both feel like you never resolved anything.
It's hard to say if it's over, but don't let your last weeks be lived in silence. Get him to tell you what's bothering him. Just prepare yourself in case it's something you definately aren't ready to hear. Hear him out, but make sure you get your say, too. If in the end things don't go your way, pray about it (if that's something you like to do), find someone to talk to, and don't hold in your frustration and feelings.
Remember to wake up with a smile and that, if after your talk you all decide it's time to move on, there's someone out there to love you for who you are and who you're meant to be with.
2006-11-28 10:39:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking with your boyfriend without confronting him. If he wants to move out, then don't try to stop him. If he wants to move and you talk him out of it, i'll always be hanging over your heads. He's going to feel like you stopped him. You cannot put your life on hold waiting for him to make a decision. If he cannot give you and exact date when he'll be moving, then you should give him one. Living in silence and with all that's happening in your relationship means that it's over. Even if he stayed, it'll still be over. Let him go.
2006-11-28 20:29:19 · answer #2 · answered by merry59 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl dont let it bug you if he see that it bugs you hes going to get the best of you trust me.Wright him a letter and tell him how much you love him and everything. Then at the end tell him whatever descion he makes you hope for the best tell him you want the best for him and leave him at that it'll work believe it. IT REALLY WILL I promise.
2006-11-28 18:36:41 · answer #3 · answered by hclover21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is waiting on something, because if he really wanted to go he would have left. Maybe , she should start to prepare from him to leave. Start, casually going out with friends and finding things to do. If, he start asking you what going on. Maybe you can say, I love you, but there is a whole world out there and I not going to sit here a wait. I do have a life, I not telling you to stay or go but if you want to talk I am here but you are not my whole life. Maybe will want to talk then
2006-11-28 18:37:48 · answer #4 · answered by Tia Ann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him not to let the door hit him in the *** on his way out.
2006-11-28 18:31:54 · answer #5 · answered by brooklyn55 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋