My mother treats me horribly and insults me. I can be here in my mansion or move to an apartment withoutluxury

Question

My mother is a sick person who calls me all sorts of names and says I shouldn't have been born, that she hates me, whatever you can say horribly. But I live in a huge house with tennis court,pool, etc.Is it worth giving up my big lifestyle and move to some apartment. Im already 26, but I have all my bills paid by my father who is great, I work and also save my money. I hate to call her my mother. No one in my life has made me so depressed and suicidal. She only cares about herself and compare me to everyones else kids. She calls the police on me already5 times and gone to jail. She has been in mental hospital like 8 times and tried committing sucide as well. She takes antidepressants,but is hypocrital because she drinks and then yells and calls me a drunk and a loser all the time, because I drink to survice and not jump of some building. Please help!!

Answer 1

first you have to ask yourself, what's more important to you. a big house or a felling of selfworth. there's nothing more important then your happiness. at 26 i feel you should already be out on your own. at least your father is on your side. maybe you should ask him to help you while you get on your feet since he supports you now. since you are on the right track at saving your money it shouldn't be easy for you to move out on your own, or you can get a roommate. if you think that there is a possibilty that you and your mom can patch things up by all means do so. as you can see she has problems that are not all her fault. you would really have to understand what her illness is before you can just call her a horrible person. do some research on her illness so you can be better educated on what's going on with your mom. i'm pretty sure deep down inside she loves you. i hope this helps you out some. and good luck.

Answer 2

For your own sanity move out for a while but have you talk to your dad about it and what was his respond....

How do she treat him jus like u????

You have to realised that your mother is mentally ill and most of the things she said is jus to lash out at ppl and u does be there most of the time....

You can have the best house and all the money if you don't have a family to love and cherish you, you worst off than a vagrant.....

Please don't take on what she tells u and do your best to have less contact with her....

Answer 3

My mother was the same way but without the alcohol. She ended up changing the locks on me one evening when I had waitress job that made me come home around 1am. It was a cold January night and I had no where to go...to make a long story short...I never returned.

Answer 4

You need to move out..... If your father fronts your bills then you have nothing to worry about...... Your own health is more important then that, plus she is not going to get any better unless she wants to and people do not change over night.....yor 26 years old you need to be on your own right now and exsperience life.... I was out on my own at 17.... married and with kids..... a job and school.... all you have is a job and daddy to pay the bills.... stop cryin and move out,......

Answer 5

come on, you're 26 you can make it on your own. And maybe be happy! or, if it's really a mansion, it should be big enough that you could avoid her until she gets some help. but really, you should move out, and quit drinking you don't want to end up like your mother!

Answer 6

STOP DRINKING OR YOU WILL END UP LIKE HER FIRST OF ALL. MOVE OUT. TALK TO YOUR FATHER AND TELL HIM YOU ARE EMOTIONALLY UNSTABLE LIVING IN THE HOUSE WITH YOUR LOOPY MOM. IF HE IS DOING SO MUCH FOR YOU NOW, I DON'T SEE HIM NOT IF YOU WERE TO MOVE OUT. I AM SURE HE WANTS OUT TOO. DON'T PUT UP WITH HER. NO AMOUNT OF LUXURY IS WORTH THAT SORT OF CRAP FROM A LOONEY PERSON. (SORRY I KNOW THAT IS YOUR MOM, BUT WHEN YOU SAID THE THING ABOUT HER WISHING YOU WERE NEVER BORN.....WELL, I HAVE OTHER BAD THINGS I COULD SAY ABOUT HER, BUT I WON'T. GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 7

i would move to an apt. another example of no one give a flying f*ck. stick with your father. that someone who cares. i been put down in my young years too. that i wouldn't be able to do anything. I live on my own have a loving husband and 2 kids. but everyone in my family are just ***.

Answer 8

i think that you should move out and go on with your life, you don't have any bills and you have a job. so talk to your dad and tell him why you are making that decision....don't waste your life with your crazy mother..good luck!!!

Answer 9

Heres what i think...just go somewhere else and don't tell her...just live and be happy..im sure you can do it..

Answer 10

She is a nut, dont pay attention.