Asalama Aliakum. Dearest, Brothers, Sisters & Elders.....And All those who may read this question....
Islamically what criteria does caste, communities have to do with religion, as a problem for her parents is that we are from different communities, n they have refused to even meet me, n she has been told its a NO? what advice apart from istakhara which i am in the process of doing should i do, oh n i ave been patient! Inshallah All Answers will be appreciated and may allah reward you all for helping a fellow muslim brother with his burdens.
2006-11-28 10:21:25 · 5 answers · asked by Mohamed S101 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I find myself in the same position.
Almost 2 years ago a man asked for my hand in marriage. I was excited and interested. I brought up the subject with my brother-who is my guardian- I didn't think that 2 years on I would still be waiting.
What's the problem? Well the man is of a different nationality (though he is muslim) and since I'm Saudi i need government permission.
These last two years have been some of the hardest in my life. Though my family didn't expressly say no, they did take their own sweet time. They couldn't stop talking about divorce and all horrible things. They didn't like that the guy was from a different nationality. So for 2 years the guy's family and I have been trying to get my family to open up to the idea and really get to know the guy.
Trust me when i say that i've been there. I prayed and i prayed and i prayed and i prayed-till sometimes i didn't think i could anymore. But then what else could i do? I screamed and cried and called injustice but no one heard me.
Thank God! He heard me. Though things have moved so slowly, things are beginning to happen. My brothers have met the guy and sort of like him. then in May my brother gave his approal (almost 4 months after I said yes!!!!!!!!!!!) and now we're just waiting for government approval.
So, brother, don't give up hope. Trust in God and don't stop asking of HIM. He will answer.
Try and do everything according to the sunnah and halal.
I found it very comforting to recite the istikharah prayer over and over. It calmed me down.
Inshallah God will answer your prayer. Soon.
2006-11-28 10:34:11 · answer #1 · answered by huda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Al-salaamu alaikum! Caste is from way of existence and forbidden in Islam. In Islam all are equivalent and condemning your brother and sister because of their relations economic stature amd history is condemning your self to hellfire. despite the indisputable fact that incorrect your households are, you are able to not make 2 wrongs right into a top and marry the girl besides at the same time as both households are in conflict of words. you may want to believe in Allah wa tallah to by some ability deliver a answer via someone or way with the intention to end the conflict and stay away from better sins. i'm maximum sorry for you and the more youthful woman and could make dua for you.
2016-10-07 22:30:03 · answer #2 · answered by coyne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
has it got something to do with money or job, I know sometimes even when its the same religion parents have these thoughts on what the guy or girl should be doing in life, what they earn, which part of town they live in, how well respected they are in the community, or did they have someone else in mind to marry your girlfriend with from the start. Try getting a elder from your family to talk with her side sometimes this can help and they can see that you are good for their daughter, but remember some parents are just very controlling and old fashioned it may be hard for them to accept that their daughter is making her own decisions.
I feel bad for you, good luck.
2006-11-28 10:29:35 · answer #3 · answered by jazzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear this because caste and different cultures should not be an issue as we are all Muslims.This is more of a personal issue with her parents.I pray that your Istakhara guides you and things work out for you.
2006-11-28 10:27:28 · answer #4 · answered by Sherzade 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That sounds unjust. They wouldn't even meet you?
I hope that they reconsider.
I hope that the parents themselves perform the istakhara. it sounds like they could use a little guidance as well.
Good luck! May it go easily for you.
2006-11-28 10:41:19 · answer #5 · answered by saopaco 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋