I just got home. Very angry. Me and my boyfriend had arranged to meet tonight at 8 together with another firend of mine to check out some different pubs for a party. He told me at ten to 8 that he'd meet us later - around 8.30 because he was having drinks with some company. I was slightly annoyed because we'd planned this for weeks, but anyway... I met my friend - but after an hour he had to go back to work, so I was left on my own trailing the streets for a decent place for the party... - and no word from my boyfriend. In the end I go home - I phone him - at 11!!! and he's like - oh hei - what's up? I'm (obviously) quite angry inside, but I never seem to really get angry at him - just grumpy. All i can hear on the other end of the phone is girls giggling, which further pisses me off (obviously!)
It is not the first time he just completely 'forgets' to tell me if his plans have changed - I don't want to be a crontrolling ***** - but I just think it is SO inconsiderate! what to do???
2006-11-28 10:13:28 · 8 answers · asked by heldigfis 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell him your true feelings, i know how you feel, but he hurt you and he needs to know what he has done, he thinks that its ok to be inconsiderate towards you because you never do nothing about it. tell him what you feel would not make you a controlling ***** its just letting him know not to mess up again. this happen to me, trust me sayin nothing or do nothin aint gan change things
2006-11-28 10:25:03 · answer #1 · answered by Kay 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
its amazing how things changed when you're with him but when you guys started dating the first time, everything is on cloud 9. The answer to this question is so easy. Lack of communication. Im sure he doesnt even know why you're grumpy. Obviously because you didnt tell him. Most guys think girls are PMSing most of the time. We cannot read your minds. We;re not magicians or psychic. Just tell him why you feel the way you feel and tell him what he did to make you feel that way. It's so freakin easy and simple. If I was your bf, i would asked you what's wrong and hopefully you will tell me what's wrong and we can work things out. Stupid things like this can create a bad ending relationship. A breakup or even heartbroken.
2006-11-28 18:22:41 · answer #2 · answered by epicwolf 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You had something planned, and although plans do change, he should have called. It was very inconsiderate of him, which obviously shows that he doesn't care about your feelings. ( since this wasn't the first time)
Have you been with him long? If he is able to be replaced I would suggest finding someone who will appreciate you, and your feelings.
He needs to be told what he is doing is wrong, and if he can't mend his ways, then, and only then, do the before mentioned.
Good luck, and I hope that you can fix this, I hate to see relationships break up.
But know that if this is something he is doing now, he probably will continue this behavior. You need to decide what is best for you.
2006-11-28 18:22:32 · answer #3 · answered by lil' angel 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are other fish in the pond and it sounds like to me that if you want a relationship with some one that really cares for you then it's time to go fishing ,,,, Or would you rather be a part of his harem ,,,, It's up to you ,,,, A relationship should be fun and exciting with no problems ,,,, I don't think you'd be out anything in telling him that if he's more interested in being with girls that giggle then have at it ,,,, Don't present yourself to him so he can just use you ,,,, Sounds to me like that's what he's doing ,,,, Especially if you've been intimate with him ,,,, The choice is yours ,,,,,
2006-11-28 21:44:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. I think what he does what completly wrong? I would try to talk to him though. Let him know how you feel and how it upset you. But, remember when its his turn to talk, listen to him with an open mind, even though you are upset. Maybe, the is a logic reason for everything, but, if not, you have a decision to make.
2006-11-28 18:21:40 · answer #5 · answered by shy one 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first, u should ask you b/f whats up? why has he been 'all of a sudden' changing plans on you. dont come on to strong, or he may begin to believe what his buddies think, that ur a controlling overprotective bossy bi*ch. dont say things like. you better be home by 12, bcuz he just slip farther away
2006-11-28 18:17:55 · answer #6 · answered by goodsie06 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ughhhhhh ...... zzzzzzzz ...... boring .. just take ur anger anywhere else and have a good-night sleep
2006-11-28 18:31:33 · answer #7 · answered by som3a_13 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ.....
2006-11-28 18:15:53 · answer #8 · answered by D'oh! 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋